How long to do you go not knowing your hs senior's whereabouts?

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Anonymous wrote:Seriously, where are they going in the pandemic? It is usually school, home, fast food place to pick up lunch, meeting BF/GF and shooting hoops with some friends. We all have location sharing so all of us know where we all are at any given moment.

We all are living in the same house. I can imagine if the children are living in split household that parents won't know where they are.

Right now...they are just working on college apps and school. Life is pretty grim right now. So, yes, next room, lights on, finger flying on the keyboard.

Pssst…kids this age are vaccinated and back to pretty much regular life.

This. PP is living under a rock.

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I don’t think it’s a partner thing, I think it’s common decency to let anyone who loves you know what you’re up to so they aren’t worried.

I’m 35 and when I travel to stay with my parents I’ll still tell them where I’m going and who I’m seeing, and let them know if plans change in a meaningful way (not “we are going to Applebee’s, not Olive Garden”, but “hey, we decided to go out to eat and see a movie instead of stay home, I won’t be home until late.” Or “hey, I won’t be accessible for a while, we decided to go hiking on xyz trail, I’ll let you know when we are back at the car.” That’s just common courtesy—and I haven’t been dependent upon them in any way for 15 years!

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Anonymous wrote:We got rid of Life 360 when he turned 17. I can find him via Find My Iphone if I REALLY need to by logging into his account.

But in terms of normal communication (text and calls) how long do you go without checking in or not knowing where they are? Boy or girl? (I do think there is a difference here.)

I don't have a senior right now, but I think my answer to this is 0 minutes as far as general whereabouts.

Even in the age before cell phones I was accountable for my whereabouts. I couldn't just leave the house and go no contact for several hours with no explanation. Did that mean my parents knew exactly where I was every moment? No. And I certainly got up to some stupid $H!t, but I definitely had to let them know if, say, I was going to a friend's house after the HS football game, or if a bunch of us were going out after our shift at work. I was expected to be home by curfew or communicate what was going on if not. (But I did sneak out all the time - haha!)

I fully intend for the same standard for my kids. But they ain't never gonna be able to sneak out of this house.

And how will you prevent that?

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I don't understand why it's courteous to tell people your plans.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why it's courteous to tell people your plans.

I think it’s more about dinner and waiting up. If I’m going out with a friend, I certainly don’t tell DH what we are doing nor does he care. But I’ll let him know if we are going to be really late or to know I won’t be home for dinner. I expect the same from our teen. Let me know if you are eating out so we don’t wait or if you plan on coming home sometime between 11 and midnight. Just so we have a general idea and are not worried if we think you are joining us for dinner and never show up.

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If you need Life 360, or anything like it - you are parenting wrong.

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Do your seniors have a curfew?

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Anonymous wrote:Do your seniors have a curfew?

Not really.

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I expect a general update on plans - if she will be home for dinner, if she is sleeping over at a friend's house etc. Daughter stayed over at a friend's house last night - I texted her this morning asking her what her plans were for the day for my own planning purposes. She is good about responding.

I expect the same from college student when he is home - at school, I do ask that he let us know if he leaving college town for the weekend or something like that just for safety reasons -he went on a hiking trip this weekend, and I asked him to let me know when he was back in college town.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why it's courteous to tell people your plans.

Because when you care about people, if they don’t show up when they say they will, you want to be sure they are ok. Or if there was some kind of emergency, as you are people who care about each other, you’d have a rough idea where the person might be or how to locate them.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why it's courteous to tell people your plans.

Because when you care about people, if they don’t show up when they say they will, you want to be sure they are ok. Or if there was some kind of emergency, as you are people who care about each other, you’d have a rough idea where the person might be or how to locate them.

And also the meal planning thing. I will include you in making dinner if you’re going to be home.

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Anonymous wrote:Why would you get rid of the tracking?

He despised it and honestly I didn’t love it either. I mainly got it to use that first year that he was driving.

pretty foolish to get rid of it. Of course he hated it. He also probably hated cleaning, homework, eating veggies.

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I really see this as a safety issue. If I go running I tell someone (DH or DD) where I'm going. This way if I don't return they have an idea of where to look. If I'm headed out shopping I'll tell them I'm headed to the mall or wherever I'm headed. If I leave to run a 5 min errand and am not home in 3 hours I'd like them to be able to start looking for me rather than just assuming I'm okay. I expect the same from DD and DH. Perhaps I"m just paranoid, but that is what our family does.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why it's courteous to tell people your plans.

Because when you care about people, if they don’t show up when they say they will, you want to be sure they are ok. Or if there was some kind of emergency, as you are people who care about each other, you’d have a rough idea where the person might be or how to locate them.

I don't think this has anything to do with caring about people