Private School Possible with Household Income <$80K

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Anonymous wrote:Dear OP,
Please come back in March and update us on how things turned out!

I really doubt OP is coming back to this thread. I wouldn't.

I would come back just to brag about the $$ I got!

If she does get a lot of aid, i hope she does. Because, as a donor to school funds, if schools really do this and don't take into account earning potential, i'll talk to my school about it or reconsider my giving policies. when i donate i'm not doing it to subsidize people like OP.

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Hi, all. OP again. Since I haven’t been popping in here for quite some time, there was some catching up to do! I just wanted to say thanks for the responses. And also, I wanted to clear up some mangling of the strains of communication (for anyone trying to follow along).

This is only my 3rd (and final post). The original thread and at 11/24/2021 13:01. So I can see some inferences and tangles happened along the way.

Anyway, goodbye to DCUM and a big thanks to any who found time to contribute to the winding dialogue

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Anonymous wrote:Dear OP,
Please come back in March and update us on how things turned out!

I really doubt OP is coming back to this thread. I wouldn't.

I would come back just to brag about the $$ I got!

If she does get a lot of aid, i hope she does. Because, as a donor to school funds, if schools really do this and don't take into account earning potential, i'll talk to my school about it or reconsider my giving policies. when i donate i'm not doing it to subsidize people like OP.

There may be reasons she's not working and not everyone has huge earning potential so if she goes out and makes $30K, you really think they are going to do different aid of more than a few thousand given their low income. We get it, you don't want real low income families or real diversity. Its ok but these schools need to stop pretending they are real diversity when they aren't as diversity is more than skin color.

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Anonymous wrote:Dear OP,
Please come back in March and update us on how things turned out!

I really doubt OP is coming back to this thread. I wouldn't.

I would come back just to brag about the $$ I got!

I don’t understand why we are supposed to feel bad for someone that says:
“I don’t need to work, sorry you do” and then applies for financial aid.
“I would never stick my son in daycare”, but gladly takes the money of the families that do.

Her sense of entitlement is what I despise about people like OP. I do hope that people like her won’t be in my kids and mine circles

You have a huge sense of entitlement if you want kids from lower income families away from yours. You should fire the housekeeper as she is not worthy to be near you. These schools screaming equity and inclusion are a joke.

NP
She didn't say that she didn't want low income people around her children. She said that she didn't want entitled low income people who think that they are better than people who have to work and send their children to daycare while they plan to mooch off of those who full pay. Our family is lower-income based on DMV standards and we receive a huge chunk in FA. But we work our tails off to offset the amount that isn't covered by financial aid. I wouldn't dream of not working by choice and still having my hand out. Hell, she could drive uber or do door dash or something.

You really think someone is going to make a fortune doing door dash or uber and then who is caring for her kids. You probably are not low income and make $250k+ and call yourself middle class and live in a really nice house that you overpaid for and now scream poverty.

Often, financially it costs more to work than to stay home. I stayed home as my entire pay check would go to to day care and then my child wouldn't have gotten the therapies or help they needed. Why pay someone else to care for your child when it costs your entire pay check? It makes zero sense.

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Anonymous wrote:Dear OP,
Please come back in March and update us on how things turned out!

I really doubt OP is coming back to this thread. I wouldn't.

I would come back just to brag about the $$ I got!

I don’t understand why we are supposed to feel bad for someone that says:
“I don’t need to work, sorry you do” and then applies for financial aid.
“I would never stick my son in daycare”, but gladly takes the money of the families that do.

Her sense of entitlement is what I despise about people like OP. I do hope that people like her won’t be in my kids and mine circles

You have a huge sense of entitlement if you want kids from lower income families away from yours. You should fire the housekeeper as she is not worthy to be near you. These schools screaming equity and inclusion are a joke.

Sorry OP, but your logic makes no sense. I have no problem with lower income families. My kids all play with my nanny’s kids and we think of them as family. I have issue with you and people like you who look down on people that actually work to be able to afford what they (and obviously you) value. But you are not willing to work. You are lazy. And yes, I wish my kids were not surrounded by lazy kids as well. I want my kids to learn that they need to work hard for what they want and not just expect it without doing anything.

Also, you are the one that wrote “I don’t need to work, sorry you do” so you clearly look down on people that need to work (to afford private school). And you also look down on people that use daycare because that is beneath you and your precious snowflake.
Don’t turn this conversation around… you don’t look very smart

Life is about choices. You can choose cheaper housing and a cheaper lifestyle. We can afford private because of our life style choices NOT because of high income.

