How much do you spend on a wedding gift?

[Anonymous]

We are not able to attend the wedding in TX and we are not that close to the bride and groom. Thanks!

[Anonymous]

Depending on your relationship to the bride/groom/their parents/their families, if you like them good and well, I would say $50 is standard, especially if you are giving money. However, if you are a bargain shopper, you can get away with spending much less by shopping at certain stores where you can find name brand household items for much less than their original price.

[Anonymous]

Agree with PP.

[Anonymous]

I am generous with gifts, but I personally would not spend $50 on a wedding gift for someone I wasn't close to, for a wedding I couldn't attend. I would choose something in the $25 range off of their registery. With taxes and shipping, it ends up a bit over $30.

If it makes you feel better, I got married at the beginning of the year. If people who couldn't attend the wedding (and weren't close to us, such as family friends) sent us gifts costing $25 or $50, it made no difference to me. I thought it was nice they sent a gift, period. So don't agonize over it - just do a quick registery purchase and be done with it!

[Anonymous]

Since you are not going and are not close to the couple, I think $50 is appropriate.

[Anonymous]

$50

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depending on your relationship to the bride/groom/their parents/their families, if you like them good and well, I would say $50 is standard, especially if you are giving money. However, if you are a bargain shopper, you can get away with spending much less by shopping at certain stores where you can find name brand household items for much less than their original price.

I gave a $150 giftcard to someone I knew for 10 years. What if the couple has a registry and there's nothing that is $50 but way over?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depending on your relationship to the bride/groom/their parents/their families, if you like them good and well, I would say $50 is standard, especially if you are giving money. However, if you are a bargain shopper, you can get away with spending much less by shopping at certain stores where you can find name brand household items for much less than their original price.

I gave a $150 giftcard to someone I knew for 10 years. What if the couple has a registry and there's nothing that is $50 but way over?

BTW, just one steak knife was $60-$70 in this registry. I thought I was the cheap one because I can't get my head around spending that much for a steak knife, maybe more so for a kitchen knife that I'd use every day.

[Anonymous]

If the things on the registry are too pricy, don't feel that you have to choose from the registry.

[Anonymous]

Do you have to send a gift to every wedding couple, even if you are invited and do not attend? We were invited to a wedding in April, did not go, did not send a gift. They were not close friends. Like 3rd cousins of my DH.

[Anonymous]

I spend:

$50 for a couple that I am not that close to.

$100 for a couple that I am close to.

$150 for family (close cousins, etc.)

[Anonymous]

If I was not close to them, and I was not attending the wedding, I would not send a gift. It is not required.

I would be sure to RSVP as soon as possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depending on your relationship to the bride/groom/their parents/their families, if you like them good and well, I would say $50 is standard, especially if you are giving money. However, if you are a bargain shopper, you can get away with spending much less by shopping at certain stores where you can find name brand household items for much less than their original price.

I am getting ready to send a wedding gift to a close friend, whose wedding I could not attend. I decided that since I would have spent good money on airfare if I could have made it to the wedding, that I would spend a big chunk on her wedding present, to the tune of $450 (still way less than airfare for me, one kid and one infant who could sit in my lap). Now I wonder if that's ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depending on your relationship to the bride/groom/their parents/their families, if you like them good and well, I would say $50 is standard, especially if you are giving money. However, if you are a bargain shopper, you can get away with spending much less by shopping at certain stores where you can find name brand household items for much less than their original price.

I am getting ready to send a wedding gift to a close friend, whose wedding I could not attend. I decided that since I would have spent good money on airfare if I could have made it to the wedding, that I would spend a big chunk on her wedding present, to the tune of $450 (still way less than airfare for me, one kid and one infant who could sit in my lap). Now I wonder if that's ridiculous.

I don't think it is ridiculous if it is a close friend and you want to spend that amount on them. It is really personal and I think you have to use your own judgement. Personally I think you sound pretty thoughtful.

[Anonymous]

DH and I would not spend less than $250, unless that person spent less than that on us at our wedding. It does not matter whether we are attending or not. For good friends and family, the amount would be $400-500. If the invitation is from someone that you think is just trying to pad their guest list with gifts and there is no reasonable expectation that you would attend, then I think $100-150 is appropriate. The answer to your question really depends on your finances and the expectations of your social circle.