my baby looks like an old man!
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Anonymous
| I am so upset about this! I just had a baby girl and she is a week old. My first child was beautiful and perfect. But this child looks like an old man and is not that cute!! Of course I love her dearly, but I was shocked when I saw her for the first time, as she looks like an old, wrinkled man -- she has kind of beady eyes, a larger nose and wrinkles in forehead, etc. Is this normal and does it go away? I want her to look like a baby!! |
Anonymous
| OP here again, to top it off, I am not quite bonding with her the way I would expect and I am worried its b/c her appearance is off--putting to me. I hate to say this, but I feel like I am in that Seinfeld episode with the ugly baby! Can someone give me some guidance? I am feeling really guilty and awful that I don't think my baby is cute and she kind of freaks me out. |
Anonymous
| Why are you focusing on her appearance instead of focusing on the fact that she is healthy? She might cute up in the next few weeks and look like your other child, she might stay funny looking for months and months and then blossom, or she might be a really homely child who turns into a really homely adult. None of this should matter to her mother. |
Anonymous
| This is horrible maybe she looks like you.... |
Anonymous
| OP, I don't think you're a bad person. Of course we all want our babies to be cute! I think in a few weeks she'll fill out and look much more "normal." You will be fine. Fake it until you make it and I'm sure you will bond soon. Don't worry. |
Anonymous
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PPs, you're being horrible. You've got a hormonal new mother as the OP. Be nice.
OP, it's normal for newborns to look a little weird. And it's ok if you think so too. I went back and forth on mine. My baby was huge at birth, and he kind of looked like a little sumo wrestler with all this extra fat in his face. He was my sweet wonderful perfect...little sumo wrestler. 
Give yourself some time to adjust. I imagine this won't be the first time your new baby isn't like your first, and that may be more your sticking point than anything. This baby will be different in some ways, and you'll have to find out what those are as you go. And she'll gradually lose the old man look! |
Anonymous
| It will pass as she gets a few weeks older and more hair. |
Anonymous
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I thought it was common knowledge that newborns frequently look like little old men. I can't even count the number of times I've looked at a friend's newborn and thought that it looked like a garden gnome. (My own baby, of course, was gorgeous from the moment she emerged ) And all of those babies are now perfectly normal-looking kids.
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Anonymous
| Haha, I think 95% of newborns look like old men. Particularly Caucasian babies........ |
Anonymous
Agree! I was recently going through baby pictures of both kids for a project and it turns out they were both pretty ugly until they were 4 or 5 months old. I thought they were the most beautiful little beings ever, but I had heard of others thinking their first was gorgeous and the second was ugly or funny-looking when in retrospect, they realize both were equally funny-looking, but you are more blind the first time. Seriously, OP, excluding your own first child, have you ever seen a week old baby who was really very cute? |
Anonymous
| Almost all babies look like old men. |
Anonymous
| my baby wasn't "cute" until at least 5 months. I found her adorable from the beginning, but in a quirky way. she had tons of extra skin, huge wrinkly foreheard, only hair on the back of her head (like a balding old man). i thought it was hilarious and adorable. but she was NOT beautiful. now, when people say she is beautiful, i no longer snort in disbelief. at 7 months, she has really filled out and is genuinely pretty. |
Anonymous
| Once she gains a little weight she will look better. Just focus on feeding the baby and both of you sleeping as much as possible. |
Anonymous
| Most babies look like old men. Or frogs. Don't worry, they outgrow it. |
Anonymous
| we called our newborn "Dr. Evil" for weeks. |