I didn't use day care as the cost of day care alone for one child was equal to my take home and it didn't make sense. I would never see my child and wouldn't even be able to pick them up from day care, which was a huge issue (nor my spouse as he had an hour commute) on time given I never got out of work at 5PM like I was supposed to.

My child isn't lazy. They are in multiple sports and music programs and straight A's and in advanced math classes so good try. My kid probably works way harder than yours ever does.

And, saying your kids play with the nannies kid means nothing as they only play as the nanny probably charges you less so she can bring her child or because she cannot afford other child care because you pay her so little. You would never be friends with your nanny outside of you employing her. Your kids would never see the nannies kids if they weren't employed for you. Be real.

And, you don't realize how privileged you are and how wealthy you are if you have a nanny and private school. You have no concept of what its like to live on $80K or let alone $150K, like many of us do.

Sometimes with health issues, elderly care and child care, you cannot work or it doesn't pay to work depending on your income. Many of us do very important jobs when we work but aren't high earners. I feel bad for your kids teachers as they don't earn a lot so you look down on them and yet, you aren't demanding the school pay the staff more as that would mean raising tuition.

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Anonymous wrote:Why cannot you just go to public school ????

What ever happened to diversity, inclusion and equity?

DEI doesn't mean every single person who wants to go to private school gets to go to private school for free. Free school is public school. Private schools and their aid budgets are funded by other parents paying full tuition plus contributing to the annual fund. Whether that's right or fair is beside the point. That's the reality.

Diversity and inclusion means you have a huge range of students. Families making under $80K should be far more deserving of a family making $200-300K who claims poverty because of their housing and other lifestyle choices. Its funny how these schools and families preach what they don't practice.

SAHM and homeschooling usually *is* a lifestyle choice.

I would definitely choose to quit my job and stay home if it meant we could get financial aid to send my kids to private for free! Suspect many others would also be interested in that sweet deal.

How would u pay your rent, groceries, and all your other expenses. Nobody is going to purposely not have income just to get free tuition.

I only have to work so that I can send my kids to private school. If we did not have to pay for 3 kids private a school education, my DH’s salary would be more than enough.

Having three kids was a choice you made. And, three kids are expensive. You probably could have stopped at one and then been a SAH and paid for private.

Well, right, it was a choice. PP chooses to work to put her three kids in private. And OP chooses not to work, but then expects to get financial aid for "diversity" though hasn't given any indication of what would make her student/family stand out against dozens of others with similar income levels. So she'll have to roll the dice and she if she gets offered anything and if it will be enough. All choices.

This. A parent who doesn't want to work isn't the kind of diversity they're looking for. Private schools have plenty of parents who don't want to work.

BINGO. OP, you bring nothing to the table needed for this meal but you're asking for a handout.

I am going to guess that you are white and living in PG county and homeschooling because you are afraid of the schools? And your DH is military maybe? because what else public service is he maxing out at $80k after a long career? Even bus drivers can make more than that.

Lots of government jobs - county and federal max out at that income level. They especially max out at the local/county level. Military would be enlisted and you wouldn't make $80K except if you are including housing allowance. Enlisted, even at 20 years and higher ranking don't make that much. Kinda sad if we pay bus drivers more than military.

They are probably local/county government.

No, my guess is he's military and plays an instrument. She said about him (to paraphrase): "he has been training for this career since he was a child, he serves our country and he can't transfer to a higher paying job".
I bet he does something like plays trumpet for a military band. (What else could he be training for since childhood?)

He is probably enlisted (limited potential to advance in in pay)
She stays at home and homeschools.
They live somewhere in PG or way out in VA.
Not sure why their kid needs to go to a high-end high school.

Does anyone “need” to go to an expensive private?

I know several kids who "need" to go to expensive privates as they have SN and the publics failed them. Other kids home schools are terrible for them and they are better off in a private. So, some kids, yes, many no.

Those are not the schools we are talking about here. People here send their kids to expensive private schools in part to get away from the kids with SN severe enough to warrant an SN school. And even a kid with a low-performing public IB school does not “need” a school that charges +$40k/yr. No one does.

Most of the kids I know in private have adhd or another diagnosis. Clearly you have never had a kid in public if you think they meet sn kids needs.

