Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority

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North West is a cute kid and they have a a cute family (they being Kim, Kanye and North) in a famewhorish sort of way. I do believe Kanye really loves the girls in his life. And I don't think Kanye is ugly.

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Anonymous wrote:"On their deathbed nobody wishes they spent more time at work and everybody wishes they spent more time with their family" - More people would do well to listen to this in the dmv

Well wohm's, on your deathbed what are you going to regret? not "accomplishing professionally" or not spending enough time with your family?

I know I won't regret being able to spend time with my spouse because he didn't have to take some big law job or other job with crazy hours in order to support me SAHM. We have both been able to take flexible jobs with work at home several days per week. I love that neither of us will ever have to work past 5:00 and can be around for our kids.

I was raised by a SAHM and my dad worked long hours and often traveled. The only women I know who SAH in this area have husbands who work crazy hours (which is why I think so many SAHMs have warped views about how many hours all of us working parents spend away from our kids). To me, a healthy balance of mom and dad working is preferable. We still all get plenty of quality time together. But thanks for being so concerned with how I will feel on my death bed. I'm sure your concern came from a place of good intentions and not from a place of insecurity.

Interesting. I'm a SAHM and neither my husband nor the husbands of all the other SAHMs I know work "crazy hours." It seems you are the one with the "warped view" of SAHMs and the hours their husbands work. Could it be that there are all kinds of different family/work situations? Not the PP, btw.

You don't know any SAHMs with husbands who work crazy hours? That surprises me (not pp).

No, I honestly don't. And my own husband is home every night for dinner, usually around 6:30 or so.

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Anonymous wrote:The whole "on your death bed, you will not regret the time you spent with family, but will regret the time you spent working" line is such garbage. It's like those inspirational sayings people with way too much time on their hands post on Pinterest (aka "last one to the finish line still beats the person sitting on the couch!").

It's such a privileged view along the lines of "do what you love." Ummm I hate to break it to you, but you are able to spend time with family or do what you love on the backs of others who are working to keep society going. If you have the means to SAH, then be grateful and show a little humility. But realize that it is working moms who are teaching your children, running federal agencies you rely upon, ringing up your groceries, cutting your hair, giving you Pap smears, etc.

There is absolutely no need to make catty remarks about how these women have missed their kids' childhood, will regret working on their death bed, don't care about their family, etc. Maybe be a little thankful that there are enough able bodied workers out there keeping things running so that you can SAH and do all the things you need to do on a regular basis.

I'm a SAHM and I agree with you. I'm grateful each and every day that I can be home. However, maybe you missed the horrendous insults thrown at SAHMs over on the Mommy Wars thread. Some of us are naturally a little defensive after having been called "stupid, unmotivated, and unaccomplished," simply because we decided to leave the career track for a time to stay home with our kids. I'd consider those remarks catty, wouldn't you? And that's being awfully generous.

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Anonymous wrote:I think that the best school option is a good public school in an expensive area. The teachers tend to be excellent, well trained and professional. Private school teachers tend to be there because they "look the part" and can make high paying parents feel good that their kid is being taught by "one of them." Generally good looking, well dressed white women who were raised rich and majored in elementary education because they thought they would be SAHMs. Private school is more about social indoctrination than academics or "environment" or escaping testing. Diversity in private schools is manufactured and controlled by the admissions committee, an inorganic process, to put it nicely. "Hey, we need more brown faces in the brochure! Do we know any brown people we can recruit?"

perhaps my private school was an anomaly. i had many teachers with phds, and looking back, many courses were on par with college courses in terms of variety, difficulty, and subject matter. it was 100% about using academics to create opportunities, and using opportunities as tools for learning. chinese offered as a foreign language, with summer trips to china, mandatory freshmen week-long outward bound expedition, etc. i am very grateful for my experience.

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Anonymous wrote:"On their deathbed nobody wishes they spent more time at work and everybody wishes they spent more time with their family" - More people would do well to listen to this in the dmv

Well wohm's, on your deathbed what are you going to regret? not "accomplishing professionally" or not spending enough time with your family?

I have asked you repeatedly (and I know it's you because your grammar is suspect) what your solution to the working moms "problem" is or what moms working in your "ideal world" looks like. You have never responded seriously. Not once. You only come on here to troll and post this face:

There is another mommy wars thread now, please go post there instead. We're talking about Obama and infertility now.

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Anonymous wrote:I've always felt that private school was for the really dumb kids with extremely low IQ's. The kids who can't hack it in the real world go to private because public is to difficult for them. Around here however that doesn't seem to be the case. Still a difficult stereotype to get over.

