5 Years into open marriage are you still married?

[Anonymous]

Seems to be a popular topic to show off how sexually liberated people are with their spouses. I want to know from people who have had a spouse engage in sexual activity outside of their marriage over the past five years or longer whether you remained married to that person. It could be that you were the spouse who engaged in a condoned extramarital sexual encounter for 5 or more years. The encounters could have been regular or sporadic. Are you still married? Are you having problems in your marriage? What do your children think of this? Do you want your children to engage in the same activity when they are adults?

[Anonymous]

Yes and the children know nothing of it because it is not their business

[Anonymous]

Why hide it from the children? Does that mean you think it's a bad thing to do? After all, if it's something that you have no problem with, then why keep it a secret.

[Anonymous]

No std ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why hide it from the children? Does that mean you think it's a bad thing to do? After all, if it's something that you have no problem with, then why keep it a secret.

Do you tell your children about the sex you have? That's weird. They can choose their path when they are old enough

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why hide it from the children? Does that mean you think it's a bad thing to do? After all, if it's something that you have no problem with, then why keep it a secret.

Do you tell your kids about your vanilla sex life and want them to emulate it?

[Anonymous]

My children know that I have a sexual relationship with my husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My children know that I have a sexual relationship with my husband.

Eww

[Anonymous]

8 years into open marriage and yes we are still married and going strong. We don't share details with each other or with our kids (why?).

We have everyday problems, fights like normal couples do but none about the open marriage. Neither one of us has fallen in love and neither has expressed any desire to leave for someone else. Oh and we still clock in sex with each other, at least 2 times a week.

Believe it or not, having an "open marriage" doesn't mean you are out there every day humping everything in sight. Things don't happen that way when you're single, why do people assume it would in an open marriage? In 8 years, I have slept with 3 people. The longest "relationship" lasted 6 months before we moved on.

Our children can decide to engage in whatever sexual activity to they choose to when they become adults. I have no say in that. Would I want them to have open marriages? sure if that's what they choose to do.

[Anonymous]

Load of crock. The only open marriage I know ended in jealousy and violence and the destruction of two marriages and four very emotionally wounded children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seems to be a popular topic to show off how sexually liberated people are with their spouses. I want to know from people who have had a spouse engage in sexual activity outside of their marriage over the past five years or longer whether you remained married to that person. It could be that you were the spouse who engaged in a condoned extramarital sexual encounter for 5 or more years. The encounters could have been regular or sporadic. Are you still married? Are you having problems in your marriage? What do your children think of this? Do you want your children to engage in the same activity when they are adults?

Going on our seventh year now. I'm the wife and the one with an extramarital relationship. We were having problems in our marriage before I started the affair. The affair hasn't helped the marriage, but it's made me personally much happier. DH has adopted a "don't ask, don't tell" regarding the specifics. He's like a lot of the wives who post on this forum - not interested in regular sex, secretly relieved that he doesn't have to meet all my needs, so long as I don't rub it in his face. Children have no idea - they are late elementary school aged. None of my business what they do as adults. Ideally, if they get married, their marriage would meet all of their needs, but if not, this is not the worst outcome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Load of crock. The only open marriage I know ended in jealousy and violence and the destruction of two marriages and four very emotionally wounded children.

You should get out more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seems to be a popular topic to show off how sexually liberated people are with their spouses. I want to know from people who have had a spouse engage in sexual activity outside of their marriage over the past five years or longer whether you remained married to that person. It could be that you were the spouse who engaged in a condoned extramarital sexual encounter for 5 or more years. The encounters could have been regular or sporadic. Are you still married? Are you having problems in your marriage? What do your children think of this? Do you want your children to engage in the same activity when they are adults?

Going on our seventh year now. I'm the wife and the one with an extramarital relationship. We were having problems in our marriage before I started the affair. The affair hasn't helped the marriage, but it's made me personally much happier. DH has adopted a "don't ask, don't tell" regarding the specifics. He's like a lot of the wives who post on this forum - not interested in regular sex, secretly relieved that he doesn't have to meet all my needs, so long as I don't rub it in his face. Children have no idea - they are late elementary school aged. None of my business what they do as adults. Ideally, if they get married, their marriage would meet all of their needs, but if not, this is not the worst outcome.

When your children find out, don't you think they'll feel betrayed and upset?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seems to be a popular topic to show off how sexually liberated people are with their spouses. I want to know from people who have had a spouse engage in sexual activity outside of their marriage over the past five years or longer whether you remained married to that person. It could be that you were the spouse who engaged in a condoned extramarital sexual encounter for 5 or more years. The encounters could have been regular or sporadic. Are you still married? Are you having problems in your marriage? What do your children think of this? Do you want your children to engage in the same activity when they are adults?

Going on our seventh year now. I'm the wife and the one with an extramarital relationship. We were having problems in our marriage before I started the affair. The affair hasn't helped the marriage, but it's made me personally much happier. DH has adopted a "don't ask, don't tell" regarding the specifics. He's like a lot of the wives who post on this forum - not interested in regular sex, secretly relieved that he doesn't have to meet all my needs, so long as I don't rub it in his face. Children have no idea - they are late elementary school aged. None of my business what they do as adults. Ideally, if they get married, their marriage would meet all of their needs, but if not, this is not the worst outcome.

When your children find out, don't you think they'll feel betrayed and upset?

Why would they feel upset and betrayed? I fail to see how their parents' sex life is any of their business. Did it dip into their college funds or did they contract STDs from Mom and Dad?

[Anonymous]

Why would my children feel "betrayed"? The marital relationship has nothing to do with them. Do all children whose parents divorce feel "betrayed"? How weird.