Top regrets in life

[Anonymous]

I still miss her. I wish things were different. There is no one day/hour that I don't think of her.

[Anonymous]

I was a terrible adolescent. I got involved with drugs. I hurt a lot of people and was a bad influence on my friends. I truly regret the negative impact i had on their lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was a terrible adolescent. I got involved with drugs. I hurt a lot of people and was a bad influence on my friends. I truly regret the negative impact i had on their lives.

I'm sorry, but this gives me hope for my own troubled adolescent. You sound like you're in a better place now and can realistically reflect on your past.

Be gentle with yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I became morbidly obese in 3rd grade when I was 9-10 years old due to severe physical and sexual violence. Being a fat girl ruined my life more than the abuse did. It was a miserable, joyless existence.

Oh my dear, I am so sorry that a horrible person hurt you so much. I wish I could offer love and forgiveness to that little girl who just protected you as best she knew how....the only way she knew to survive then. With no other coping mechanisms and no other way to dissociate or escape or feel safe (or at least numb) temporarily, that little girl did the very best she could. I admire her so much for finding a way to survive, and I'm sorry that oTHER PEOPLE made it worse for that little girl by being so awful about fatness. I am so angry at all the people who were cruel to you or considered you invisible because your shape changed in response to trauma.

I hope you are surrounded by love now and have so much more support.

[Anonymous]

Taking my science degree and doing something more lucrative than going into teaching.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I regret not having more sex when I was in college. I met and married DH young and it was the right choice but means I did not get to experiment at all.

FWIW, I don’t regret law school! The key to not regretting law school is not going into significant debt to do it. Then you can choose your path based on what you want to do rather than based purely on money.

Same here….I suggest you experiment WITH your husband!!

[Anonymous]

Wish we’d realize the balance of a career/job, money and comfort.

DH and I have given so much to jobs that are important to us and serve the larger community… but we’ve always worked fairly intensive jobs with long hours and didn’t really earn enough to meet all our financial needs and desires.

We’ve talked to our kids about our having made mistakes and the importance of planning a career that also considers finances more than we did.

[Anonymous]

Marrying DH, hands down the biggest mistake in my life.

[Anonymous]

I regret keeping my late father’s alcoholism and abuse a deep, dark secret. I tried just one time only - via a daily high school journal assignment - submitted to a a school social worker (Fairfax County) outlining the sparest details of my anguish and anxiety. She returned it only with a tiny handwritten note: “have you tried Ala-Teen?” Then, complete and utter silence, causing me deep shame and embarrassment and led to my toxic thinking that what I was dealing with was no big deal, part of being a teenager, I didn’t matter, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I regret keeping my late father’s alcoholism and abuse a deep, dark secret. I tried just one time only - via a daily high school journal assignment - submitted to a a school social worker (Fairfax County) outlining the sparest details of my anguish and anxiety. She returned it only with a tiny handwritten note: “have you tried Ala-Teen?” Then, complete and utter silence, causing me deep shame and embarrassment and led to my toxic thinking that what I was dealing with was no big deal, part of being a teenager, I didn’t matter, etc.

Sorry to hear that. All the do is try to get stories from students and have their teachers and staff tell their students "we are required to report" but what do they do to actually help students?? What you needed then and if you can, now, get a qualified therapist. You deserve better.

[Anonymous]

Missed romantic connection. When you meet someone and spend a perfect time with them in true “Before Sunset” style and then never talk to them again. Sigh.

[Anonymous]

Moving when ds was 10. It meant leaving my job and also going away from medical care I needed at that time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Missed romantic connection. When you meet someone and spend a perfect time with them in true “Before Sunset” style and then never talk to them again. Sigh.

Same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I miss my husband. He was a complete ass but he was my best friend. I spent $300,00 to get out of a shit show but truthfully my life is no better.

Why would you divorce then?

[Anonymous]

scrolling DCUM too much