I don't know much about private K-12 schools but I feel this way about a lot of private colleges/universities. Obviously the "top" colleges in the US are private but there are also a lot (I mean, A LOT) of really bad private colleges. And they're horribly expensive, too. I feel like anymore, those schools exist to cater to a certain demographic of middle to upper-middle class to working wealthy families, who's kids can't get into the top privates, and either can't get into their state's top public (a real problem with the good publics like UVA, Michigan, UNC, etc. which cap enrollment for in-state kids so the standard for in-state kids is much higher than out-of-staters) or choose not to attend it for whatever reason. They're stuck with huge debt or their parents front the overpriced bill to a tiny college hardly anyone has ever heard about.

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Anonymous wrote:The whole "on your death bed, you will not regret the time you spent with family, but will regret the time you spent working" line is such garbage. It's like those inspirational sayings people with way too much time on their hands post on Pinterest (aka "last one to the finish line still beats the person sitting on the couch!").

It's such a privileged view along the lines of "do what you love." Ummm I hate to break it to you, but you are able to spend time with family or do what you love on the backs of others who are working to keep society going. If you have the means to SAH, then be grateful and show a little humility. But realize that it is working moms who are teaching your children, running federal agencies you rely upon, ringing up your groceries, cutting your hair, giving you Pap smears, etc.

There is absolutely no need to make catty remarks about how these women have missed their kids' childhood, will regret working on their death bed, don't care about their family, etc. Maybe be a little thankful that there are enough able bodied workers out there keeping things running so that you can SAH and do all the things you need to do on a regular basis.

I'm a SAHM and I agree with you. I'm grateful each and every day that I can be home. However, maybe you missed the horrendous insults thrown at SAHMs over on the Mommy Wars thread. Some of us are naturally a little defensive after having been called "stupid, unmotivated, and unaccomplished," simply because we decided to leave the career track for a time to stay home with our kids. I'd consider those remarks catty, wouldn't you? And that's being awfully generous.

I did catch those remarks and have posted saying I don't agree with them. But when a SAHM begins bashing working moms, she is also bashing the working moms who haven't made those snide remarks. Which is why I'm equally calling out the SAHMs who are being snarky.

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Anonymous wrote:"On their deathbed nobody wishes they spent more time at work and everybody wishes they spent more time with their family" - More people would do well to listen to this in the dmv

Well wohm's, on your deathbed what are you going to regret? not "accomplishing professionally" or not spending enough time with your family?

I have asked you repeatedly (and I know it's you because your grammar is suspect) what your solution to the working moms "problem" is or what moms working in your "ideal world" looks like. You have never responded seriously. Not once. You only come on here to troll and post this face:

There is another mommy wars thread now, please go post there instead. We're talking about Obama and infertility now.

I am sorry that I do not obsessively check DCUM I would give my answer to the 'working moms problem" but you would use it as proof that I am and by all extension all sahm's are am an unfixable mess of nasty adjectives (Did you sleep with your critical thinking lecturer? I can't see how you would pass otherwise).

It may turn out better that someone else is raising your kids. I would hate for them to be filled with so much anger and nastiness as you

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Anonymous wrote:I've always felt that private school was for the really dumb kids with extremely low IQ's. The kids who can't hack it in the real world go to private because public is to difficult for them. Around here however that doesn't seem to be the case. Still a difficult stereotype to get over.

+1 When I was growing up the kids who could not behave etc went to private school

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Anonymous wrote:I've always felt that private school was for the really dumb kids with extremely low IQ's. The kids who can't hack it in the real world go to private because public is to difficult for them. Around here however that doesn't seem to be the case. Still a difficult stereotype to get over.

I don't know much about private K-12 schools but I feel this way about a lot of private colleges/universities. Obviously the "top" colleges in the US are private but there are also a lot (I mean, A LOT) of really bad private colleges. And they're horribly expensive, too. I feel like anymore, those schools exist to cater to a certain demographic of middle to upper-middle class to working wealthy families, who's kids can't get into the top privates, and either can't get into their state's top public (a real problem with the good publics like UVA, Michigan, UNC, etc. which cap enrollment for in-state kids so the standard for in-state kids is much higher than out-of-staters) or choose not to attend it for whatever reason. They're stuck with huge debt or their parents front the overpriced bill to a tiny college hardly anyone has ever heard about.

Yes! This exactly!

