To women - would you be open to an affair?
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Anonymous
| Serious question. |
Anonymous
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I don't think so. It's really disrespectful and if I was going down that road, I think I'd prefer to separate and date other people. I think affairs are escapes and they mask bigger issues, both in yourself and in the marriage.
It's making a bad situation worse. That said, my DH's affair was a great catalyst for us. Most painful thing I've ever confronted, but going through it changed our marriage and definitely woke DH up to the fact that he was becoming a person he wasn't proud of. People only have so much energy, and affairs require a lot of energy. It means you are taking away from your spouse and family. And marriage and raising kids is hard enough. For my DH, it seemed like a solution/escape/numbing in the short term but caused him a lot of humiliation and shame in the long term. |
Anonymous
| Maybe, but honestly I don't know when I would find the time. |
Anonymous
| Yes, but I honest to god cannot imagine anyone ever propositioning me. Oh well. |
Anonymous
| No. I think affairs are the ultimate cowardly act. Fix your marriage or get out. |
Anonymous
| No. I don't validate myself through other people. |
Anonymous
Want to hug naked? |
Anonymous
Why are you asking? |
Anonymous
| No. At this point, there would have to be unprecedented chemistry, actual love, and/or the potential for a relationship for me to jump ship on my partner. We've been through too much over the past 20+ years to make it worth it for anything less. In our case familiarity breeds comfort and security, and that's a lot of inertia to overcome. |
Anonymous
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Affairs are despicable and sinful. I wouldn't get married only to trample upon the sanctity of said bond by fucking another person for whatever reason. If you can't honestly work shit out with your partner, then get a clean cut divorce.
Marriage these days is honestly a joke because of people who think it's okay to step out on their partner; because of the people who just get married out of convenience or in a drunken stupor; because of the people who fucked up and got pregnant before marriage and decided to get married for the sake of the children only to find out that they really don't love each other and hence think they can justify their profane behavior of affairs because it "Wasn't their fault" or what have you; ultimately because people often get married out of lust and not love, and the one's who may truly be compatible and in love with each other simply don't have the resolve to be selfless in their marriage and work out their respective issues. Nuff said. |
Anonymous
| No. I'm really happy and fulfilled with/by my husband. Plus, we made a promise to each other that if we want to have sex with anyone else, we will break up with each other first. |
Anonymous
Yes. It would have to be a person who was reasonably available, logistically and emotionally. |
Anonymous
| If I were open to it, I'd sooner leave my marriage. |
Anonymous
| aren't there several other threads like this? some people even provided physical descriptions and emails. do a simple google search and you'll find someone with whom to have an affair. |
Anonymous
| Probably, but I'd need to lose 25 pounds before sharing my chubby bod. |