I am one of those parents whose kids are/have been in both private and public (!). One of mine has a diagnosis so I am plenty familiar with the failings of public schools. You must know that the sliver of the private school population you know is not representative of the private school population in general. Do you really think most of over 4,000 students at the expensive privates have SN?

I know many who have ADHD, anxiety and depression diagnsois, but often its to gain an advantage and extra time vs. legit diagnosis.

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Anonymous wrote:Hi, all. OP again. Since I haven’t been popping in here for quite some time, there was some catching up to do! I just wanted to say thanks for the responses. And also, I wanted to clear up some mangling of the strains of communication (for anyone trying to follow along).

This is only my 3rd (and final post). The original thread and at 11/24/2021 13:01. So I can see some inferences and tangles happened along the way.

Anyway, goodbye to DCUM and a big thanks to any who found time to contribute to the winding dialogue

OP, do you really want your kids in school with parents like this?

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Anonymous wrote:Dear OP,
Please come back in March and update us on how things turned out!

I really doubt OP is coming back to this thread. I wouldn't.

I would come back just to brag about the $$ I got!

I don’t understand why we are supposed to feel bad for someone that says:
“I don’t need to work, sorry you do” and then applies for financial aid.
“I would never stick my son in daycare”, but gladly takes the money of the families that do.

Her sense of entitlement is what I despise about people like OP. I do hope that people like her won’t be in my kids and mine circles

You have a huge sense of entitlement if you want kids from lower income families away from yours. You should fire the housekeeper as she is not worthy to be near you. These schools screaming equity and inclusion are a joke.

Sorry OP, but your logic makes no sense. I have no problem with lower income families. My kids all play with my nanny’s kids and we think of them as family. I have issue with you and people like you who look down on people that actually work to be able to afford what they (and obviously you) value. But you are not willing to work. You are lazy. And yes, I wish my kids were not surrounded by lazy kids as well. I want my kids to learn that they need to work hard for what they want and not just expect it without doing anything.

Also, you are the one that wrote “I don’t need to work, sorry you do” so you clearly look down on people that need to work (to afford private school). And you also look down on people that use daycare because that is beneath you and your precious snowflake.
Don’t turn this conversation around… you don’t look very smart

Life is about choices. You can choose cheaper housing and a cheaper lifestyle. We can afford private because of our life style choices NOT because of high income.

I didn't use day care as the cost of day care alone for one child was equal to my take home and it didn't make sense. I would never see my child and wouldn't even be able to pick them up from day care, which was a huge issue (nor my spouse as he had an hour commute) on time given I never got out of work at 5PM like I was supposed to.

My child isn't lazy. They are in multiple sports and music programs and straight A's and in advanced math classes so good try. My kid probably works way harder than yours ever does.

And, saying your kids play with the nannies kid means nothing as they only play as the nanny probably charges you less so she can bring her child or because she cannot afford other child care because you pay her so little. You would never be friends with your nanny outside of you employing her. Your kids would never see the nannies kids if they weren't employed for you. Be real.

And, you don't realize how privileged you are and how wealthy you are if you have a nanny and private school. You have no concept of what its like to live on $80K or let alone $150K, like many of us do.

Sometimes with health issues, elderly care and child care, you cannot work or it doesn't pay to work depending on your income. Many of us do very important jobs when we work but aren't high earners. I feel bad for your kids teachers as they don't earn a lot so you look down on them and yet, you aren't demanding the school pay the staff more as that would mean raising tuition.

Wait, so you are not going to ask for FA? Nobody has a problem with you then. Also, you are saying that you actually have a job (albeit one that pus “””””pays little). Again, you are not staying at home and expecting a handout. Good job on making it work on a lower income

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Anonymous wrote:Why cannot you just go to public school ????

What ever happened to diversity, inclusion and equity?

DEI doesn't mean every single person who wants to go to private school gets to go to private school for free. Free school is public school. Private schools and their aid budgets are funded by other parents paying full tuition plus contributing to the annual fund. Whether that's right or fair is beside the point. That's the reality.

Diversity and inclusion means you have a huge range of students. Families making under $80K should be far more deserving of a family making $200-300K who claims poverty because of their housing and other lifestyle choices. Its funny how these schools and families preach what they don't practice.

SAHM and homeschooling usually *is* a lifestyle choice.

