How long to do you go not knowing your hs senior's whereabouts?

[Anonymous]

We got rid of Life 360 when he turned 17. I can find him via Find My Iphone if I REALLY need to by logging into his account.

But in terms of normal communication (text and calls) how long do you go without checking in or not knowing where they are? Boy or girl? (I do think there is a difference here.)

[Anonymous]

Probably no more than 12 hours.

[Anonymous]

Why would you get rid of the tracking?

[Anonymous]

Depends on the circumstances. If they miss curfew or don’t text back within a few hours.

[Anonymous]

Family living under the same roof, as a courtesy you let people know what you’re doing and when you plan to be home. I do this with my spouse. Why wouldn’t I with my child?

I’m not talking every minute blow by blow. But…Sam and I are going over to Tom’s house to shoot hoops and then grab dinner. I’ll be home by 10.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would you get rid of the tracking?

He despised it and honestly I didn’t love it either. I mainly got it to use that first year that he was driving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Family living under the same roof, as a courtesy you let people know what you’re doing and when you plan to be home. I do this with my spouse. Why wouldn’t I with my child?

I’m not talking every minute blow by blow. But…Sam and I are going over to Tom’s house to shoot hoops and then grab dinner. I’ll be home by 10.

I get it but at the same time kids this age are yearning for independence. He’s almost 18.

It’s not the same relationship as a partner.

I think 12 hours is a good guideline.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We got rid of Life 360 when he turned 17. I can find him via Find My Iphone if I REALLY need to by logging into his account.

But in terms of normal communication (text and calls) how long do you go without checking in or not knowing where they are? Boy or girl? (I do think there is a difference here.)

I don't have a senior right now, but I think my answer to this is 0 minutes as far as general whereabouts.

Even in the age before cell phones I was accountable for my whereabouts. I couldn't just leave the house and go no contact for several hours with no explanation. Did that mean my parents knew exactly where I was every moment? No. And I certainly got up to some stupid $H!t, but I definitely had to let them know if, say, I was going to a friend's house after the HS football game, or if a bunch of us were going out after our shift at work. I was expected to be home by curfew or communicate what was going on if not. (But I did sneak out all the time - haha!)

I fully intend for the same standard for my kids. But they ain't never gonna be able to sneak out of this house.

[Anonymous]

Seriously, where are they going in the pandemic? It is usually school, home, fast food place to pick up lunch, meeting BF/GF and shooting hoops with some friends. We all have location sharing so all of us know where we all are at any given moment.

We all are living in the same house. I can imagine if the children are living in split household that parents won't know where they are.

Right now...they are just working on college apps and school. Life is pretty grim right now. So, yes, next room, lights on, finger flying on the keyboard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Family living under the same roof, as a courtesy you let people know what you’re doing and when you plan to be home. I do this with my spouse. Why wouldn’t I with my child?

I’m not talking every minute blow by blow. But…Sam and I are going over to Tom’s house to shoot hoops and then grab dinner. I’ll be home by 10.

I get it but at the same time kids this age are yearning for independence. He’s almost 18.

It’s not the same relationship as a partner.

I think 12 hours is a good guideline.

That is independence. Do what you want but have the courtesy to let me know. But no, you’re not their roommate. 12 hours and you have no clue where they are or when they will return to your home? No.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously, where are they going in the pandemic? It is usually school, home, fast food place to pick up lunch, meeting BF/GF and shooting hoops with some friends. We all have location sharing so all of us know where we all are at any given moment.

We all are living in the same house. I can imagine if the children are living in split household that parents won't know where they are.

Right now...they are just working on college apps and school. Life is pretty grim right now. So, yes, next room, lights on, finger flying on the keyboard.

Pssst…kids this age are vaccinated and back to pretty much regular life.

[Anonymous]

I have a general idea of where my Senior is all the time. As in “Going to dinner with friends, be back around 11:00.” I can track his phone, if, e.g., he’s running late and I’m worried, but I don’t stalk him. As others have mentioned, I’d expect the same from any adult staying in our house. It’s just polite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Family living under the same roof, as a courtesy you let people know what you’re doing and when you plan to be home. I do this with my spouse. Why wouldn’t I with my child?

I’m not talking every minute blow by blow. But…Sam and I are going over to Tom’s house to shoot hoops and then grab dinner. I’ll be home by 10.

NP. This sounds reasonable to me. I’m not interested in tracking either. But, if your child can do this above ^^ then I would be satisfied. If your child is refusing to tell you his/her whereabouts then I would do tracking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would you get rid of the tracking?

He despised it and honestly I didn’t love it either. I mainly got it to use that first year that he was driving.

Ok, he’s a kid and you are paying for his phone. He’s up to no good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seriously, where are they going in the pandemic? It is usually school, home, fast food place to pick up lunch, meeting BF/GF and shooting hoops with some friends. We all have location sharing so all of us know where we all are at any given moment.

We all are living in the same house. I can imagine if the children are living in split household that parents won't know where they are.

Right now...they are just working on college apps and school. Life is pretty grim right now. So, yes, next room, lights on, finger flying on the keyboard.

Pssst…kids this age are vaccinated and back to pretty much regular life.

Just the ones with irresponsible parents.