how can you disestablish paternity in Virginia?

Anonymous
My Friend just found out that he is not that the father of his 11year old son. He wants to disestablish paternity and stop paying child support. He pays substantial amount about $ 1700. In child support.
Also can he file a civil lawsuit against mother of child for fraud? If so what are his chances of getting back the money he has paid to the mother of the said child.
Anonymous
Poor kid.
Anonymous
Gross.
Anonymous
he needs a lawyer, not an anonymous bulletin board.
Anonymous
Does he have a relationship with the kid who has thought he was his dad for 11 years? Did he love the child before and then just turn that off when he found out he wasn't the father, or has he not loved his "kid" all along? I feel really sorry for the child in this situation.
Anonymous
He raised the child for 11 years. He may not be the biological father, but he is the child's dad. Is he really going to break up with his own kid? And even if he is able to stop paying child support, what kind of asshole would try to impoverish his own kid by demanding the return of years of child support? You and your friend both sound like terrible people.
Anonymous
Maybe he was just paying the child support but never got to see his kid.
Anonymous
That poor child, the only father he ever known is going to drop him like a hot potato. I would distance yourself from anyone who wants to disestablish paternity after 11 years. I would think he would never be capable of fully loving someone if he would quickly turn his back on his child. Yes, the child isn't his biologically, but he didn't know that for the first 11 years. Amazing!

I believe this guy has the right to be angry. He needs to think of the psychological effects this is going to have on this child.
Anonymous
He needs a lawyer.

In some states if you have held yourself out as a parent, you are considered a parent in the eyes of the law even if you are not biologically related to the child.
Anonymous
Before I condemn this guy, I'd want to know more backstory. It is possible that he wasn't very much involved in the kid's life because of the mother herself.

Considering my BIL put his name on a birth certificate of a kid he knew wasn't his in the first place, anything is possible. Shoot, one of my daughter's best friends has an older step-brother that her dad didn't know about until the step-brother was 2 or so. He had to send checks without much contact with his son for years.
Anonymous
I've heard stories like this and the dad usually gets stuck with it. He should have taken a paternity test at the time CS was entered.
Anonymous
If the OP's friend had a relationship with the kid, then yeah, CS needs to continue, and the "real" father found and made to pay some form of CS.

If the OP's just cut a check every month and sees the kid once a year, then yeah, there's not going to be any trauma.
Anonymous
This happened to my aunts husband in arizona.. He found out after 5 or 6 yrs that the kid wasn't his. The state said he still had to pay. My aunt was livid.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:This happened to my aunts husband in arizona.. He found out after 5 or 6 yrs that the kid wasn't his. The state said he still had to pay. My aunt was livid.


livid about what? him wanting to stop paying? or him finding out she was cheating?
Anonymous
Tell him to call Maury.
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