I would definitely choose to quit my job and stay home if it meant we could get financial aid to send my kids to private for free! Suspect many others would also be interested in that sweet deal.

How would u pay your rent, groceries, and all your other expenses. Nobody is going to purposely not have income just to get free tuition.

I only have to work so that I can send my kids to private school. If we did not have to pay for 3 kids private a school education, my DH’s salary would be more than enough.

Having three kids was a choice you made. And, three kids are expensive. You probably could have stopped at one and then been a SAH and paid for private.

Well, right, it was a choice. PP chooses to work to put her three kids in private. And OP chooses not to work, but then expects to get financial aid for "diversity" though hasn't given any indication of what would make her student/family stand out against dozens of others with similar income levels. So she'll have to roll the dice and she if she gets offered anything and if it will be enough. All choices.

This. A parent who doesn't want to work isn't the kind of diversity they're looking for. Private schools have plenty of parents who don't want to work.

BINGO. OP, you bring nothing to the table needed for this meal but you're asking for a handout.

I am going to guess that you are white and living in PG county and homeschooling because you are afraid of the schools? And your DH is military maybe? because what else public service is he maxing out at $80k after a long career? Even bus drivers can make more than that.

Lots of government jobs - county and federal max out at that income level. They especially max out at the local/county level. Military would be enlisted and you wouldn't make $80K except if you are including housing allowance. Enlisted, even at 20 years and higher ranking don't make that much. Kinda sad if we pay bus drivers more than military.

They are probably local/county government.

No, my guess is he's military and plays an instrument. She said about him (to paraphrase): "he has been training for this career since he was a child, he serves our country and he can't transfer to a higher paying job".
I bet he does something like plays trumpet for a military band. (What else could he be training for since childhood?)

He is probably enlisted (limited potential to advance in in pay)
She stays at home and homeschools.
They live somewhere in PG or way out in VA.
Not sure why their kid needs to go to a high-end high school.

Does anyone “need” to go to an expensive private?

I know several kids who "need" to go to expensive privates as they have SN and the publics failed them. Other kids home schools are terrible for them and they are better off in a private. So, some kids, yes, many no.

Those are not the schools we are talking about here. People here send their kids to expensive private schools in part to get away from the kids with SN severe enough to warrant an SN school. And even a kid with a low-performing public IB school does not “need” a school that charges +$40k/yr. No one does.

Most of the kids I know in private have adhd or another diagnosis. Clearly you have never had a kid in public if you think they meet sn kids needs.

I am one of those parents whose kids are/have been in both private and public (!). One of mine has a diagnosis so I am plenty familiar with the failings of public schools. You must know that the sliver of the private school population you know is not representative of the private school population in general. Do you really think most of over 4,000 students at the expensive privates have SN?

I know many who have ADHD, anxiety and depression diagnsois, but often its to gain an advantage and extra time vs. legit diagnosis.

So it follows that they don’t truly “need” the expensive school even though their parents will fix it so it looks like they do.

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Anonymous wrote:Dear OP,
Please come back in March and update us on how things turned out!

I really doubt OP is coming back to this thread. I wouldn't.

I would come back just to brag about the $$ I got!

I don’t understand why we are supposed to feel bad for someone that says:
“I don’t need to work, sorry you do” and then applies for financial aid.
“I would never stick my son in daycare”, but gladly takes the money of the families that do.

Her sense of entitlement is what I despise about people like OP. I do hope that people like her won’t be in my kids and mine circles

You have a huge sense of entitlement if you want kids from lower income families away from yours. You should fire the housekeeper as she is not worthy to be near you. These schools screaming equity and inclusion are a joke.

Sorry OP, but your logic makes no sense. I have no problem with lower income families. My kids all play with my nanny’s kids and we think of them as family. I have issue with you and people like you who look down on people that actually work to be able to afford what they (and obviously you) value. But you are not willing to work. You are lazy. And yes, I wish my kids were not surrounded by lazy kids as well. I want my kids to learn that they need to work hard for what they want and not just expect it without doing anything.

Also, you are the one that wrote “I don’t need to work, sorry you do” so you clearly look down on people that need to work (to afford private school). And you also look down on people that use daycare because that is beneath you and your precious snowflake.
Don’t turn this conversation around… you don’t look very smart

Life is about choices. You can choose cheaper housing and a cheaper lifestyle. We can afford private because of our life style choices NOT because of high income.

