Hate my job but don't want to SAH

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I knew I should have gone to law school. My parents wanted me to, but no, I had to get a Ph.D. I wonder if it's too late. . . .

It is never too late. My uncle graduated from law school in his early 40's.

Well, that would be me. Or mid-40s. Maybe I should look into programs that would work for a SAHM. But I feel back for hijacking the OP's thread.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks for all the support! To answer some questions:
1. S&T Policy is science and technology policy, basically federal science policy. I ghost write policy reports for high level commissions, boards, etc.
2. To the SAHM in her 40's who's going to law school...you rock! I hope it works out for you.
3. I totally realize that in terms of salary, benefits, and schedule, I have a charmed professional existance and was kind of embaressed to post this in the first place. However, the re-org has stuck me with people whose views for the future of the company don't jibe with mine. They drive me nuts. No matter how much money and flexibility, it's not worth it to be miserable in my job.
4. I'm going to stick it out until March, but as many PP suggested, I'm going to start netoworking like crazy. That always seems to be a good step and leads to something, but work has been so demoralizing, it's been hard to get motivated (also hard when you have a 14 m.o. running around.
Thanks as always. DCUMs rule!

[coachursula]

What if your only job was to have a great life?

I recently left a high paying job at a large DC law firm to start my own coaching business. I now have a great life and I am committed to assisting others to do the same. If you are curious about the possibilities, I'd be happy to chat with you.

Ursula Bass
[e-mail]
www.AccomplishmentCoaching.com

[Anonymous]

coachursula wrote:What if your only job was to have a great life?

I recently left a high paying job at a large DC law firm to start my own coaching business. I now have a great life and I am committed to assisting others to do the same. If you are curious about the possibilities, I'd be happy to chat with you.

Ursula Bass
[e-mail]
www.AccomplishmentCoaching.com

Ursula - I am not sure if you were aware, but DCUM is really an advertising-free zone. There is guide of some sort that DCUMs can post their businesses on, but this type of advertising in response to posts is really not supposed to happen. Imagine if all entrepreneurs took this approach. This wouldn't be the great resource that it is today!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:sounds like you need help. What exactly is the problem. Maybe find a job that pays you less and makes you get off you ass and do something. I would stick with the job you have.

Hysterical. Or maybe stay at home and actually do some work - and get tons of satisfaction each and every day. Especially considering your salary isn't that much.

[Anonymous]

I would keep the job but do some exploring and networking. I work part-time with full benefits, make very good money, but took a salary cut to go part-time (I'm ok with that), and know for a fact that it's hard to find a company and job that will allow you to work part-time, maybe down the road...but not initially. With the economy in a funk, layoffs, I'm sure more people are doing the work of more than one person-would be hard to convince a new employer to hire you as only part-time. I've often thought about checking out what else is out there, not for the same reasons you are, I'm ready for a new challenge-but I have it to damn good and do like what I do. Network but be cautious.

[Anonymous]

Have you tried SAH? If you give it a chance, you may find it very satisfying and rewarding.

There is no pay involved of course and it is pretty much a thankless job until child is married and giving you grandchildren to dote on ....then they'll appreciate your years and years of love, affection, and sacrifices.

[Anonymous]

Did you READ her post?? She doesn't want to stay home. Some of work AND give our children lots of love time and attention while also maintaining a sense of identity separate from our children. Geez. Fine if you want to stay home, but some of us don't, and our kids and marriages are just fine. My mother didn't stay home, I don't, neither does my sister, and all our families are happy and thriving. And we don't need to scrimp and live without saving either. Face it, a lot of staying home is being a housekeeper, which is fine if that's what you want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you tried SAH? If you give it a chance, you may find it very satisfying and rewarding.

There is no pay involved of course and it is pretty much a thankless job until child is married and giving you grandchildren to dote on ....then they'll appreciate your years and years of love, affection, and sacrifices.

She said she wasn't the kind of person who could be at home all day! Personally, I like having something for myself. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you READ her post?? She doesn't want to stay home. Some of work AND give our children lots of love time and attention while also maintaining a sense of identity separate from our children. Geez. Fine if you want to stay home, but some of us don't, and our kids and marriages are just fine. My mother didn't stay home, I don't, neither does my sister, and all our families are happy and thriving. And we don't need to scrimp and live without saving either. Face it, a lot of staying home is being a housekeeper, which is fine if that's what you want.

I second that!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you tried SAH? If you give it a chance, you may find it very satisfying and rewarding.

There is no pay involved of course and it is pretty much a thankless job until child is married and giving you grandchildren to dote on ....then they'll appreciate your years and years of love, affection, and sacrifices.

She said she wasn't the kind of person who could be at home all day! Personally, I like having something for myself. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that either.

Well, she also said she's getting NO satisfaction from work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you tried SAH? If you give it a chance, you may find it very satisfying and rewarding.

There is no pay involved of course and it is pretty much a thankless job until child is married and giving you grandchildren to dote on ....then they'll appreciate your years and years of love, affection, and sacrifices.

She said she wasn't the kind of person who could be at home all day! Personally, I like having something for myself. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that either.

Well, she also said she's getting NO satisfaction from work.

Those are 2 separate issues. Aren't they?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:....then they'll appreciate your years and years of love, affection, and sacrifices.

I wouldn't count on that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you tried SAH? If you give it a chance, you may find it very satisfying and rewarding.

There is no pay involved of course and it is pretty much a thankless job until child is married and giving you grandchildren to dote on ....then they'll appreciate your years and years of love, affection, and sacrifices.

She said she wasn't the kind of person who could be at home all day! Personally, I like having something for myself. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that either.

Well, she also said she's getting NO satisfaction from work.

Not work per se just her particular job

[Anonymous]

Thank you 1238 poster. That was what I was trying to convey when I asked the OP if she would (re)consider staying home. If she hates her job as much as OP was ranting about than why NOT consider staying at home?

Other than that, I think OP answered her own question - network and paw around for what else is out there. Not even sure why this was a post to begin with.