Did You Pick A Safe Guy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you define exciting?

If by exciting you mean relationship drama or fighting then yes, you should ignore that. If you're bored like you're tired If sex of hanging out with him, you should break up.

OP here. Sex life is probably best I’ve had. I love being with him. No drama or fighting. He’s just not adventurous. I love to travel and had exes who used to love it but my boyfriend hates it. He doesn’t like to try new things. We go to the same places and the same restaurants all of the time. I will offer up other places and he will turn it down. I’ve really realized that this is just who he is.

Probably better to stay with best ever sex life than worry about trying some new restaurants. Maybe just get take out on your own if it’s that important.

[Anonymous]

and what exactly do you bring to the table, hmm? I imagine he doesn't feel the way you think he feels or how he should feel about you.

[Anonymous]

Older sister literally married a rock star. It was exciting!

Whole marriage was over after 6 mo.s

You want excitement??

Sound like what you really want is drama, and what you need is probably more therapy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:and what exactly do you bring to the table, hmm? I imagine he doesn't feel the way you think he feels or how he should feel about you.

- I’ll bite: they are attractive women who expect to be constantly entertained.

[Anonymous]

I would definitely call my DH "safe". I met him after getting out a relationship with someone much more "exciting" but the drama was ridiculous. Being with my husband was so easy and drama-free. That's how I knew he was the one.

[Anonymous]

DH is very adventurous but respects my desire to not be to crazy. Most people think he is very laid back and easy going, which he is. He just one do those people that likes to adventure alone or with just me. The plus side is that he also adventurous in the bedroom, which is a big plus.

Long and short, I have a calm, nice, easy going, very successful DH who is an absolutely amazing lover.

[Anonymous]

I think that you should tell him that you'd like to do more and different stuff before resigning yourself to being unhappy about these things for the rest of your life.

[Anonymous]

Lots of life after kids is not “adventurous.” You might find that your priorities re: travel and restaurants shift dramatically once you have a family, and what’s important in your 20s vs. your 30s can be very different. Does he have this attitude toward everything in life, or just going out to restaurants and travel? To me that is the key question — is his unwillingness to try new things going to impact his career, where you live,having kids, and how you both see your lives playing out? That’s a different ballgame than eating at the same restaurant over and over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you define exciting?

If by exciting you mean relationship drama or fighting then yes, you should ignore that. If you're bored like you're tired If sex of hanging out with him, you should break up.

OP here. Sex life is probably best I’ve had. I love being with him. No drama or fighting. He’s just not adventurous. I love to travel and had exes who used to love it but my boyfriend hates it. He doesn’t like to try new things. We go to the same places and the same restaurants all of the time. I will offer up other places and he will turn it down. I’ve really realized that this is just who he is.

If this is something you can fulfill by doing it with other friends then you will be ok. But if not, 20 years from now you will be miserable. And eating chicken nuggests every Thursday for the rest of your life.

[Anonymous]

I married an interesting man who likes to try new things, and he is also good partner who can be relied upon and doesn't create a lot of drama. It is possible to have both!