I have actually had opportunities, but without going into detail, I would say no. It is surprising to know how many opportunities exist, because some men really don't care, it seems. |
Amen, sister! |
No, no and no. In my younger years I experienced all 3 sides of the infidelity triangle: I was cheated on, I was cheated with (I.e. I was the OW), and I cheated. I came to realize that all 3 roles were toxic and that no matter how sexy/exciting/absorbing those situations were, in the end I have to treat my body and my relationships in a much more sacred fashion.
I seriously believe this is the main reason my dating life up to my marriage got so much better and I am now married to an awesome man who's also an awesome father. |
Yes. I'm hot too! Minus the mommy tummy, but there's a six pack hiding under the stretched out skin. |
No. Outside of the sin/disrespect angle, it's the best way to make a bad situation even worse. Like, if you've got $100,000 in credit card debt, is it a good idea to go get out another credit card? If you can't manage one relationship, it's damn stupid to start another. |
There are sadists who get all tingly and turned on by beating people against their will. People who have affairs aren't all that different. |
I could have written the above. Spent some years feeling ashamed of my behavior, trying to figure out why I would debase myself/hurt others. worked through that crap before I met DH and am grateful to have the perspective and I am very, very careful to keep our marriage healthy and strong. I know that the sexual thrill, or emotional need, or fix, or whatever sucks you in, masks insecurity, pain, fear, angst, immaturity and there is always a better way to address those issues. I also know that everyone is susceptible to an affair and both partners in a marriage need to be mindful of creating secure boundaries and fostering a loving connection. This cannot prevent all affairs, but it is a start. |
So for those women who are open to an affair, how do I broach the subject? |
Depends. When I was married, no. Now that I am divorced, it would depend on the person propositioning me and his circumstances. I am not interested in breaking up a family. I would be interested in more regular sex. If a nice married guy had a confirmed hall pass from his wife, I would consider that. |
But PP, is a Hall Pass really an affair? I consider an affair something unknown to one (or both) partner's significant other, and not ok with them if they found out. Does a Hall pass count? |
I agree, I don't think a hall pass counts. To me, having an affair is dishonest and that is the big problem. So, as far as going behind my husband's back, no, I would never do that as I wouldn't want him to as well. |
if the guy was rich...hell yes! |
Me too. Plus, if I ever had an affair and it was found out by my husband, the hurt he would feel would not be worth any pleasure I got from it. |
No, but I would consider swinging (it's a no-go with DH). |
Ask me to lunch. Flirt with me. Act like you would on a date. Pick up the check. |