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Why is Blake Lively so overrated?
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Anonymous
I am not following your point. Neither BL nor JB should be referred to as having been convicted of anything. They are accused (by each other) so neither should be "canceled" at this point. Let the facts play out. Don't add to the horrible state of letting social media posts create "truth". |
Anonymous
Yep. The initial abuse scene was much less than it was in the book. Almost like an accident. As I've said, the whole thing is a hot mess. |
Anonymous
So before you talk to your boss you bring your husband? |
Anonymous
This is a very insightful post. I see this in many areas of life and industry. People with power become enraged if they don't get their way or something goes against them. They are so used to this working that it only emboldens their behavior. I really think BL believes she can roll over whoever she wants, then threw a tantrum when it wasn't working with Baldoni. I go back to she wanted a rom com (as another PP said, I believe rightly) and never read the book which is very much not a rom com (became successful as an "ugly cry" book) and he who optioned the property long before BL was involved wanted to stay true to the book. BL probably never should have signed on, but did perhaps believing she could bend the project to her will. Speculation, no doubt, and as I've said, I don't like either one of them. However, I think people jump on one side or the other based on cherry picking whatever detail suit their own narrative and/or psyche. |
Anonymous
My point is that you’re calling me out, but not the poster who is sure BL is “canceling” an implied innocent man. So you are policing one side while also ignoring my larger point that on its face her post is ridiculous because we don’t automatically cancel men for sexual harassment or assault in this country. |
Anonymous
She was told to bring a representative. This isn't like your boring jobby job. Do you also strip down to nothing but a sticky on your genitals on the regular at work? |
Anonymous
Context is fine but not a categorical statement like the one quoted. |
Anonymous
Rude as ever, weird that you think that makes you anything but a jerk, |
Anonymous
When you have no effective arguments, the name calling starts. Typical. |
Anonymous
You sound like a nanny. |
Anonymous
Do you have an issue with nannies? If you don’t want to talk about work don’t bring it up because what you would do at your irrelevant job has no bearing on this situation. |
Anonymous
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The p—n addiction thing is really getting to me because I know about Justin Baldoni’s porn addiction well before this lawsuit ever happened. He talks about it in his podcast and other talks. Should I sue Justin?
Obviously, it could be very inappropriate and harassment, depending on the context, but because they were talking about very sexual themes, there was an almost rape scene in the movie, things get sexually violent, his character was a very dark man, I could maybe see where he was bringing it up in a different context. Again, not defending him just saying that I’m open to that idea. I was surprised when I saw that Blake was inviting him to run lines while she pumped. Not judging her for that, but I’ve never been in a work situation comfortable enough to have a coworker with me while I pumped. Hollywood sets are very different beasts. It sounds like a lot of boundaries were crossed when maybe people were OK with it and when the relationship turned and then things are being looked at differently. I think at one point these two are very comfortable with each other and there’s no question that they had to have conversations about very dark themes to do this movie. Could be totally wrong and more could come out makes Justin look worse, I’m just saying that there is some context here, and it’s really interesting that he and his lawyer are using the term manipulation to explain Blake because I can see how it’s possible to manipulate some of these situations. I think we will learn a lot more from the actual lawsuits if they move forward. |
Anonymous
Regarding the porn addiction thing, the relevant issues to me are: 1) if Lively asked Baldoni and Heath to stop bringing it up and they kept doing it, that shows a disregard for boundaries. It's not a HUGE deal on its own, but could be part of a broader problem if Lively repeatedly tried to set boundaries and they ignored them. 2) Lively describes an incident where Baldoni was talking about porn and Lively told him she'd never seen it. Baldoni expressed surprise and made a bit g deal out of this, and then shared this info with a larger group from the cast and crew, like "can you believe she's never seen porn?" Again it's not like life shattering incident but it's obnoxious and boundary violating and if part of a pattern, I think it's a problem. For me that's the crux of it -- this stuff adds up. When I first started hearing about Lively's allegations, I was dismissive because none of them felt like that big of a deal, and it seemed like they could have been misunderstandings. But when I read the complaint, I came to see how these things add up and could just break a person. I could also see how Lively seemed to be trying to resolve the issues herself, talking to the producers or asking Sony to weigh in, but she was getting ignored or people would say an issue would be addressed and then wasn't. If true, that's a problem. |
Anonymous
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I would expect someone to jokingly mock me if I said I’d never watched porn. You don’t deserve to have an environment that caters to your every whim or is free from any discomfort. There are men out there (another example is Dax Shepard) who are really trying to get men to be more vulnerable
and to openly talk about their struggles. They want men to feel less shame in general, so they lead by example and openly talk about their own stuff. That’s why JB wrote Man Enough and had that podcast. A part of treating an addiction is getting it out in the open. And many men struggle with porn addiction. Now we’re telling them if they talk about it it’s not just shameful but actually harassment. She may have some legitimate claims but when you throw every little petty thing at someone it weakens the legitimate claims. |
Anonymous
So the context is because he’s a porn addict that’s why he’s bringing up porn at work? Can you imagine if cubicle Curt was also a porn addict and was talking about it with you? Nobody wants to hear that. Nobody wants to see your dick. Why is this so hard for some men to grasp? In fact, if he has a porn addiction I can see him wanting this movie to be as pornographic as possible. Was his friend that he put in front of Blake’s labia a porn addict too? |