Any Parents Privately Disappointed with College Placement?
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Anonymous
| My kids are at Cathedral schools, too. While there are a few parents or students who disregard the handbook request not to give giftss, and while the faculty and staff are gracious enough to accept the gifts, the giving of gifts is frowned upon. The parents and students all know who these rule-breakers are. The rule-breakers are marked as brown-nosers. |
Anonymous
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"The parents and students all know who these rule-breakers are. The rule-breakers are marked as brown-nosers."
Really? Some families discreetly provide gifts to faculty and staff. Your reply is laughable. |
Anonymous
What's even more laughable is that you think people don't find out about the gifts. |
Anonymous
| Color you green pp. I know the heads of all of the schools accept play tickets, baseball tickets, weeks at the beach, etc. and so do the faculty. Your assertions are simply ridiculous. |
Anonymous
I said some families discreetly provide gifts to faculty and staff; they tactfully, tastefully, quietly do so. A few people probably are aware of their gift giving and look the other way. You made a blanket statement that it's on community blast what families are breaking the rules by gift giving and they "are marked as brown nosers." |
Anonymous
No tthe pp but how do you know this? I simply have not seen this behavior at 3 different private schools my children have attended. One school allows parents to give tickets into a pool for faculty and staff but not to a specific person. |
Anonymous
| According to her post, she knows about it because she's done it, and the teacher didn't return the gift. |
Anonymous
| I am a teacher and I will say this: I hate brown nosers. I can't imagine the pair of tickets or the beach week that would be worth it to me to be beholden to some parents. I have had parents try to give me things and I always graciously decline. I don't forget, though. And--newsflash!--it's never the parents of the really good students who attempt this. I find it manipulative and condescending. What I really like is when a student writes me a heartfelt note about how I have helped them in some way. Preferably delivered after grades are due. (I don't read them before I turn in grades anyway, despite what parents might think.) |
Anonymous
Oh...and do you teach at one of the Cathedral schools? |
Anonymous
As a matter of fact, I do. But I previously taught at another Big 3 school and I can tell you that the sentiment there among teachers was much the same. |
Anonymous
| How convenient Ms. Troll. |
Anonymous
LOL, as transparent as glass. |
Anonymous
| It's the parents of really rich students who offer up their beach weeks. At our school, 2 of the athletes whose families were in the car dealership business offered up their limo services for the athletic director. I really thought that was wrong, but no one at the school blinked. Whoever thinks this stuff doesn't go on doesn't have a kid at an elite private school. |
Anonymous
| I'm sorry I tried to share my honest perspective. I'm not sure what a "troll" is (I am a teacher, as I mentioned above), but I thought readers might be interested in hearing about this from a teacher's point of view. |
Anonymous
| please -- let it rest |