5 Years into open marriage are you still married?

[Anonymous]

Your kids will feel betrayed, because the person they always thought you were is not who you are. They will feel that their parent was deceptive and living a lie. They just will. When your kids find out (and they will), your relationship with them will change forever. Your family will implode.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your kids will feel betrayed, because the person they always thought you were is not who you are. They will feel that their parent was deceptive and living a lie. They just will. When your kids find out (and they will), your relationship with them will change forever. Your family will implode.

Your family will implode and the world will cave in on itself

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your kids will feel betrayed, because the person they always thought you were is not who you are. They will feel that their parent was deceptive and living a lie. They just will. When your kids find out (and they will), your relationship with them will change forever. Your family will implode.

Wow, dramatic much. That's how you would react. Not everyone would. I don't give a rat's A what my parents did for sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your kids will feel betrayed, because the person they always thought you were is not who you are. They will feel that their parent was deceptive and living a lie. They just will. When your kids find out (and they will), your relationship with them will change forever. Your family will implode.

Please back your hysterical self away from the computer and go pop a xanax, oy!

[Anonymous]

Pretty sure I would have liked to find out when I reached adulthood that my parents did what they needed to to make themselves and each other happy instead of discovering that they were not having much/any sex since my brother was conceived 31 years ago and being basically miserable with each other that entire time.

[Anonymous]

what is the obsession with the STDs on here. The chances of contracting an STD from someone over 35 in a committed relationship plus using protection is slim to none. You really have to be doing some nasty people to get a disease - hookers come to mind.

It's not one big orgy with strangers all the time. It's two sane, willing people having sex. I mean, really - what percentage of the population has an STD and then what percent of them are married over the age of 35? Then take into account income, education and location. The number is less than one percent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pretty sure I would have liked to find out when I reached adulthood that my parents did what they needed to to make themselves and each other happy instead of discovering that they were not having much/any sex since my brother was conceived 31 years ago and being basically miserable with each other that entire time.

I understand your point PP but let's face it, your parents don't owe you that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pretty sure I would have liked to find out when I reached adulthood that my parents did what they needed to to make themselves and each other happy instead of discovering that they were not having much/any sex since my brother was conceived 31 years ago and being basically miserable with each other that entire time.

I understand your point PP but let's face it, your parents don't owe you that.

Your parents don't really owe you anything vis-a-vis their sex life. Most people don't want to contemplate ANYTHING about their parents' sex lives. I think the obsession with "what will your kids think when they find out" is ridiculous. First, there are loads of kids being raised in nontraditional families - some openly polyamorous, some gay, some not openly polyamorous, some with divorced parents, some kinky, etc etc etc - and some kids handle it well, some kids don't. Second, are you going to censor everything about your sexuality that might in some way scandalize your kids, should they find out? Do you think your kids want to think about you having oral sex? Or engaging in S&M? Or watching porn? Are you not going to do any of those things because one day, the kids might find out?

[Anonymous]

I'm the quoted PP...

Agreed. I would rather have not known anything about their sex life, absolutely, but once my mom brought it up there it was, and then I knew, and I wish I didn't but I did/do. I think the "what will your kids think when they find out" is silly and I wish she had kept it to herself but she didn't.

[Anonymous]

Like, really did not want to know... so much that I stated it twice above.

[Anonymous]

I feel sorry for your children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm the quoted PP...

Agreed. I would rather have not known anything about their sex life, absolutely, but once my mom brought it up there it was, and then I knew, and I wish I didn't but I did/do. I think the "what will your kids think when they find out" is silly and I wish she had kept it to herself but she didn't.

I'm the one who quoted you - I think you're dead on with what you said! Your parents get to have their private sex lives, just like you get to have your private sex life. Hopefully.

[Anonymous]

^ Word to that ^ The kids don't want to know. I love my mom and I'm happy to be there for her any way she needs me to be but I would have rather skipped this conversation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your kids will feel betrayed, because the person they always thought you were is not who you are. They will feel that their parent was deceptive and living a lie. They just will. When your kids find out (and they will), your relationship with them will change forever. Your family will implode.

Project much?

[Anonymous]

I would rather that my parents had found sexual satisfaction elsewhere and kept their marriage stable than have secret affairs, which is what they did.