I didn't use day care as the cost of day care alone for one child was equal to my take home and it didn't make sense. I would never see my child and wouldn't even be able to pick them up from day care, which was a huge issue (nor my spouse as he had an hour commute) on time given I never got out of work at 5PM like I was supposed to.

My child isn't lazy. They are in multiple sports and music programs and straight A's and in advanced math classes so good try. My kid probably works way harder than yours ever does.

And, saying your kids play with the nannies kid means nothing as they only play as the nanny probably charges you less so she can bring her child or because she cannot afford other child care because you pay her so little. You would never be friends with your nanny outside of you employing her. Your kids would never see the nannies kids if they weren't employed for you. Be real.

And, you don't realize how privileged you are and how wealthy you are if you have a nanny and private school. You have no concept of what its like to live on $80K or let alone $150K, like many of us do.

Sometimes with health issues, elderly care and child care, you cannot work or it doesn't pay to work depending on your income. Many of us do very important jobs when we work but aren't high earners. I feel bad for your kids teachers as they don't earn a lot so you look down on them and yet, you aren't demanding the school pay the staff more as that would mean raising tuition.

Wait, so you are not going to ask for FA? Nobody has a problem with you then. Also, you are saying that you actually have a job (albeit one that pus “””””pays little). Again, you are not staying at home and expecting a handout. Good job on making it work on a lower income

You are a really nasty person.

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Anonymous wrote:Dear OP,
Please come back in March and update us on how things turned out!

I really doubt OP is coming back to this thread. I wouldn't.

I would come back just to brag about the $$ I got!

I don’t understand why we are supposed to feel bad for someone that says:
“I don’t need to work, sorry you do” and then applies for financial aid.
“I would never stick my son in daycare”, but gladly takes the money of the families that do.

Her sense of entitlement is what I despise about people like OP. I do hope that people like her won’t be in my kids and mine circles

You have a huge sense of entitlement if you want kids from lower income families away from yours. You should fire the housekeeper as she is not worthy to be near you. These schools screaming equity and inclusion are a joke.

NP
She didn't say that she didn't want low income people around her children. She said that she didn't want entitled low income people who think that they are better than people who have to work and send their children to daycare while they plan to mooch off of those who full pay. Our family is lower-income based on DMV standards and we receive a huge chunk in FA. But we work our tails off to offset the amount that isn't covered by financial aid. I wouldn't dream of not working by choice and still having my hand out. Hell, she could drive uber or do door dash or something.

You really think someone is going to make a fortune doing door dash or uber and then who is caring for her kids. You probably are not low income and make $250k+ and call yourself middle class and live in a really nice house that you overpaid for and now scream poverty.

Often, financially it costs more to work than to stay home. I stayed home as my entire pay check would go to to day care and then my child wouldn't have gotten the therapies or help they needed. Why pay someone else to care for your child when it costs your entire pay check? It makes zero sense.

I think we can all agree that for many it costs more to work than to stay home especially when kids are small.

However, if you have a school-aged kid and you are enrolling them in school, it costs more to stay home.

Nobody is really objecting to SAHP when their children are just babies and there are many that quit their jobs to sort out COVID school so that is also understandable

People are objecting to someone enrolling their child in private school, collecting financial aid based on one income, and staying home IN THE FUTURE unless you have another reason to not work: health, SN child, etc. and WHINING that they have to contribute something.

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Anonymous wrote:Dear OP,
Please come back in March and update us on how things turned out!

I really doubt OP is coming back to this thread. I wouldn't.

I would come back just to brag about the $$ I got!

I don’t understand why we are supposed to feel bad for someone that says:
“I don’t need to work, sorry you do” and then applies for financial aid.
“I would never stick my son in daycare”, but gladly takes the money of the families that do.

Her sense of entitlement is what I despise about people like OP. I do hope that people like her won’t be in my kids and mine circles

You have a huge sense of entitlement if you want kids from lower income families away from yours. You should fire the housekeeper as she is not worthy to be near you. These schools screaming equity and inclusion are a joke.

NP
She didn't say that she didn't want low income people around her children. She said that she didn't want entitled low income people who think that they are better than people who have to work and send their children to daycare while they plan to mooch off of those who full pay. Our family is lower-income based on DMV standards and we receive a huge chunk in FA. But we work our tails off to offset the amount that isn't covered by financial aid. I wouldn't dream of not working by choice and still having my hand out. Hell, she could drive uber or do door dash or something.