[Anonymous]

porn is disgusting and should be banned

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"On their deathbed nobody wishes they spent more time at work and everybody wishes they spent more time with their family" - More people would do well to listen to this in the dmv

Well wohm's, on your deathbed what are you going to regret? not "accomplishing professionally" or not spending enough time with your family?

I have asked you repeatedly (and I know it's you because your grammar is suspect) what your solution to the working moms "problem" is or what moms working in your "ideal world" looks like. You have never responded seriously. Not once. You only come on here to troll and post this face:

There is another mommy wars thread now, please go post there instead. We're talking about Obama and infertility now.

I am sorry that I do not obsessively check DCUM I would give my answer to the 'working moms problem" but you would use it as proof that I am and by all extension all sahm's are am an unfixable mess of nasty adjectives (Did you sleep with your critical thinking lecturer? I can't see how you would pass otherwise).

It may turn out better that someone else is raising your kids. I would hate for them to be filled with so much anger and nastiness as you

Wohm's hate it when SAHM's start asking the hard questions. They only like it in a group ambush situation where they can fire off question like some tabloid reporter

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"On their deathbed nobody wishes they spent more time at work and everybody wishes they spent more time with their family" - More people would do well to listen to this in the dmv

Well wohm's, on your deathbed what are you going to regret? not "accomplishing professionally" or not spending enough time with your family?

I have asked you repeatedly (and I know it's you because your grammar is suspect) what your solution to the working moms "problem" is or what moms working in your "ideal world" looks like. You have never responded seriously. Not once. You only come on here to troll and post this face:

There is another mommy wars thread now, please go post there instead. We're talking about Obama and infertility now.

I'll answer her - I'll regret nothing. I live me life by that motto. I do both very successfully in addition to a host of other actvities/hobbies and maintaining other important relationships. Are you going to regret not doing more with your life? I certainly would.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"On their deathbed nobody wishes they spent more time at work and everybody wishes they spent more time with their family" - More people would do well to listen to this in the dmv

Well wohm's, on your deathbed what are you going to regret? not "accomplishing professionally" or not spending enough time with your family?

I have asked you repeatedly (and I know it's you because your grammar is suspect) what your solution to the working moms "problem" is or what moms working in your "ideal world" looks like. You have never responded seriously. Not once. You only come on here to troll and post this face:

There is another mommy wars thread now, please go post there instead. We're talking about Obama and infertility now.

I am sorry that I do not obsessively check DCUM I would give my answer to the 'working moms problem" but you would use it as proof that I am and by all extension all sahm's are am an unfixable mess of nasty adjectives (Did you sleep with your critical thinking lecturer? I can't see how you would pass otherwise).

It may turn out better that someone else is raising your kids. I would hate for them to be filled with so much anger and nastiness as you

Answer my questions from a few pages back then. Seriously and without trolling. If you can.


Do all the militant stay at home moms/dads live in this area? I hardly know any families that don't have two working parents. Do you have the same level of hatred and vitriol toward your two working parent neighbors or your kids classmates? And in your ideal world, would all families have one stay at home parent, and would that be permanently or just until elementary school? What about if the working partner works long hours, is that ok or is having kids only for those who can support a family on one income where the income earner works 9-5 with a 20 minute max commute?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"On their deathbed nobody wishes they spent more time at work and everybody wishes they spent more time with their family" - More people would do well to listen to this in the dmv

Well wohm's, on your deathbed what are you going to regret? not "accomplishing professionally" or not spending enough time with your family?

I have asked you repeatedly (and I know it's you because your grammar is suspect) what your solution to the working moms "problem" is or what moms working in your "ideal world" looks like. You have never responded seriously. Not once. You only come on here to troll and post this face:

There is another mommy wars thread now, please go post there instead. We're talking about Obama and infertility now.

I am sorry that I do not obsessively check DCUM I would give my answer to the 'working moms problem" but you would use it as proof that I am and by all extension all sahm's are am an unfixable mess of nasty adjectives (Did you sleep with your critical thinking lecturer? I can't see how you would pass otherwise).

It may turn out better that someone else is raising your kids. I would hate for them to be filled with so much anger and nastiness as you

Answer my questions from a few pages back then. Seriously and without trolling. If you can.


Do all the militant stay at home moms/dads live in this area? I hardly know any families that don't have two working parents. Do you have the same level of hatred and vitriol toward your two working parent neighbors or your kids classmates? And in your ideal world, would all families have one stay at home parent, and would that be permanently or just until elementary school? What about if the working partner works long hours, is that ok or is having kids only for those who can support a family on one income where the income earner works 9-5 with a 20 minute max commute?

Why don't you answer a few questions as a sign of good faith first?