Any other moms out just not order when you eat with your family?

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Anonymous wrote:What?! No this is bizarre. If we go out to eat we all get an entree. If you can’t afford it just cook at home.

Not that I need to defend this but when I did it recently we were flying out of DCA and we needed to eat before our flight. We went to Ben Chili’s bowl which didn’t have a kid’s menu and when my daughter got chicken fingers I just didn’t get anything because I didn’t want to fly with leftovers or waste a crap ton of food. One chicken finger order was enough for both of us. She weighs about 45 lbs.

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Is this an American thing?

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM is so funny. I've read so many posts that are - "I make almost $200,000 but my DH is the real breadwinner at $500,000...."

Then around Christmas, people will post about getting their kids 4 things (one of which is a book and another is pajamas or something equally dull).

And now, it's, "We order 1 entree and a side for the family to share."

Hahaha +1

Right!! I am poor by dcum standards but when family goes out each person get an entree of their choosing to enjoy. I grew up with an almond mom who does not prepare enough food when she hosts and even she has always ordered her own entree at restaurants!

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Anonymous wrote:Wow I can’t believe OP is still come back and defending this weirdness. It’s a free country! No one can make you order a meal (well actually I guess the restaurant manager could give you the choice of doing that or leaving but they won’t realistically). But it’s a really ridiculous choice. You already said your family finds you weird and cheap. I still remember an older cousin doing this while out to eat with our family doing and eating her toddler’s scraps when I was like 8 so a good 30 years ago. My mom was SO humiliated and tried not to show but leaving a huge tip to try to compensate. It’s weird and awkward for everyone else but it sounds like you prefer that to wasting any food at all (or eating it later, which I really can’t understand either). I posted earlier that I really think you should stop going to restaurants and I still feel that way. It sounds like you’re miserable and making everyone else uncomfortable.

where was it said that op's family feels uncomfortable?

Um, literally her post just a few back where she says she TELLS (not asks) them that she is going to eat their food, and they say no, then she does it anyway. And they have no choice but leave some for her because Mommy Has No Food.

This. Sharing food is fine if both parties agree, but basically you’re teaching your kids that they can just not order food and eat off someone else’s plates. My mom’s husband does this and it’s really annoying - he’s frugal and likes to police what they eat (he has a sweet tooth) and it’s a way for him to eat junky food without guilt. I can see it irritate my mom, because he will never order his own food, just declare he’s not hungry…then eat 95% of the dessert or whatever they order. Good manners is ordering what you can eat. Even if that is a soup.

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Yes I do. Our family just can't handle US-sized portions. We order two meals for three people.

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Anonymous wrote:What?! No this is bizarre. If we go out to eat we all get an entree. If you can’t afford it just cook at home.

Not that I need to defend this but when I did it recently we were flying out of DCA and we needed to eat before our flight. We went to Ben Chili’s bowl which didn’t have a kid’s menu and when my daughter got chicken fingers I just didn’t get anything because I didn’t want to fly with leftovers or waste a crap ton of food. One chicken finger order was enough for both of us. She weighs about 45 lbs.

I can’t conceive of why you would think of this as “we shared an order” and not as martyr- style, “I didn’t order anything”.

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I do this. Usually because I am on a diet and/or fasting and the children are hungry so I'll order a drink and sit with them. But this is normally while we are out running around doing errands. Plus I'm not usually hungry when I am out trying to get things done.

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Anonymous wrote:What?! No this is bizarre. If we go out to eat we all get an entree. If you can’t afford it just cook at home.

Not that I need to defend this but when I did it recently we were flying out of DCA and we needed to eat before our flight. We went to Ben Chili’s bowl which didn’t have a kid’s menu and when my daughter got chicken fingers I just didn’t get anything because I didn’t want to fly with leftovers or waste a crap ton of food. One chicken finger order was enough for both of us. She weighs about 45 lbs.

I can’t conceive of why you would think of this as “we shared an order” and not as martyr- style, “I didn’t order anything”.

Wouldn’t. I would think of it as sharing, not as my kid ordering and me having left overs.

But I also don’t think that fast food when you are in transit is the same as going out to eat.

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Anonymous wrote:I do this. Usually because I am on a diet and/or fasting and the children are hungry so I'll order a drink and sit with them. But this is normally while we are out running around doing errands. Plus I'm not usually hungry when I am out trying to get things done.

Are you doing this at a fast food restaurant, or at a regular table service restaurant?

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Anonymous wrote:What?! No this is bizarre. If we go out to eat we all get an entree. If you can’t afford it just cook at home.

Not that I need to defend this but when I did it recently we were flying out of DCA and we needed to eat before our flight. We went to Ben Chili’s bowl which didn’t have a kid’s menu and when my daughter got chicken fingers I just didn’t get anything because I didn’t want to fly with leftovers or waste a crap ton of food. One chicken finger order was enough for both of us. She weighs about 45 lbs.

