Private School Possible with Household Income <$80K

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Anonymous wrote:Dear OP,
Please come back in March and update us on how things turned out!

I really doubt OP is coming back to this thread. I wouldn't.

I would come back just to brag about the $$ I got!

I don’t understand why we are supposed to feel bad for someone that says:
“I don’t need to work, sorry you do” and then applies for financial aid.
“I would never stick my son in daycare”, but gladly takes the money of the families that do.

Her sense of entitlement is what I despise about people like OP. I do hope that people like her won’t be in my kids and mine circles

You have a huge sense of entitlement if you want kids from lower income families away from yours. You should fire the housekeeper as she is not worthy to be near you. These schools screaming equity and inclusion are a joke.

NP
She didn't say that she didn't want low income people around her children. She said that she didn't want entitled low income people who think that they are better than people who have to work and send their children to daycare while they plan to mooch off of those who full pay. Our family is lower-income based on DMV standards and we receive a huge chunk in FA. But we work our tails off to offset the amount that isn't covered by financial aid. I wouldn't dream of not working by choice and still having my hand out. Hell, she could drive uber or do door dash or something.

You really think someone is going to make a fortune doing door dash or uber and then who is caring for her kids. You probably are not low income and make $250k+ and call yourself middle class and live in a really nice house that you overpaid for and now scream poverty.

Often, financially it costs more to work than to stay home. I stayed home as my entire pay check would go to to day care and then my child wouldn't have gotten the therapies or help they needed. Why pay someone else to care for your child when it costs your entire pay check? It makes zero sense.

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[b]I don’t understand why women always rationalize not working because their salary will ‘just go towards childcare’ costs and therefore be a wash.

My DH makes about $400k a year and I make $90k. I make far less than him but continue to work because I consider HIS paycheck to cover our childcare costs, while MY paycheck

1. Covers my retirement and my pension (I contribute half of my salary towards those two things)

2. By continuing to work and not becoming a sahm, I am not putting my financial future in jeopardy should I god forbid, ever become a single parent one day. I never would want that to happen but as a realistic adult I realize that sometimes it happens against our will.

3. I get excellent insurance benefits to cover medical and dental concerns, in addition to what my DH gets through his company. For example we paid nothing when we had our twins via c-section, bc we both had excellent medical insurance coverage.

That’s just the financial benefits of my work. There are of course many benefits to working that are not financially based (personal fulfillment, contributing to the world outside my home, modeling an egalitarian relationship for my daughter where both their father and I are responsible for caring for them and doing household chores.

The bolded is something I don't get either.

Furthermore, it also gives you work history!!

Many women work prior to having kids so they have a work history and social security.

Not everyone needs health and dental benefits.

Not everyone needs to define themselves by their work. Let's be real. When you stop that job you will be replaced and most people don't do anything memorable.

My mom defined herself by her job. Looking back it was kinda sad that that was her priority.

You can be in an egalitarian relationship where both parents are responsible for caring for the kids and doing household chores and one parent stay's home. Or, you can pay a maid/housekeeper/cleaining service, nanny and yard person and neither of you is really responsible but want to claim you are.

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Anonymous wrote:Dear OP,
Please come back in March and update us on how things turned out!

I really doubt OP is coming back to this thread. I wouldn't.

I would come back just to brag about the $$ I got!

I don’t understand why we are supposed to feel bad for someone that says:
“I don’t need to work, sorry you do” and then applies for financial aid.
“I would never stick my son in daycare”, but gladly takes the money of the families that do.

Her sense of entitlement is what I despise about people like OP. I do hope that people like her won’t be in my kids and mine circles

You have a huge sense of entitlement if you want kids from lower income families away from yours. You should fire the housekeeper as she is not worthy to be near you. These schools screaming equity and inclusion are a joke.

NP
She didn't say that she didn't want low income people around her children. She said that she didn't want entitled low income people who think that they are better than people who have to work and send their children to daycare while they plan to mooch off of those who full pay. Our family is lower-income based on DMV standards and we receive a huge chunk in FA. But we work our tails off to offset the amount that isn't covered by financial aid. I wouldn't dream of not working by choice and still having my hand out. Hell, she could drive uber or do door dash or something.

You really think someone is going to make a fortune doing door dash or uber and then who is caring for her kids. You probably are not low income and make $250k+ and call yourself middle class and live in a really nice house that you overpaid for and now scream poverty.

Often, financially it costs more to work than to stay home. I stayed home as my entire pay check would go to to day care and then my child wouldn't have gotten the therapies or help they needed. Why pay someone else to care for your child when it costs your entire pay check? It makes zero sense.

