Watching your friends relocate to the burbs for "schools"

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People who complain silver spring is awful are the kind of new Yorkers who moved from their new Canaan childhood home to the uws, then to the south slope, all the while regretful they couldn't afford one of the named streets.

It's more than a matter of money; a great deal of it is subjective taste.

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with the above, although I would caution women against thinking you can start making babies in your 40s. Some of us can. I did, but (and this is significant) I had already made babies. First time baby-making in your 40s is a recipe for fertility treatments and adoption.

This is way off-topic, but I can't let this go unaddressed. Many people (like me) have their first babies in their 40s without issue. Certainly, a lot of women have infertility problems as their age increases, but it's still far from everyone.

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Statistically, a 40 year old woman has a 1 in 5 chance of getting pregnant every single month she tries. Obviously not the fertility most of us have in our 20s, but certainly not automatically relegated to fertility treatments and adoptions.

I know plenty of people who had first children in their 40s. The kids were blessed with parents who had already lived very full lives of their own, were in great financial shape, and were more than ready to commit to being parents.

The timely article on CNN today says less than 1% chance every month for women over 40.

Can you back that up? I thought that was the probability for a younger woman.

I was told a 5% chance at 40, not 1 in 5.

yeah this is off topic but 1 in 5 chance monthly for over 40, that must be the in vitro rate or some other fertility treatment, not natural. Plus for many couples the real bogeyman of advanced maternal age is not an inability to have kids, but an ability to have kids at higher risk for serious problems, or a problematic pregnancy. not to disparage others' choices, but those risks are real and must be taken into account. The popular discussion of fertility often glosses over this.

back to the topic, for the record I am not one of the people criticizing silver spring or any place people choose to live. What I have been saying is that if you cannot afford Capitol Hill then you could never have afforded Manhattan or Brooklyn had you stayed in NYC. So your time spent in those places was always destined to be a short period of your life, just accept it. Therefore it makes no sense to come here and say that you are disappointed that DC doesn't have to offer what those parts of NY have to offer.

Agree. These people who were priced out of Brooklyn and Manhattan are angry because they can only afford silver spring etc. I don't think you were moving to TriBeCa once you had kids, you were destined for Long Island or New Jersey or queens. Nothing wrong with that. But you can't complain about DC being too expensive for you then.

You also can't complain about silver spring being awful. It's not like NJ is that great. At least you should have an easier commute, more space, lower taxes, less snow to shovel and a place to park your car (for free).

Yes I can. Silver spring is not a good fit for my family. I was not priced out of DC proper and am happy here. NJ/LI not for me, neither is silver spring etc. it's personal preference, luck, and buying power.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People who complain silver spring is awful are the kind of new Yorkers who moved from their new Canaan childhood home to the uws, then to the south slope, all the while regretful they couldn't afford one of the named streets.

It's more than a matter of money; a great deal of it is subjective taste.

Try again. I could totally afford the named streets, did not grow up in New Caanan, and I would do my best to avoid anything north of 14th St when I lived in Manhattan. Chill out. Silver spring is not for me, nothing wrong with that. Glad you're happy where you are; I'm happy where I am. End of story.

[Anonymous]

Stereotypes are everywhere on DCUM. I can't decide if I should just laugh or get offended. I think I will go with laugh.

I've never been to LI, but there are parts of NJ and CT that look and feel an awful lot like parts of DC. DC isn't just downtown - and even downtown DC is hardly like NYC, although you may get hints of what it would be like. Like everything, if you are lucky, you can be picky about where you want to be, and find the right vibe for what suits you at this point in your life.

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Anonymous wrote:People who complain silver spring is awful are the kind of new Yorkers who moved from their new Canaan childhood home to the uws, then to the south slope, all the while regretful they couldn't afford one of the named streets.

It's more than a matter of money; a great deal of it is subjective taste.

You are totally delusional and need to get back on meds.

-NYer.

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This thread went off the rails when the poster came on claiming that Silver Spring was the part of DC most like Clinton Hill. I'm sorry, you can hate Clinton Hill and love Silver Spring or visa versa... but the claim that Silver Spring is the DC equivalent of Clinton Hill?!? C'mon, of course people piled on.