Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am against gay marriage and allowing gays to adopt.
Zero sympathy or empathy for infertile women or men.
The au pair program should be done away with because it is modern servitude.
Nursing in public without a cover .
Parents who let their children run wild.

Why? As someone who has been struggling with infertility for two years now, I'd like to know, honestly. I've seen this opinion so many times in the past few years; not just here on DCUM, but other sites as well. Can someone please explain to me why you would have "zero sympathy or empathy" for another human being with a diagnosed medical condition? Is it because you assume I have brought it upon myself?

I answered your question and then you tattled and got it deleted.

No, I certainly didn't tattle, since I didn't even see your response. Then again, if you couldn't even manage to be civil enough for this board, I'm probably better off without the answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"On their deathbed nobody wishes they spent more time at work and everybody wishes they spent more time with their family" - More people would do well to listen to this in the dmv

Well wohm's, on your deathbed what are you going to regret? not "accomplishing professionally" or not spending enough time with your family?

I know I won't regret being able to spend time with my spouse because he didn't have to take some big law job or other job with crazy hours in order to support me SAHM. We have both been able to take flexible jobs with work at home several days per week. I love that neither of us will ever have to work past 5:00 and can be around for our kids.

I was raised by a SAHM and my dad worked long hours and often traveled. The only women I know who SAH in this area have husbands who work crazy hours (which is why I think so many SAHMs have warped views about how many hours all of us working parents spend away from our kids). To me, a healthy balance of mom and dad working is preferable. We still all get plenty of quality time together. But thanks for being so concerned with how I will feel on my death bed. I'm sure your concern came from a place of good intentions and not from a place of insecurity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've always felt that private school was for the really dumb kids with extremely low IQ's. The kids who can't hack it in the real world go to private because public is to difficult for them. Around here however that doesn't seem to be the case. Still a difficult stereotype to get over.

this confuses me. a lot. what kind of private schools have you been exposed to?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"On their deathbed nobody wishes they spent more time at work and everybody wishes they spent more time with their family" - More people would do well to listen to this in the dmv

Well wohm's, on your deathbed what are you going to regret? not "accomplishing professionally" or not spending enough time with your family?

I know I won't regret being able to spend time with my spouse because he didn't have to take some big law job or other job with crazy hours in order to support me SAHM. We have both been able to take flexible jobs with work at home several days per week. I love that neither of us will ever have to work past 5:00 and can be around for our kids.

I was raised by a SAHM and my dad worked long hours and often traveled. The only women I know who SAH in this area have husbands who work crazy hours (which is why I think so many SAHMs have warped views about how many hours all of us working parents spend away from our kids). To me, a healthy balance of mom and dad working is preferable. We still all get plenty of quality time together. But thanks for being so concerned with how I will feel on my death bed. I'm sure your concern came from a place of good intentions and not from a place of insecurity.

Interesting. I'm a SAHM and neither my husband nor the husbands of all the other SAHMs I know work "crazy hours." It seems you are the one with the "warped view" of SAHMs and the hours their husbands work. Could it be that there are all kinds of different family/work situations? Not the PP, btw.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've always felt that private school was for the really dumb kids with extremely low IQ's. The kids who can't hack it in the real world go to private because public is to difficult for them. Around here however that doesn't seem to be the case. Still a difficult stereotype to get over.

this confuses me. a lot. what kind of private schools have you been exposed to?

Not the PP but in many parts of the country, private schools are for children with developmental or physical disabilities who can't be mainstreamed in public schools. Think of The Lab School or Phillips School. Public schools are attended by most children because their parents could not afford a private school even if one were available

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"On their deathbed nobody wishes they spent more time at work and everybody wishes they spent more time with their family" - More people would do well to listen to this in the dmv

Well wohm's, on your deathbed what are you going to regret? not "accomplishing professionally" or not spending enough time with your family?

LET IT GO.
So pathetic. Really.

What do you find pathetic. This is a well known proverb about spending time with family as opposed to at the office as family is what counts in the end. It is a pertinent remark given wohm's who look down their noses at women who don't work. What part are you disagreeing with then. You'll look a very sad woman if you say you would regret not working more. But then you seem like a sad and pathetic woman anyway

Your GED is showing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"On their deathbed nobody wishes they spent more time at work and everybody wishes they spent more time with their family" - More people would do well to listen to this in the dmv

Well wohm's, on your deathbed what are you going to regret? not "accomplishing professionally" or not spending enough time with your family?

