Dating a Red Piller

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That's not going to get these guys laid. They see Chad Thundercock running around with hotties even though he's none of the things women say they want. He's not sensitive or respectful, he doesn't have a good sense of humor, and he only treats other people well when he wants something. He's rich and has muscles and acts like he could take or leave any given woman. These redpillers have heard what a shitty guy he is when their friends who are women cry about how he never calls but they wish he would. That's a caricature, obviously, but it's the kind of dynamic redpillers are thinking about when they complain that women aren't honest about what they really want in a sex partner.

Lift weights, be kind, have stuff going on in your life that you enjoy and derive meaning from, cultivate friendships, learn to flirt, work on your skills in bed, and be honest about what you're looking for, even if it's casual. You will do great, and you will get to be a good person. Everyone wins.

I mean, it's definitely not too complicated or unhealthy when you get down to the fundamentals. Work on yourself to where you are happy with yourself and your life and don't need another person for validation. At that point, you're very likely to attract a person that will make that good life better. (And, if you don't, it won't bother you that much.) What trips people up is when they don't like themselves very much and they blame others for their discontent -- whining about the injustice and unfairness of it all.

Ignore most of what "women say they want". That is the lie.
Instead, focus on what are the "guys who are successful with women" doing. Be more like them, because that is the truth.

Really? It's a lie when women say "I like confident, attractive guys?" Because tons of women will tell you that. It's not a secret. Many will add in "tall, high-earning, and great in bed", if they don't think you're going to judge them for that. You think guys with those attributes don't do extremely well?

No lie there! I like your answer, those are exactly the things RedPill says to work on 100%. Men who focus on those things WILL do well.

But when asked "what do you want in a man" (<-- google that Q) women ignore all that and instead the answer is stuff like "good provider; good communicator; vulnerable; meets my emotional needs; treats me like an equal; caring at heart". Men who focus on THESE things will not do well.

Guys who focus on those things do just fine.
Extroverted, well spoken men with high earning jobs and a lot of female friends that they treat as equals do just fine.
I can’t think of one man like this who can’t find a date.

Let's see, I'm an extroverted, well-spoken, in-shape, PhD-educated, professionally-employed, tall, middle-aged man. Why in the world would I want female friends to "treat as equals"? If I have any female friends, they are FWBs, otherwise I find female friends a pain in the ass whose friendship is never equal.

I don’t know. According to the previous poster you are not doing well finding women who are interested in having sex with you, and you need the red pill to tell you what women really want.