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Anonymous
| My company re-orged a year ago and I went from really loving my job to working for people who really don't think the way I do and whose plans for my division are not in line with my professional goals. I have a niche piece of business that allows me to run my own projects...when there's business. We're waiting to see new business roll in towards the end of the first quarter so in the meanwhile, I'm doing a lot of busy work for people who can't make up their minds. The golden handcuffs part of this is that I've been with the company for three years and am a well-regarded member of the team. I work part-time, have 100% benefits, and am presently paid almost six figures to essentially sit on my butt and deal with bosses who drive me nuts. I'd love to quit, but I'm really not the SAH type of person and I'm fearful of having to start a new job and 'prove' myself to a new set of employers. My plan was always to stick it out here until the kids are in school and then try to find myself a serious job in government somewhere (I work in S&T policy). However, if we don't get the contract from my long-standing client (who just went through a traumatic leadership change after Congress basically forced out the ED of the org), I'm seriously thinking of quitting b/c I don't know if I can stick with a job that I hate for the next three years just so I can get a paycheck and keep my resume up to date. I love my DS but I'm really a better mom when I work. I seem to have an ideal work schedule now, but I hate the content of my work. What does the community think? If we don't get the business in March, should I start looking for another job? |
Anonymous
| sounds like you need help. What exactly is the problem. Maybe find a job that pays you less and makes you get off you ass and do something. I would stick with the job you have. |
Anonymous
| It never hurts to LOOK for another job. You are in the perfect position to do that. You have a job which, although you aren't happy, it pays the bills and sounds like the arrangement is at least family-friendly. You said you work part time, which gives you extra time to sneak away to interviews without your current employer knowing. It never hurts to know what's out there. You aren't in a position where you are desperate and just have to take SOMETHING. You can take your time and look around. If you find something better, then great. If not, then keep looking. Who knows? Your current work situation could turn around in the meantime. |
Anonymous
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Since you asked what we think I will tell you my gut reaction reading your post..... Be grateful for what you have!!!! Yes, I know it is probably frustrating and you wish you could enjoy your job, however, let me point out a few things you mentioned:
1. You have the CHOICE to SAH or work - not all of us do 2. You work part time yet receive 100% benefits - another rarity for the part time. 3. You are receiving a 6-figure salary for part time work - I would love to be there for full time, let alone part time work. 4. You run your own projects so despite being frustrated with your bosses clearly there is still some freedom you have. While your job may not be ideal, is it worth giving up the above? |
Anonymous
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Everything in life is a trade off - perhaps you need to consider - or rather re-consider the pros and cons. What would be the chances of finding another job - one you love, with the same conveinent schedule and wonderful salary. Trading one job in to be a SAHM is one thing - Trading jobs, one for another is something different and the arguements are not the same. Would you rather make less, work more, or love your job? If you can afford not to work and don't mind the loss of experince in that particular field, there are LOTS of things to do to fill up your time. Things that require skill and bring a lot of satisfaction - just choose your interest or cause.
Unlike the PP - the grass is not always greener and even a big salary and conveinent schedule don't guarentee happiness. I hope you find the right balance for you and your family. |
Anonymous
| Maybe you should work with a career counselor or life coach to see where to go next? |
zumbamama
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If you are not happy with your situation, make time to explore what else is out there. Maybe there are old colleagues you can do lunch with, expand your network, and like the PP said, see a career counselor. I have a great job, but I too get sick of it.
<br> Just last year I decided to take a new twist in my career path. Whereas I've been in publications for 10 years, my passion is really in the fitness industry. Although I could never support my family working in the fitness field fulltime, it makes a great supplemental income while allowing to me to be personally fulfilled. I never ever thought going to a Zumba workshop would change my life personally and professionally, but it sure has. <br> So go explore, and open new doors wherever you can find them. |
Anonymous
| You work part time but get paid nearly six figures and have full benefits? That's rare. As other posters have said, you'll have to be fully aware of the tradeoffs involved if you decide to make a change. Many of us can't quite grasp this, as we have Ph.D.s and other graduate degrees but don't come close to six figures, even working full time. |
Anonymous
| Not so rare in DC. I work part time and have full benefits and make well over 6 figures. Just depends on the line of work and how much experience you have. |
Anonymous
Wow. Law or medicine? |
Anonymous
| Law. |
Anonymous
| I knew I should have gone to law school. My parents wanted me to, but no, I had to get a Ph.D. I wonder if it's too late. . . . |
Anonymous
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I totally agree with Zumbamama - get out there and explore the possibilities. You don't know what the options are yet. You could find something where there is no "proving yourself" just because you're having so much FUN doing it that it ceases to be work.
I found it - and unexpectedly. It happens - just be open to different ideas and spend some time exploring. You have nothing to lose. |
Anonymous
It is never too late. My uncle graduated from law school in his early 40's. |
Anonymous
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I can understand your frustration. I was working "part-time" in a high paying job almost 3 years ago and left it so I could take a gov't job and spend more time with my family. I work "full-time" now, but I have less stress and am comfortable with where I am in my new job. Any new job brings with it new frustrations, as you mentioend, proving yourself all over again. I had been in my previous job for almost 8 year and was well respected by my colleagues and clients. However, I was not happy and if you're not happy during the day, can you leave that at work when you come home? As many PPs mentioned you do have a lot of benefits, you have to weigh those benefits with the cons of your current job and see what else is out there. I took over a 50K pay cut to go gov't, but I'm much happier and get ot spend more time with my family and have little or no travel now. You have to figure out what is best for you. Plus, I understand about not wanting to SAH, I could never do it and for those who do SAH, I give them all the credit in the world. It's just not for me.
Best of luck. BTW- what is S&T policy? |