I know I won't regret being able to spend time with my spouse because he didn't have to take some big law job or other job with crazy hours in order to support me SAHM. We have both been able to take flexible jobs with work at home several days per week. I love that neither of us will ever have to work past 5:00 and can be around for our kids.

I was raised by a SAHM and my dad worked long hours and often traveled. The only women I know who SAH in this area have husbands who work crazy hours (which is why I think so many SAHMs have warped views about how many hours all of us working parents spend away from our kids). To me, a healthy balance of mom and dad working is preferable. We still all get plenty of quality time together. But thanks for being so concerned with how I will feel on my death bed. I'm sure your concern came from a place of good intentions and not from a place of insecurity.

Interesting. I'm a SAHM and neither my husband nor the husbands of all the other SAHMs I know work "crazy hours." It seems you are the one with the "warped view" of SAHMs and the hours their husbands work. Could it be that there are all kinds of different family/work situations? Not the PP, btw.

You don't know any SAHMs with husbands who work crazy hours? That surprises me (not pp).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"On their deathbed nobody wishes they spent more time at work and everybody wishes they spent more time with their family" - More people would do well to listen to this in the dmv

Well wohm's, on your deathbed what are you going to regret? not "accomplishing professionally" or not spending enough time with your family?

I know I won't regret being able to spend time with my spouse because he didn't have to take some big law job or other job with crazy hours in order to support me SAHM. We have both been able to take flexible jobs with work at home several days per week. I love that neither of us will ever have to work past 5:00 and can be around for our kids.

I was raised by a SAHM and my dad worked long hours and often traveled. The only women I know who SAH in this area have husbands who work crazy hours (which is why I think so many SAHMs have warped views about how many hours all of us working parents spend away from our kids). To me, a healthy balance of mom and dad working is preferable. We still all get plenty of quality time together. But thanks for being so concerned with how I will feel on my death bed. I'm sure your concern came from a place of good intentions and not from a place of insecurity.

Interesting. I'm a SAHM and neither my husband nor the husbands of all the other SAHMs I know work "crazy hours." It seems you are the one with the "warped view" of SAHMs and the hours their husbands work. Could it be that there are all kinds of different family/work situations? Not the PP, btw.

I only know a couple SAHMs here, so that's why I said it's based on the ones I know. I wasn't trying to attack SAHMs and agree different situations work for different people. But the miserable poster who thinks everyone with a job is going to regret working on their deathbed seems a little nutso. If well all took the attitude that we should just spend time with family instead of working then society would not function because nobody would be teaching children, policing criminals, running our court system, picking up trash, etc. But I have the feeling the PP posted her nasty comment because she thinks working moms will go to their deathbeds regretting working while men are somehow exempt from this regret.

I wanted to clarify that a lot of us who work are not corporate slaves spending 60+ hours a week working and commuting. She must get that impression from her husband because I'm not sure where else she's getting the mentality that professional accomplishments equate with not spending enough time with family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"On their deathbed nobody wishes they spent more time at work and everybody wishes they spent more time with their family" - More people would do well to listen to this in the dmv

Well wohm's, on your deathbed what are you going to regret? not "accomplishing professionally" or not spending enough time with your family?

I know I won't regret being able to spend time with my spouse because he didn't have to take some big law job or other job with crazy hours in order to support me SAHM. We have both been able to take flexible jobs with work at home several days per week. I love that neither of us will ever have to work past 5:00 and can be around for our kids.

I was raised by a SAHM and my dad worked long hours and often traveled. The only women I know who SAH in this area have husbands who work crazy hours (which is why I think so many SAHMs have warped views about how many hours all of us working parents spend away from our kids). To me, a healthy balance of mom and dad working is preferable. We still all get plenty of quality time together. But thanks for being so concerned with how I will feel on my death bed. I'm sure your concern came from a place of good intentions and not from a place of insecurity.

Interesting. I'm a SAHM and neither my husband nor the husbands of all the other SAHMs I know work "crazy hours." It seems you are the one with the "warped view" of SAHMs and the hours their husbands work. Could it be that there are all kinds of different family/work situations? Not the PP, btw.

I only know a couple SAHMs here, so that's why I said it's based on the ones I know. I wasn't trying to attack SAHMs and agree different situations work for different people. But the miserable poster who thinks everyone with a job is going to regret working on their deathbed seems a little nutso. If well all took the attitude that we should just spend time with family instead of working then society would not function because nobody would be teaching children, policing criminals, running our court system, picking up trash, etc. But I have the feeling the PP posted her nasty comment because she thinks working moms will go to their deathbeds regretting working while men are somehow exempt from this regret.