I can’t conceive of why you would think of this as “we shared an order” and not as martyr- style, “I didn’t order anything”.

Wouldn’t. I would think of it as sharing, not as my kid ordering and me having left overs.

But I also don’t think that fast food when you are in transit is the same as going out to eat.

DP here
But is that what OP was talking about? OP didn't specify "fast food in transit." What I assume she meant was going to a regular restaurant and not ordering anything.

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Anonymous wrote:I do this. Usually because I am on a diet and/or fasting and the children are hungry so I'll order a drink and sit with them. But this is normally while we are out running around doing errands. Plus I'm not usually hungry when I am out trying to get things done.

Are you doing this at a fast food restaurant, or at a regular table service restaurant?

fast food, fast casual and sit down. i've done it everywhere. i don't care what anyone thinks about it. No one has ever said anything to me

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Anonymous wrote:What?! No this is bizarre. If we go out to eat we all get an entree. If you can’t afford it just cook at home.

Not that I need to defend this but when I did it recently we were flying out of DCA and we needed to eat before our flight. We went to Ben Chili’s bowl which didn’t have a kid’s menu and when my daughter got chicken fingers I just didn’t get anything because I didn’t want to fly with leftovers or waste a crap ton of food. One chicken finger order was enough for both of us. She weighs about 45 lbs.

The ultimate White DCUM Almond Mom: go to a well-known DC landmark restaurant because you can snap a pic of the famous sign outside for Instagram, then go in and order not the world-famous chili or half-smokes, but nothing for you and then Mommy’s Going to Share Your Food. But hey, you put that pic up on Instagram and got your “street cred” for visiting Black-owned DC institution.

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this seemingly innocuous thread has somehow flushed out some absolute crazies. no idea why ppl are so triggered by this.

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Anonymous wrote:I sometimes did this because I am cheap, picky, and don’t like to see food wasted. I don’t think it’s a big deal. Now that my kids are older and more likely to finish their meals, I rarely skip ordering. I don’t see why people need to shame others so much.

The shamers in this thread are most likely fat gluttons who are justifying their over spending and over eating as being… feminism?

So, you think that people who actually eat dinner are “over eaters” and “fat?” But, you’re the one without weird food hangups?

No I think the people shaming OP are fat over eaters. Work on your reading comprehension.

Disordered behavior should be described as such. It does no one any good to pretend that OP is healthy and okay. She's not. It's like calling it "shaming" to describe a tumor as cancer.

It’s not disordered just because some over dramatic idiots could never dream of NOT wasting food and money every time they belly up to the trough.

I don’t think OP’s choices are disordered, just set a bad example for her kids. That being said, all the comments saying it is disordered eating have been relatively kind and not shaming. Your comments on other posters however…

What world are you living in where it is KIND to tell a mother that she has an eating disorder, is acting like a martyr, and is a bad mother (sorry, setting a bad example for her children)?

NP. It is literally modeling for your kids that mom doesn’t choose or get a full entree; mom gets what others pick, and she gets the scraps.

It is literally modeling that the family doesn’t waste food or money, and mom is smart and savvy.

It’s neither smart nor savvy to have 1/2 a cheeseburger and one chicken tender for dinner as a 36yo woman when what you really want—and what would be healthier for you—is the salmon, or the salad with goat cheese, or the gnocchi with brown sage butter.

Gnocchi with brown sage butter is very yummy but certainly not ‘good for you’ or even better for you than someone’s discarded cheeseburger piece. Hilarious but true

What’s “hilarious” is you thinking that preservative-filled, ultra-processed, sodium-laden chicken tenders or a Sysco burger are “better” for you than house-made, fresh gnocchi. Not everything is about calories, you know. Freshly made food vs. processed frozen Sysco crap. And you think the cheeseburger is healthier? LOL.

NP. To be fair, the kind of place that serves house made gnocchi is not the same place that serves Sysco burgers. If you get a burger at the gnocchi place it’s probably quality meat.

I get it, you’ve never worked at a restaurant. I have. An Italian restaurant serving freshly made gnocchi focuses on Italian fare and adult palates. They have a kids menu as a courtesy. And no, kid burgers and fries are not fresh, they are coming off the Sysco truck. No, they don’t freshly bread chicken tenders. Those are frozen, dear. So are the fries.

'dear' - are you eighty years old?
there are aproximately 800k restaurants in america. generalizing about how all of them make their burgers and gnocchi. This is the most ridiculous point of argument have ever seen on this site.

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Anonymous wrote:No, when mine were little I'd sometimes get meals to share but no, that's silly. Get your kids kids meals or have them share.

op - where we live there are very few kid meal type restaurants, and everything is super expensive.

Sure. There are only expensive places around you. You are so fancy.

But somehow these fancy places do serve chicken nuggets and cheeseburgers but only in adult portions which the child eats most of, leaving scraps for mom. Strange.

you realize there are many posters on this thread right?