I cringe we women bash other women for being ovewhelmed or lazy or unproductive because...

[Anonymous]

1.) It throws "sisterhood" out the window and replaces it with "mean girls."

2.) It's another example of women pushing other women to meet what is for some unreasonable expectations.
(I am convinced the anorexia and bulimia epidemic would be reduced if we stopped worshipping extreme thinness, praising people for being too thin and gossiping about those who gain too much weight. I don't think there are that many men attracted to the pre-pubescent male look in females.

3.) It shows a lack of awareness that people face different challenges than we do?
There are people with severe autoimmune disorders among us and people going through cancer treatment who haven't told you. There are plenty of people struggling with varying degrees of mental illness. There are people who seem to end up always the caregiver in their immediate and extended families and never the care receiver and they are burn out. There are people struggling in bad marriages that haven't told you. There are people with kids struggling with neurological illnesses and mental illness and physical illness. People do what they can handle. Just because one woman needs more rest than you do, or gets less done in a day, doesn't mean she has less value than you do.

[Anonymous]

Most people cope. If you haven't figured out how, quit whining for sympathy and get busy working.

[Anonymous]

I also wanted to add...people have different degrees of energy. I will say this, I find the most judgmental and unempathetic (if that's a word) among us, sometimes fall the hardest when life because difficult for them too. Of course many rise to the challenge and become better and more empathetic for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just because one woman needs more rest than you do, or gets less done in a day, doesn't mean she has less value than you do.

If you want to go the whole mile, this should be really true even if she doesn't have to deal with cancer, mental illness, sick family members, bad marriages, and so on.

[Anonymous]

Actually I had a MALE boss that was a nightmare. I left and am so happy for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most people cope. If you haven't figured out how, quit whining for sympathy and get busy working.

OP here. This isn't about me. I have 2 sisters with major autoimmune disorders and a mother who went through cancer treatment. You know who made them the feel the worst? Other women who assumed they had it easy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just because one woman needs more rest than you do, or gets less done in a day, doesn't mean she has less value than you do.

If you want to go the whole mile, this should be really true even if she doesn't have to deal with cancer, mental illness, sick family members, bad marriages, and so on.

True.

[Anonymous]

I have an autoimmune disorder and man some days I feel like crap. I also exercise A TON and eat a restrictive healthy diet but STILL GAIN WEIGHT. I am doing the best I can but dreading the day someone points out or criticizes my weight gain

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
1.) It throws "sisterhood" out the window and replaces it with "mean girls."

2.) It's another example of women pushing other women to meet what is for some unreasonable expectations.
(I am convinced the anorexia and bulimia epidemic would be reduced if we stopped worshipping extreme thinness, praising people for being too thin and gossiping about those who gain too much weight. I don't think there are that many men attracted to the pre-pubescent male look in females.

3.) It shows a lack of awareness that people face different challenges than we do?
There are people with severe autoimmune disorders among us and people going through cancer treatment who haven't told you. There are plenty of people struggling with varying degrees of mental illness. There are people who seem to end up always the caregiver in their immediate and extended families and never the care receiver and they are burn out. There are people struggling in bad marriages that haven't told you. There are people with kids struggling with neurological illnesses and mental illness and physical illness. People do what they can handle. Just because one woman needs more rest than you do, or gets less done in a day, doesn't mean she has less value than you do.

1) Not sure what this even means. "sisterhood"? I have friends, some old-dear-close friends, some local work-out buddies, trade babysitting, go out with friends. But I'm not sure what sisterhood is or what that should mean to me. I like PEOPLE who are positive, work hard, don't complain, realize we only have one life to live, and provide something positive to my life.

2) Personally I think the bar is really too low for many women, but I don't push or expect anything of any one else. The recent, OMG I need to go to a hotel to get away from life thread is an example. If you are that burned out from life and your kids than make a change. Now, many people do have challenges in life that are out of their control, but their reaction is within their control and this is where I judge people.

3) I disagree that people do what they can handle. MANY people don't do all that they can handle or complain about it the whole time!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most people cope. If you haven't figured out how, quit whining for sympathy and get busy working.

OP here. This isn't about me. I have 2 sisters with major autoimmune disorders and a mother who went through cancer treatment. You know who made them the feel the worst? Other women who assumed they had it easy.

OP, there's only one thing I have to say. Don't listen to 'other women'! No one but you, knows your struggles, so their 'expert' opinion is - or at least, should be - irrelevant. Unless you're participating in some kind of popularity contest, who cares what others think??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
1.) It throws "sisterhood" out the window and replaces it with "mean girls."

2.) It's another example of women pushing other women to meet what is for some unreasonable expectations.
(I am convinced the anorexia and bulimia epidemic would be reduced if we stopped worshipping extreme thinness, praising people for being too thin and gossiping about those who gain too much weight. I don't think there are that many men attracted to the pre-pubescent male look in females.

3.) It shows a lack of awareness that people face different challenges than we do?
There are people with severe autoimmune disorders among us and people going through cancer treatment who haven't told you. There are plenty of people struggling with varying degrees of mental illness. There are people who seem to end up always the caregiver in their immediate and extended families and never the care receiver and they are burn out. There are people struggling in bad marriages that haven't told you. There are people with kids struggling with neurological illnesses and mental illness and physical illness. People do what they can handle. Just because one woman needs more rest than you do, or gets less done in a day, doesn't mean she has less value than you do.

