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What would you do? Five year old dd says that she does not want kids.
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Anonymous
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Ever since my 5 y/o dd found out that babies come through the vagina or are "cut" out by a doctor (as seen on TV), she says that she does not want kids. It didn't help that her preschool teacher told her that she had no kids because they were "too much trouble and take up all of your time". That is actually not true, the preschool teacher does have a grown child, but she tells her students that she has none. My child is no longer in that preschool, but I still hear her say repeatedly that it hurts to have babies and it is too hard to raise them.
Should I ignore this? I have repeatedly told her that kids are fun, not too much wotk, and it does not hurt to have a baby (a bit untrue). Any suggestions? |
Anonymous
| Leave it alone, she's only 5 years old. |
Anonymous
| I'd just say - OK. I remember as a kid, I went from wanting 10 kids, to no kids, to 2 kids, and on and on. NOw I have one kid and I still don't know how many I want. Point is - these things change. |
Anonymous
| Sorry, but this is a completely STUPID question. Your child is 5. She what she thinks after she hits puberty, and if she is totally seripous about not wanting kids - so what???? |
Anonymous
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Relax. She's 5 years old. When I was 5 I wanted to be an astronaut. I later changed my mind.
If it were me, I'd just use this as an opportunity to engage her in conversation and get her to talk -- not just to talk at her about how wonderful children are. |
Anonymous
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I would ignore it. I remember when I was young I told my parents that I didn't want to get married when I found out that you had to take a blood test before getting married (back in the day). Also, I told them I didn't want to get married because that would mean that I wouldn't get to live with them. I remember they just told me "okay, but luckily you have enough time to change your mind if you want to".
I definitely wouldn't make this a big deal with your daughter. |
Anonymous
Correcting twotypos: She = See and seripous = serious. Sorry about that. |
Anonymous
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When I found out how babies are made I said I'd NEVER do THAT, and couldn't believe anyone would want to.
The weird thing here is the preschool teacher telling KIDS that children are too much trouble. She should be fired. |
Anonymous
Ot: that's very cute. |
Anonymous
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This is ridiculous! Be happy you have a smart child and ignore it. It does hurt to have babies and it is too hard to raise them.
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Anonymous
| Just say "I understand." |
Anonymous
That's perfect. |
Anonymous
Has she mentioned stretch marks yet? Babies cause those as well. Little ankle biters 
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Anonymous
This PP must be looking for another OP to spew on since the Trouble thread is winding down. OP, this is not a stupid question. I remember being 5 and saying I wanted kids, and I was "set straight" about it by my feminist mom. I remember it to this day. So think carefully -- and continue asking for advice -- before you get too deeply into it with your dd. FWIW, I don't think all girls want babies, nor do all grown women. It might have nothing to do with what she heard from her teacher or saw on TV. |
Anonymous
| Let it go. Children go through phases on what they want to do or be. The best thing is to not make a big deal of it. |