Maybe he's a growing boy and needs all of these nutrients/calories. Now that you know this about him, don't offer if you don't wan to buy all the food he requests. |
It ends where OP sets the boundaries. |
Seriously what is wrong with you? If my teen boy is hungry, I feed him! That is literally job 1 for me as his mother. He always gets two entrees at chick filet, if he doesn’t he is hungry. Begrudging your son a spicy chicken sandwich? He has absorbed that message from you and acts accordingly,. |
EXACTLY! Hint: If you're literally posting to the "Teens and Tweens" forum, the solution will likely start with you, OP. |
I’d worry more that I’m feeding someone else’s kid too much crap junk food. It’s not like he’s ordering lobster or $200 bottles of wine. |
His parents are probably happy he's mooching off his girlfriend's parents so they don't have to feed him. |
We took my sister and her then bf out for dinner once when they visited. They were in their 20s and the bf ordered 3 specialty margaritas which ended up costing about $50. I learned my lesson quickly and we never took them out to eat again. If you are offering and the kid is ordering too much in your mind, say, “Everyone choose one entree and we will order a couple of appetizers to share. We have ice cream here for dessert if anyone wants something sweet afterward.”
Or these days, learn what places have a family meal. Chuy’s has a great taco meal for about $45. Zoes has a small and large family meal with lots of choices. |
I would start serving boring home cooked food when he’s there. Let them get their own takeout. He and your daughter sound really spoiled. |
Again, where does this end? Why is it her responsibility to throw food into his bottomless pit of a stomach? Is it alright if he just laces into her kitchen, eating anything and as much as wishes? If he eats frequently with this family, he must see that his consumption is out of step with the rest, and should take some responsibility for supplementing his diet. |
OP didn’t give those kinds of examples. He didn’t order the entire menu, or three expensive entrees. And her daughter asked for the same and mom didn’t say a word. For those saying “follow your host’s lead”, he did. This mom doesn’t like the BF so she’s looking for problems. |
The daughter isn't the host, the paying parents are. OP said she'd like a mango sticky rice too, but didn't order one because it adds up. OP should have told the daughter she and BF could share the apps and dessert or just told her they weren't ordering extras. |
Or this is what he would get with parents, and they are disappointed that his girlfriends mom is a cheapskate. |
Young guys food consumption is always more than most people who are not young guys. If the mom and dad can't afford to pay for his food, they should tell their daughter what they are willing to pay for and let her talk to him. We always had a family rule: no appetizers or desserts unless it was a special occasion like a birthday, for example. |
This is ridiculous; he's a college age guy eating a normal amount for his age. No need for the drama- he's NOT ordering 3 meals. Unclench. OP - it sounds like he's 1. Following your dd's lead so if there's a manners issue maybe look closer to home too! 2. A LOT of families wouldn't think his orders are at all odd, & he's not a mind-reader. When I have guests, I host. When I'm tight on money I'll order from a cheap pizza place. Otherwise I'll order from a place everyone likes & not worry about it. He seems comfortable with your family which generally is a plus. Don't limit his face food orders 🙄. Or tell DD and her BF to go pick up food & you'll pay but she picks up. Avoids the Doordash fees, tipping the driver and you seem like a penny pincher so there you go. |
Our chuy's closed but they never had meals for $45 and often that was our entire bill. (assuming it is a type as their meals were under $15. |