I wanted to clarify that a lot of us who work are not corporate slaves spending 60+ hours a week working and commuting. She must get that impression from her husband because I'm not sure where else she's getting the mentality that professional accomplishments equate with not spending enough time with family.

Exactly. This isn't a choice for the vast majority of the world. Shocking as it may be to SAHMs, there are many, many of us - most women I know, actually - who have achieved a great deal professionally and spend tons of time with their kids. It isn't either/or.

[Anonymous]

The whole "on your death bed, you will not regret the time you spent with family, but will regret the time you spent working" line is such garbage. It's like those inspirational sayings people with way too much time on their hands post on Pinterest (aka "last one to the finish line still beats the person sitting on the couch!").

It's such a privileged view along the lines of "do what you love." Ummm I hate to break it to you, but you are able to spend time with family or do what you love on the backs of others who are working to keep society going. If you have the means to SAH, then be grateful and show a little humility. But realize that it is working moms who are teaching your children, running federal agencies you rely upon, ringing up your groceries, cutting your hair, giving you Pap smears, etc.

There is absolutely no need to make catty remarks about how these women have missed their kids' childhood, will regret working on their death bed, don't care about their family, etc. Maybe be a little thankful that there are enough able bodied workers out there keeping things running so that you can SAH and do all the things you need to do on a regular basis.

[Anonymous]

The food at Rasika sucks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The whole "on your death bed, you will not regret the time you spent with family, but will regret the time you spent working" line is such garbage. It's like those inspirational sayings people with way too much time on their hands post on Pinterest (aka "last one to the finish line still beats the person sitting on the couch!").

It's such a privileged view along the lines of "do what you love." Ummm I hate to break it to you, but you are able to spend time with family or do what you love on the backs of others who are working to keep society going. If you have the means to SAH, then be grateful and show a little humility. But realize that it is working moms who are teaching your children, running federal agencies you rely upon, ringing up your groceries, cutting your hair, giving you Pap smears, etc.

There is absolutely no need to make catty remarks about how these women have missed their kids' childhood, will regret working on their death bed, don't care about their family, etc. Maybe be a little thankful that there are enough able bodied workers out there keeping things running so that you can SAH and do all the things you need to do on a regular basis.

Amazing post.

[Anonymous]

I think that the best school option is a good public school in an expensive area. The teachers tend to be excellent, well trained and professional. Private school teachers tend to be there because they "look the part" and can make high paying parents feel good that their kid is being taught by "one of them." Generally good looking, well dressed white women who were raised rich and majored in elementary education because they thought they would be SAHMs. Private school is more about social indoctrination than academics or "environment" or escaping testing. Diversity in private schools is manufactured and controlled by the admissions committee, an inorganic process, to put it nicely. "Hey, we need more brown faces in the brochure! Do we know any brown people we can recruit?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The whole "on your death bed, you will not regret the time you spent with family, but will regret the time you spent working" line is such garbage. It's like those inspirational sayings people with way too much time on their hands post on Pinterest (aka "last one to the finish line still beats the person sitting on the couch!").

It's such a privileged view along the lines of "do what you love." Ummm I hate to break it to you, but you are able to spend time with family or do what you love on the backs of others who are working to keep society going. If you have the means to SAH, then be grateful and show a little humility. But realize that it is working moms who are teaching your children, running federal agencies you rely upon, ringing up your groceries, cutting your hair, giving you Pap smears, etc.

There is absolutely no need to make catty remarks about how these women have missed their kids' childhood, will regret working on their death bed, don't care about their family, etc. Maybe be a little thankful that there are enough able bodied workers out there keeping things running so that you can SAH and do all the things you need to do on a regular basis.

Put it this way, nobody may have ever said on their death bed that they wished they had spent more time in the office, but between now and my death bed are things I want to do that cost money and I have to earn it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've always felt that private school was for the really dumb kids with extremely low IQ's. The kids who can't hack it in the real world go to private because public is to difficult for them. Around here however that doesn't seem to be the case. Still a difficult stereotype to get over.

this confuses me. a lot. what kind of private schools have you been exposed to?

Where I'm from the kids who went to private school are the ones who got expelled or didn't have nearly enough credits to graduate. Some didn't have enough smarts to actually do the school work. A lot used drugs or had a criminal background. Going to private school was nothing to strive for it was basically that or go to jail because you would be arrested for not attending school. I have learned it is different in the dc area but still I sometimes think hmmm what do they mean by private school???