You really think someone is going to make a fortune doing door dash or uber and then who is caring for her kids. You probably are not low income and make $250k+ and call yourself middle class and live in a really nice house that you overpaid for and now scream poverty.

Often, financially it costs more to work than to stay home. I stayed home as my entire pay check would go to to day care and then my child wouldn't have gotten the therapies or help they needed. Why pay someone else to care for your child when it costs your entire pay check? It makes zero sense.

I think we can all agree that for many it costs more to work than to stay home especially when kids are small.

However, if you have a school-aged kid and you are enrolling them in school, it costs more to stay home.

Nobody is really objecting to SAHP when their children are just babies and there are many that quit their jobs to sort out COVID school so that is also understandable

People are objecting to someone enrolling their child in private school, collecting financial aid based on one income, and staying home IN THE FUTURE unless you have another reason to not work: health, SN child, etc. and WHINING that they have to contribute something.

OP said quite a few times that when she was working she was barely making $40k. That is about exactly what the schools use to calculate the aid. Why continue to harp on pros and cons of working and who should or shouldn’t work. She will get assessed for aid at an amount she was making when she was working. So no harm, no foul.

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Anonymous wrote:Dear OP,
Please come back in March and update us on how things turned out!

I really doubt OP is coming back to this thread. I wouldn't.

I would come back just to brag about the $$ I got!

I don’t understand why we are supposed to feel bad for someone that says:
“I don’t need to work, sorry you do” and then applies for financial aid.
“I would never stick my son in daycare”, but gladly takes the money of the families that do.

Her sense of entitlement is what I despise about people like OP. I do hope that people like her won’t be in my kids and mine circles

You have a huge sense of entitlement if you want kids from lower income families away from yours. You should fire the housekeeper as she is not worthy to be near you. These schools screaming equity and inclusion are a joke.

NP
She didn't say that she didn't want low income people around her children. She said that she didn't want entitled low income people who think that they are better than people who have to work and send their children to daycare while they plan to mooch off of those who full pay. Our family is lower-income based on DMV standards and we receive a huge chunk in FA. But we work our tails off to offset the amount that isn't covered by financial aid. I wouldn't dream of not working by choice and still having my hand out. Hell, she could drive uber or do door dash or something.

You really think someone is going to make a fortune doing door dash or uber and then who is caring for her kids. You probably are not low income and make $250k+ and call yourself middle class and live in a really nice house that you overpaid for and now scream poverty.

Often, financially it costs more to work than to stay home. I stayed home as my entire pay check would go to to day care and then my child wouldn't have gotten the therapies or help they needed. Why pay someone else to care for your child when it costs your entire pay check? It makes zero sense.

I think we can all agree that for many it costs more to work than to stay home especially when kids are small.

However, if you have a school-aged kid and you are enrolling them in school, it costs more to stay home.

Nobody is really objecting to SAHP when their children are just babies and there are many that quit their jobs to sort out COVID school so that is also understandable

People are objecting to someone enrolling their child in private school, collecting financial aid based on one income, and staying home IN THE FUTURE unless you have another reason to not work: health, SN child, etc. and WHINING that they have to contribute something.

OP said quite a few times that when she was working she was barely making $40k. That is about exactly what the schools use to calculate the aid. Why continue to harp on pros and cons of working and who should or shouldn’t work. She will get assessed for aid at an amount she was making when she was working. So no harm, no foul.

Apart from the fact that with a masters making 40k 10 years ago would translate to at least 60k today, I agree with you.

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Anonymous wrote:Dear OP,
Please come back in March and update us on how things turned out!

I really doubt OP is coming back to this thread. I wouldn't.

I would come back just to brag about the $$ I got!

I don’t understand why we are supposed to feel bad for someone that says:
“I don’t need to work, sorry you do” and then applies for financial aid.
“I would never stick my son in daycare”, but gladly takes the money of the families that do.

Her sense of entitlement is what I despise about people like OP. I do hope that people like her won’t be in my kids and mine circles

You have a huge sense of entitlement if you want kids from lower income families away from yours. You should fire the housekeeper as she is not worthy to be near you. These schools screaming equity and inclusion are a joke.