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[b]I don’t understand why women always rationalize not working because their salary will ‘just go towards childcare’ costs and therefore be a wash.

My DH makes about $400k a year and I make $90k. I make far less than him but continue to work because I consider HIS paycheck to cover our childcare costs, while MY paycheck

1. Covers my retirement and my pension (I contribute half of my salary towards those two things)

2. By continuing to work and not becoming a sahm, I am not putting my financial future in jeopardy should I god forbid, ever become a single parent one day. I never would want that to happen but as a realistic adult I realize that sometimes it happens against our will.

3. I get excellent insurance benefits to cover medical and dental concerns, in addition to what my DH gets through his company. For example we paid nothing when we had our twins via c-section, bc we both had excellent medical insurance coverage.

That’s just the financial benefits of my work. There are of course many benefits to working that are not financially based (personal fulfillment, contributing to the world outside my home, modeling an egalitarian relationship for my daughter where both their father and I are responsible for caring for them and doing household chores.

The bolded is something I don't get either.

Furthermore, it also gives you work history!!

Many women work prior to having kids so they have a work history and social security.

Not everyone needs health and dental benefits.

Not everyone needs to define themselves by their work. Let's be real. When you stop that job you will be replaced and most people don't do anything memorable.

My mom defined herself by her job. Looking back it was kinda sad that that was her priority.

You can be in an egalitarian relationship where both parents are responsible for caring for the kids and doing household chores and one parent stay's home. Or, you can pay a maid/housekeeper/cleaining service, nanny and yard person and neither of you is really responsible but want to claim you are.

Wow, nasty. Just because you felt like your mommy didn’t love you as much as she loved her job is no reason to nastily imply that dual working parents aren’t responsible for their children. Plenty of people can swing working and being good parents. I get that your mom couldn’t and you feel like you can’t, but your experiences are not universal.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dear OP,
Please come back in March and update us on how things turned out!

I really doubt OP is coming back to this thread. I wouldn't.

I would come back just to brag about the $$ I got!

I don’t understand why we are supposed to feel bad for someone that says:
“I don’t need to work, sorry you do” and then applies for financial aid.
“I would never stick my son in daycare”, but gladly takes the money of the families that do.

Her sense of entitlement is what I despise about people like OP. I do hope that people like her won’t be in my kids and mine circles

You have a huge sense of entitlement if you want kids from lower income families away from yours. You should fire the housekeeper as she is not worthy to be near you. These schools screaming equity and inclusion are a joke.

NP
She didn't say that she didn't want low income people around her children. She said that she didn't want entitled low income people who think that they are better than people who have to work and send their children to daycare while they plan to mooch off of those who full pay. Our family is lower-income based on DMV standards and we receive a huge chunk in FA. But we work our tails off to offset the amount that isn't covered by financial aid. I wouldn't dream of not working by choice and still having my hand out. Hell, she could drive uber or do door dash or something.

You really think someone is going to make a fortune doing door dash or uber and then who is caring for her kids. You probably are not low income and make $250k+ and call yourself middle class and live in a really nice house that you overpaid for and now scream poverty.

Often, financially it costs more to work than to stay home. I stayed home as my entire pay check would go to to day care and then my child wouldn't have gotten the therapies or help they needed. Why pay someone else to care for your child when it costs your entire pay check? It makes zero sense.

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[b]I don’t understand why women always rationalize not working because their salary will ‘just go towards childcare’ costs and therefore be a wash.

My DH makes about $400k a year and I make $90k. I make far less than him but continue to work because I consider HIS paycheck to cover our childcare costs, while MY paycheck

1. Covers my retirement and my pension (I contribute half of my salary towards those two things)

2. By continuing to work and not becoming a sahm, I am not putting my financial future in jeopardy should I god forbid, ever become a single parent one day. I never would want that to happen but as a realistic adult I realize that sometimes it happens against our will.

3. I get excellent insurance benefits to cover medical and dental concerns, in addition to what my DH gets through his company. For example we paid nothing when we had our twins via c-section, bc we both had excellent medical insurance coverage.

That’s just the financial benefits of my work. There are of course many benefits to working that are not financially based (personal fulfillment, contributing to the world outside my home, modeling an egalitarian relationship for my daughter where both their father and I are responsible for caring for them and doing household chores.

The bolded is something I don't get either.

Furthermore, it also gives you work history!!

Yes totally agree on this point, it's a pet peeve.

We have two in daycare and yes it's a huge chunk of my net income. But they won't be at that age/expense forever and I will keep progressing in my career.

Daycare is a joint household expense like mortgage and everything else.

Nothing against SAHMs (I had one) but this reason (vs just wanting to stay home) always seems so short-sighted.