Why I like DCUM more than Facebook

[Anonymous]

Today, someone posted this:

Just because you don't agree with someone's views doesn't mean you can judge them. Remember we live in a country that celebrates free speech and the right to practice your religious beliefs so think of that first before you judge or comment on what someone believes. Rant complete.

She has 11 "likes" so far, and nobody has commented that she's a moron.

[Anonymous]

I agree. I catch myself sometimes about to respond "troll" or "moron" on facebook. Then I remember it's not anonymous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree. I catch myself sometimes about to respond "troll" or "moron" on facebook. Then I remember it's not anonymous.

Hahaha

[Anonymous]

How many friends does she have, though? If she has 700 friends and only 11 likes, it means that a lot of her friends are probably thinking "moron."

i have a friend who posts a lot of inflammatory stuff on FB and i have to constantly hold my tongue because it would just start a flame war. She doesn't seem to get that she is a 1%er who never had to support herself (trust fund, then rich husband) and doesn't get the irony of a person with a trust fund/rich husband/no job complaining about people who don't work and want things handed to them. almost nobody ever "likes" her posts so i suspect a lot of folks are also holding back.

[Anonymous]

PP, there's a solution for that - quietly unfriend the bitch or hide her posts so you don't have to be constantly bombarded by her ignorance and hate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree. I catch myself sometimes about to respond "troll" or "moron" on facebook. Then I remember it's not anonymous.

That is probably a good argument against having an anonymous forum. It promotes childish name calling and even adult-on-adult bullying in some cases. I am guilty as well, but when I think about it, I am not proud.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree. I catch myself sometimes about to respond "troll" or "moron" on facebook. Then I remember it's not anonymous.

That is probably a good argument against having an anonymous forum. It promotes childish name calling and even adult-on-adult bullying in some cases. I am guilty as well, but when I think about it, I am not proud.

You're probably right, but on the other side, anonymity allows for honest opinion. In my real life, I like to avoid drama and flaming and don't like to hurt feelings, so I'll avoid answering questions such as "do I look fat?" or "is my child a brat?" when I really really want to say, "YES you could stand to lose some lbs" and "YES your little boy is a monster". (I exaggerate)

Anyway, I find I get the most honest answers on DCUM and I believe it's because of the anonymity.

[Anonymous]

A dear friend who is normally very intelligent recently posted a quote "Listen earnestly to anything your children want to tell you, no matter what. If you don't listen eagerly to the little stuff when they are little, they won't tell you the big stuff when they are big, because to them all of it has always been big stuff."

So brainless. And I was SO tempted to comment "talk to me when you have a four year old, let me know if you still think this is good parenting advice." But I scrolled on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree. I catch myself sometimes about to respond "troll" or "moron" on facebook. Then I remember it's not anonymous.

That is probably a good argument against having an anonymous forum. It promotes childish name calling and even adult-on-adult bullying in some cases. I am guilty as well, but when I think about it, I am not proud.

You're probably right, but on the other side, anonymity allows for honest opinion. In my real life, I like to avoid drama and flaming and don't like to hurt feelings, so I'll avoid answering questions such as "do I look fat?" or "is my child a brat?" when I really really want to say, "YES you could stand to lose some lbs" and "YES your little boy is a monster". (I exaggerate)

Anyway, I find I get the most honest answers on DCUM and I believe it's because of the anonymity.

I think you are right about this on many topics such as the examples you cited. Other topics, such as 'what do you think about private school x" gives useless advice, because there is no way of knowing the motivation of the poster or their actual knowledge of the school.

[Anonymous]

To the pp who doesn't want to hurt peoples feelings if they know who you are, but will here with no problem, sorry but your my least favorite type of human being.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the pp who doesn't want to hurt peoples feelings if they know who you are, but will here with no problem, sorry but your my least favorite type of human being.

I don't enjoy hurting anyone's feelings, here or there. You apparently have no problem with it though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree. I catch myself sometimes about to respond "troll" or "moron" on facebook. Then I remember it's not anonymous.

[Anonymous]

Lol, you missed the point pp. People on here get mean with no accountability. It sucks that none of the people on here would dare speak to anyone in real life this way. People admit this is why they do it on here because they can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the pp who doesn't want to hurt peoples feelings if they know who you are, but will here with no problem, sorry but your my least favorite type of human being.

Do people really get their feelings hurt on here? I take away the constructive advice and the rest, well, who cares?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP, there's a solution for that - quietly unfriend the bitch or hide her posts so you don't have to be constantly bombarded by her ignorance and hate.

That only works if b*tch poster does not notice/care that you unfriended/hid/blocked - several of my relatives tried this and there was a sh*tstorm.....!