Looking for words to make me feel better

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I know you are working with a therapist and she will guide you in examining your feelings about this issue. But sometimes when we have overwhelming anger and sadness about a child missing out or being denied something, it’s an echo from our own childhood. Is there something you are holding onto, a way you felt very denied in childhood? That can come roaring up and it’s a horrible feeling.

OP back. I dont think so. I think the pandemic was just really hard for me and the disregard for education and age appropriate experirnces (in my district compared to others) really made it harder.

[Anonymous]

We are all coping with the ongoing and past impacts of COVID, and I think your response is completely understandable. It's good to take care of yourself and find the help you need.

Remember to be patient with yourself and to recognize that this is a process. It's also okay to be disappointed and sad about what your child lost as a result of this -- and what you lost, too. You don't need to try to find a way to feel better about this so much as accept it and work through how to focus on the present and future. Sometimes it helps to recognize that the goal is not to learn to be okay with what happened but to learn to move forward despite it.

[Anonymous]

He probably will not remember.

[Anonymous]

If he was in virtual school you got so much more time with him than previous generations might have. Focus on the positive; otherwise you sound like you have issues you need to address.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are all coping with the ongoing and past impacts of COVID, and I think your response is completely understandable. It's good to take care of yourself and find the help you need.

Remember to be patient with yourself and to recognize that this is a process. It's also okay to be disappointed and sad about what your child lost as a result of this -- and what you lost, too. You don't need to try to find a way to feel better about this so much as accept it and work through how to focus on the present and future. Sometimes it helps to recognize that the goal is not to learn to be okay with what happened but to learn to move forward despite it.

Thanks for your response. You are so right!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi- I am under the care of a therapist and starting despression/anxiety medication this week. My ds started first grade and Ive been terribly upset over how he lost a year of his childhood. I see the kindergarteners now living a normal life (despite masks), playing at recess, allowed to play in the classroom together, having fun learning, making friends, etc. My ds did not have any of that last year obviously because of covid. He didnt have this positivr, consistent introduction to school and essentially lost out on the last year (plus end of prek) of childhood before academics take over. Everytime I think about it or notice, my stomach drops. I know there are way worse issues- kids with cancer, people who have lost a loved one, etc. I am fully aware. I am just struggling with this. I have two kids and their early childhood experiences for them have been very different. He is my youngest and knowing that he basically just went from a cut off prek year to first grade makes me upset. My older son is in 3rd grade and I have not had this reaction at all because he had already had that early childhood experience before Covid hit and his foundation was already there. They are only kids once so Im having trouble with this for my younger one. Is there any way for me to feel better about this??

I feel yuck too - 2 kids 5 and 8. Went into their school for pickup today for the first time since I picked my then 3 year old up from school and never brought him back and the feeling of going in there again made me realize how much we have lost to this awful virus. Was like going home and feeling weird about your home

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi- I am under the care of a therapist and starting despression/anxiety medication this week. My ds started first grade and Ive been terribly upset over how he lost a year of his childhood. I see the kindergarteners now living a normal life (despite masks), playing at recess, allowed to play in the classroom together, having fun learning, making friends, etc. My ds did not have any of that last year obviously because of covid. He didnt have this positivr, consistent introduction to school and essentially lost out on the last year (plus end of prek) of childhood before academics take over. Everytime I think about it or notice, my stomach drops. I know there are way worse issues- kids with cancer, people who have lost a loved one, etc. I am fully aware. I am just struggling with this. I have two kids and their early childhood experiences for them have been very different. He is my youngest and knowing that he basically just went from a cut off prek year to first grade makes me upset. My older son is in 3rd grade and I have not had this reaction at all because he had already had that early childhood experience before Covid hit and his foundation was already there. They are only kids once so Im having trouble with this for my younger one. Is there any way for me to feel better about this??

I feel yuck too - 2 kids 5 and 8. Went into their school for pickup today for the first time since I picked my then 3 year old up from school and never brought him back and the feeling of going in there again made me realize how much we have lost to this awful virus. Was like going home and feeling weird about your home

Yes, I totally feel you PP.