What about people who stay way too long for a playdate?
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Anonymous
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We invited a friend over for a morning playdate and the family stayed for over 5 hours. I expected them to stay for an hour or two. We fed them lunch and thought they would leave. We put our kids down for naps. HINT to leave. Then they decided to let their baby nap at our house too. The FINALLY left at almost 5pm.
Who stays at a playdate for over 5 hours?!?!?! When and how can you ask them to leave? |
Anonymous
| LOL I'd have straight up lied after awhile. "Well this has been great, but we have plans at 3, so we'll have to cut things a bit short!" |
Anonymous
| I got this advice on DCUM - when inviting them over, be very clear and up front on the timeframe - "Hi - we'd love it if you guys could come over from 10-1pm and play and have lunch with us ...." And if they don't leave at that time, just speak up and say "it's been great, but we really have errands to do/dinners to cook/afternoon plans" and ask when you could set up something else. |
Anonymous
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Lol! I have had this happen more than once! Wth? I have literally had to walk one mom to the door after trying to cut it short saying we had things to do.
So annoying! |
Anonymous
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I find it best to limit the time at the outset. E.g., "Playdate from 2-4pm, and we'll serve a snack!" And when 4pm approaches, just say, "Oh, the time is coming to an end! Let's do a little clean up, then listen to some music before we have to say goodbye."
In some cultures it's not rude to stick around. It's a sign that you're having fun.  Americans are more on the "scheduled" side of things, I think!
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Anonymous
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oh my god - this has happened to me!!! playdate at 3 and at 5, they were still there... hubby called at 6 to say he was on the way home... they were still there. i actually said, well, my little ones are ready for dinner, so i'm going to give them dinner. would your kids like to eat?
"no, they're ok, they'll eat later..." i take both kids to kicthen (on another floor of the house from where we were playing) and proceed to feed them. her younger child wandered upstairs and i fed him, too. hubby comes home and she is stoill there! hung out another 30 minutes while trying to figure out if she would pick up dinner or if her husband would... awkward! |
Anonymous
| Yes, I designate a time when scheduling a playdate, and usually it's for 2 hours. However, now that my dd is 6.5, I think she is ready for a longer playdate. I am not sure if I'm ready, but she certainly had lots more things she wanted to do when the playdate ended on Saturday. |
Anonymous
| You need to tell people to leave. You may have led them to believe you wanted them to stay. |
Anonymous
| 5 hours? Holy cow! Next time say "well, I hate to cut this short, but we have to run errands/go somewhere but let's do this again soon! |
Anonymous
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Oh my OP: I thought I overstayed a recent play date so was so curious about your post. I stayed for a little over 2 hours of a dinner play date. Not nearly 5. goodness.
I've told people to leave before...but with notice. Llike we are going to put toddler to bed ina bout 30 min... I like that PP above who said put it in the invite. |
Anonymous
She has a baby, this leads me to believe that they have no idea about playdates? Is she a clueless FTM? |
Anonymous
| Are those people sticking around American or from other countries? |
Anonymous
I have American firneds who did this. First ones to arrive at the party and last to leave. Could not take a hint. |
Anonymous
| None of this makes sense to me. Just say 'don't mean to kick you out, but Jr. has to go down!' etc. Do you people have no experience interacting with others? |
Anonymous
She has a baby AND a preschooler. |