1) Not sure what this even means. "sisterhood"? I have friends, some old-dear-close friends, some local work-out buddies, trade babysitting, go out with friends. But I'm not sure what sisterhood is or what that should mean to me. I like PEOPLE who are positive, work hard, don't complain, realize we only have one life to live, and provide something positive to my life.

2) Personally I think the bar is really too low for many women, but I don't push or expect anything of any one else. The recent, OMG I need to go to a hotel to get away from life thread is an example. If you are that burned out from life and your kids than make a change. Now, many people do have challenges in life that are out of their control, but their reaction is within their control and this is where I judge people.

3) I disagree that people do what they can handle. MANY people don't do all that they can handle or complain about it the whole time!!

Well you sound like a peach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
1.) It throws "sisterhood" out the window and replaces it with "mean girls."

2.) It's another example of women pushing other women to meet what is for some unreasonable expectations.
(I am convinced the anorexia and bulimia epidemic would be reduced if we stopped worshipping extreme thinness, praising people for being too thin and gossiping about those who gain too much weight. I don't think there are that many men attracted to the pre-pubescent male look in females.

3.) It shows a lack of awareness that people face different challenges than we do?
There are people with severe autoimmune disorders among us and people going through cancer treatment who haven't told you. There are plenty of people struggling with varying degrees of mental illness. There are people who seem to end up always the caregiver in their immediate and extended families and never the care receiver and they are burn out. There are people struggling in bad marriages that haven't told you. There are people with kids struggling with neurological illnesses and mental illness and physical illness. People do what they can handle. Just because one woman needs more rest than you do, or gets less done in a day, doesn't mean she has less value than you do.

1) Not sure what this even means. "sisterhood"? I have friends, some old-dear-close friends, some local work-out buddies, trade babysitting, go out with friends. But I'm not sure what sisterhood is or what that should mean to me. I like PEOPLE who are positive, work hard, don't complain, realize we only have one life to live, and provide something positive to my life.

2) Personally I think the bar is really too low for many women, but I don't push or expect anything of any one else. The recent, OMG I need to go to a hotel to get away from life thread is an example. If you are that burned out from life and your kids than make a change. Now, many people do have challenges in life that are out of their control, but their reaction is within their control and this is where I judge people.

3) I disagree that people do what they can handle. MANY people don't do all that they can handle or complain about it the whole time!!

Well you sound like a peach.

Thanks, I am actually quite friendly, but I do have a positive attitude when it comes to living life and I won't be brought down by those who are complainers. A lot of people like to complain about circumstances that they DO have control over. I understand that many people are struggling with issues, but most people have issues they are dealing with if you ask. Life goes on and it's all about your attitude. There are extreme situations but that's not the case for most.

If you complain about being fat and tired while holding a 64oz big gulp in your hand filled with coke I'm not really feeling bad for you. If your house is mess and you're complaining about how hard it is to keep up after telling me about your favorite tv show then you need to prioritize. If your kids and life really stress you out that bad then make some changes. Many of us have ways to make changes, work smarter not harder, but don't and just complain about it.

[Anonymous]

What really makes me cringe is when women slut shame other women...and I used to be someone who as a teenager was just such a shamer.

[Anonymous]

Yikes, PP sounds like a nightmare to be friends with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
1.) It throws "sisterhood" out the window and replaces it with "mean girls."

2.) It's another example of women pushing other women to meet what is for some unreasonable expectations.
(I am convinced the anorexia and bulimia epidemic would be reduced if we stopped worshipping extreme thinness, praising people for being too thin and gossiping about those who gain too much weight. I don't think there are that many men attracted to the pre-pubescent male look in females.

3.) It shows a lack of awareness that people face different challenges than we do?
There are people with severe autoimmune disorders among us and people going through cancer treatment who haven't told you. There are plenty of people struggling with varying degrees of mental illness. There are people who seem to end up always the caregiver in their immediate and extended families and never the care receiver and they are burn out. There are people struggling in bad marriages that haven't told you. There are people with kids struggling with neurological illnesses and mental illness and physical illness. People do what they can handle. Just because one woman needs more rest than you do, or gets less done in a day, doesn't mean she has less value than you do.

1) Not sure what this even means. "sisterhood"? I have friends, some old-dear-close friends, some local work-out buddies, trade babysitting, go out with friends. But I'm not sure what sisterhood is or what that should mean to me. I like PEOPLE who are positive, work hard, don't complain, realize we only have one life to live, and provide something positive to my life.

2) Personally I think the bar is really too low for many women, but I don't push or expect anything of any one else. The recent, OMG I need to go to a hotel to get away from life thread is an example. If you are that burned out from life and your kids than make a change. Now, many people do have challenges in life that are out of their control, but their reaction is within their control and this is where I judge people.

3) I disagree that people do what they can handle. MANY people don't do all that they can handle or complain about it the whole time!!

Well you sound like a peach.

Thanks, I am actually quite friendly, but I do have a positive attitude when it comes to living life and I won't be brought down by those who are complainers. A lot of people like to complain about circumstances that they DO have control over. I understand that many people are struggling with issues, but most people have issues they are dealing with if you ask. Life goes on and it's all about your attitude. There are extreme situations but that's not the case for most.

If you complain about being fat and tired while holding a 64oz big gulp in your hand filled with coke I'm not really feeling bad for you. If your house is mess and you're complaining about how hard it is to keep up after telling me about your favorite tv show then you need to prioritize. If your kids and life really stress you out that bad then make some changes. Many of us have ways to make changes, work smarter not harder, but don't and just complain about it.

Um, no, you absolutely do not have a positive attitude. You actually sound quite nasty.