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She didn't say that she didn't want low income people around her children. She said that she didn't want entitled low income people who think that they are better than people who have to work and send their children to daycare while they plan to mooch off of those who full pay. Our family is lower-income based on DMV standards and we receive a huge chunk in FA. But we work our tails off to offset the amount that isn't covered by financial aid. I wouldn't dream of not working by choice and still having my hand out. Hell, she could drive uber or do door dash or something.

You really think someone is going to make a fortune doing door dash or uber and then who is caring for her kids. You probably are not low income and make $250k+ and call yourself middle class and live in a really nice house that you overpaid for and now scream poverty.

Often, financially it costs more to work than to stay home. I stayed home as my entire pay check would go to to day care and then my child wouldn't have gotten the therapies or help they needed. Why pay someone else to care for your child when it costs your entire pay check? It makes zero sense.

I think we can all agree that for many it costs more to work than to stay home especially when kids are small.

However, if you have a school-aged kid and you are enrolling them in school, it costs more to stay home.

Nobody is really objecting to SAHP when their children are just babies and there are many that quit their jobs to sort out COVID school so that is also understandable

People are objecting to someone enrolling their child in private school, collecting financial aid based on one income, and staying home IN THE FUTURE unless you have another reason to not work: health, SN child, etc. and WHINING that they have to contribute something.

OP said quite a few times that when she was working she was barely making $40k. That is about exactly what the schools use to calculate the aid. Why continue to harp on pros and cons of working and who should or shouldn’t work. She will get assessed for aid at an amount she was making when she was working. So no harm, no foul.

Apart from the fact that with a masters making 40k 10 years ago would translate to at least 60k today, I agree with you.

Maybe OP would rather work part time as they wouldn’t be able to afford aftercare if she worked full time. Again…IT DOES not matter. OP will get quite a bit of aid at $120k or $140k. We made about $140k and got offers from 75%-100% aid.

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Anonymous wrote:Dear OP,
Please come back in March and update us on how things turned out!

I really doubt OP is coming back to this thread. I wouldn't.

I would come back just to brag about the $$ I got!

I don’t understand why we are supposed to feel bad for someone that says:
“I don’t need to work, sorry you do” and then applies for financial aid.
“I would never stick my son in daycare”, but gladly takes the money of the families that do.

Her sense of entitlement is what I despise about people like OP. I do hope that people like her won’t be in my kids and mine circles

You have a huge sense of entitlement if you want kids from lower income families away from yours. You should fire the housekeeper as she is not worthy to be near you. These schools screaming equity and inclusion are a joke.

NP
She didn't say that she didn't want low income people around her children. She said that she didn't want entitled low income people who think that they are better than people who have to work and send their children to daycare while they plan to mooch off of those who full pay. Our family is lower-income based on DMV standards and we receive a huge chunk in FA. But we work our tails off to offset the amount that isn't covered by financial aid. I wouldn't dream of not working by choice and still having my hand out. Hell, she could drive uber or do door dash or something.

You really think someone is going to make a fortune doing door dash or uber and then who is caring for her kids. You probably are not low income and make $250k+ and call yourself middle class and live in a really nice house that you overpaid for and now scream poverty.

Often, financially it costs more to work than to stay home. I stayed home as my entire pay check would go to to day care and then my child wouldn't have gotten the therapies or help they needed. Why pay someone else to care for your child when it costs your entire pay check? It makes zero sense.

I think we can all agree that for many it costs more to work than to stay home especially when kids are small.

However, if you have a school-aged kid and you are enrolling them in school, it costs more to stay home.

Nobody is really objecting to SAHP when their children are just babies and there are many that quit their jobs to sort out COVID school so that is also understandable

People are objecting to someone enrolling their child in private school, collecting financial aid based on one income, and staying home IN THE FUTURE unless you have another reason to not work: health, SN child, etc. and WHINING that they have to contribute something.

OP said quite a few times that when she was working she was barely making $40k. That is about exactly what the schools use to calculate the aid. Why continue to harp on pros and cons of working and who should or shouldn’t work. She will get assessed for aid at an amount she was making when she was working. So no harm, no foul.

Apart from the fact that with a masters making 40k 10 years ago would translate to at least 60k today, I agree with you.

Maybe OP would rather work part time as they wouldn’t be able to afford aftercare if she worked full time. Again…IT DOES not matter. OP will get quite a bit of aid at $120k or $140k. We made about $140k and got offers from 75%-100% aid.

What schools? What grade? What hooks?

I make considerably less than $140k and was not expecting that much if we were admitted.