Would you be upset if DH allowed toddler DD to have alcoholic drink?

[Anonymous]

Yesterday morning, DH made a fruit shake. Since he didn't put any dairy in it (DD is allergic) I let her drink from my glass. Dd is 20 months old. DH saw that DD was drinking my drink (she finished 3/4th of my small glass) and made a few comments about how it wasn't for her and to give it back to me. I didn't think anything of it. Just thought that maybe because she had already had a lot of fruit that morning, maybe he was concerned she was having too much fruit.

Today, DH jokingly says "oh well since its been 24 hours and she's fine, had no reaction, I'll tell you....the shake yesterday had alcohol in it." I was floored. Wtf?? Why didn't he just tell me? I would have stopped letting DD drink it. I asked him why he didn't just tell me that and he didn't have a good response, just that I had already let her have some of the drink.

Am I completely off base to be upset? I just don't understand. I feel like he was really irresponsible. Alcohol + small child = not a good idea. Wtf was he thinking?? I'm angry that instead of taking the 2 seconds to tell me it had alcohol, he let her drink it. And why withhold that info from me? I'm still nursing so I should know if I'm having alcohol!

Thought?

[Anonymous]

Absolutely agree. Would just let him know calmly that you really didn't like that and in the future can you agree not to allow her to have any alcohol no matter what.

[Anonymous]

I would be totally upset too.

[Anonymous]

You couldnt tell that there was alcohol in it? Do you and your husband usually have alcohol smoothies for breakfast?

Strange story.

[Anonymous]

There's no way this is a real post.

[Anonymous]

Hmm. Very strange story. I find it odd that he let your daughter drink 1/4 of it - if it had been just a sip, I would say not something that I personally would do, but not a huge deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You couldnt tell that there was alcohol in it? Do you and your husband usually have alcohol smoothies for breakfast?

Strange story.

OP here. I thought something tasted a bit weird so I asked DH what was in it. He replied with bananas, oranges, pineapple. That's it. I took a few sips but let DD have the majority of it.

Apparently DH adds alcohol to drinks without me knowing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There's no way this is a real post.

I wish it weren't. When he told me I was in disbelief. All I kept saying was why didn't you tell me? I mean, I'm not going to be mad that you added alcohol to your drink. You are a grown man. But now I am mad that you let our toddler have alcohol.

[Anonymous]

OP, maybe DH was embarrassed about putting alcohol in the drink? He might be a grown man, but it might be that he is intentionally hiding his alcohol consumption from you by putting it in drinks like this rather than having a beer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There's no way this is a real post.

I wish it weren't. When he told me I was in disbelief. All I kept saying was why didn't you tell me? I mean, I'm not going to be mad that you added alcohol to your drink. You are a grown man. But now I am mad that you let our toddler have alcohol.

But didn't he put alcohol in YOUR drink?

[Anonymous]

Sort if strange but yes I'd be furious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, maybe DH was embarrassed about putting alcohol in the drink? He might be a grown man, but it might be that he is intentionally hiding his alcohol consumption from you by putting it in drinks like this rather than having a beer.

I'm thinking this is the case.

[Anonymous]

You both sound like idiots.

[Anonymous]

I'd call the police. I'm serious. And yes, I'm a drinker, but if someone unknowing gave me alcohol while I was nursing and let me feed a substantive amount of it to my 2 year-old, I'd call the damn police. Your husband is out of his mind!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yesterday morning, DH made a fruit shake. Since he didn't put any dairy in it (DD is allergic) I let her drink from my glass. Dd is 20 months old. DH saw that DD was drinking my drink (she finished 3/4th of my small glass) and made a few comments about how it wasn't for her and to give it back to me. I didn't think anything of it. Just thought that maybe because she had already had a lot of fruit that morning, maybe he was concerned she was having too much fruit.

Today, DH jokingly says "oh well since its been 24 hours and she's fine, had no reaction, I'll tell you....the shake yesterday had alcohol in it." I was floored. Wtf?? Why didn't he just tell me? I would have stopped letting DD drink it. I asked him why he didn't just tell me that and he didn't have a good response, just that I had already let her have some of the drink.

Am I completely off base to be upset? I just don't understand. I feel like he was really irresponsible. Alcohol + small child = not a good idea. Wtf was he thinking?? I'm angry that instead of taking the 2 seconds to tell me it had alcohol, he let her drink it. And why withhold that info from me? I'm still nursing so I should know if I'm having alcohol!

Thought?

Why is he making alcoholic drinks in the morning?