Private School Possible with Household Income <$80K

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Anonymous wrote:Dear OP,
Please come back in March and update us on how things turned out!

I really doubt OP is coming back to this thread. I wouldn't.

I would come back just to brag about the $$ I got!

I don’t understand why we are supposed to feel bad for someone that says:
“I don’t need to work, sorry you do” and then applies for financial aid.
“I would never stick my son in daycare”, but gladly takes the money of the families that do.

Her sense of entitlement is what I despise about people like OP. I do hope that people like her won’t be in my kids and mine circles

You have a huge sense of entitlement if you want kids from lower income families away from yours. You should fire the housekeeper as she is not worthy to be near you. These schools screaming equity and inclusion are a joke.

NP
She didn't say that she didn't want low income people around her children. She said that she didn't want entitled low income people who think that they are better than people who have to work and send their children to daycare while they plan to mooch off of those who full pay. Our family is lower-income based on DMV standards and we receive a huge chunk in FA. But we work our tails off to offset the amount that isn't covered by financial aid. I wouldn't dream of not working by choice and still having my hand out. Hell, she could drive uber or do door dash or something.

You really think someone is going to make a fortune doing door dash or uber and then who is caring for her kids. You probably are not low income and make $250k+ and call yourself middle class and live in a really nice house that you overpaid for and now scream poverty.

Often, financially it costs more to work than to stay home. I stayed home as my entire pay check would go to to day care and then my child wouldn't have gotten the therapies or help they needed. [b]Why pay someone else to care for your child when it costs your entire pay check? It makes zero sense.

[b]

I don’t understand why women always rationalize not working because their salary will ‘just go towards childcare’ costs and therefore be a wash.

My DH makes about $400k a year and I make $90k. I make far less than him but continue to work because I consider HIS paycheck to cover our childcare costs, while MY paycheck

1. Covers my retirement and my pension (I contribute half of my salary towards those two things)

2. By continuing to work and not becoming a sahm, I am not putting my financial future in jeopardy should I god forbid, ever become a single parent one day. I never would want that to happen but as a realistic adult I realize that sometimes it happens against our will.

3. I get excellent insurance benefits to cover medical and dental concerns, in addition to what my DH gets through his company. For example we paid nothing when we had our twins via c-section, bc we both had excellent medical insurance coverage.

That’s just the financial benefits of my work. There are of course many benefits to working that are not financially based (personal fulfillment, contributing to the world outside my home, modeling an egalitarian relationship for my daughter where both their father and I are responsible for caring for them and doing household chores.

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Anonymous wrote:Dear OP,
Please come back in March and update us on how things turned out!

I really doubt OP is coming back to this thread. I wouldn't.

I would come back just to brag about the $$ I got!

I don’t understand why we are supposed to feel bad for someone that says:
“I don’t need to work, sorry you do” and then applies for financial aid.
“I would never stick my son in daycare”, but gladly takes the money of the families that do.

Her sense of entitlement is what I despise about people like OP. I do hope that people like her won’t be in my kids and mine circles

You have a huge sense of entitlement if you want kids from lower income families away from yours. You should fire the housekeeper as she is not worthy to be near you. These schools screaming equity and inclusion are a joke.

NP
She didn't say that she didn't want low income people around her children. She said that she didn't want entitled low income people who think that they are better than people who have to work and send their children to daycare while they plan to mooch off of those who full pay. Our family is lower-income based on DMV standards and we receive a huge chunk in FA. But we work our tails off to offset the amount that isn't covered by financial aid. I wouldn't dream of not working by choice and still having my hand out. Hell, she could drive uber or do door dash or something.

You really think someone is going to make a fortune doing door dash or uber and then who is caring for her kids. You probably are not low income and make $250k+ and call yourself middle class and live in a really nice house that you overpaid for and now scream poverty.

Often, financially it costs more to work than to stay home. I stayed home as my entire pay check would go to to day care and then my child wouldn't have gotten the therapies or help they needed. [b]Why pay someone else to care for your child when it costs your entire pay check? It makes zero sense.

[b]

I don’t understand why women always rationalize not working because their salary will ‘just go towards childcare’ costs and therefore be a wash.

My DH makes about $400k a year and I make $90k. I make far less than him but continue to work because I consider HIS paycheck to cover our childcare costs, while MY paycheck

1. Covers my retirement and my pension (I contribute half of my salary towards those two things)

2. By continuing to work and not becoming a sahm, I am not putting my financial future in jeopardy should I god forbid, ever become a single parent one day. I never would want that to happen but as a realistic adult I realize that sometimes it happens against our will.

3. I get excellent insurance benefits to cover medical and dental concerns, in addition to what my DH gets through his company. For example we paid nothing when we had our twins via c-section, bc we both had excellent medical insurance coverage.

That’s just the financial benefits of my work. There are of course many benefits to working that are not financially based (personal fulfillment, contributing to the world outside my home, modeling an egalitarian relationship for my daughter where both their father and I are responsible for caring for them and doing household chores.

How is this relative to OP?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dear OP,
Please come back in March and update us on how things turned out!

I really doubt OP is coming back to this thread. I wouldn't.

I would come back just to brag about the $$ I got!

I don’t understand why we are supposed to feel bad for someone that says:
“I don’t need to work, sorry you do” and then applies for financial aid.
“I would never stick my son in daycare”, but gladly takes the money of the families that do.

Her sense of entitlement is what I despise about people like OP. I do hope that people like her won’t be in my kids and mine circles

You have a huge sense of entitlement if you want kids from lower income families away from yours. You should fire the housekeeper as she is not worthy to be near you. These schools screaming equity and inclusion are a joke.

NP
She didn't say that she didn't want low income people around her children. She said that she didn't want entitled low income people who think that they are better than people who have to work and send their children to daycare while they plan to mooch off of those who full pay. Our family is lower-income based on DMV standards and we receive a huge chunk in FA. But we work our tails off to offset the amount that isn't covered by financial aid. I wouldn't dream of not working by choice and still having my hand out. Hell, she could drive uber or do door dash or something.

You really think someone is going to make a fortune doing door dash or uber and then who is caring for her kids. You probably are not low income and make $250k+ and call yourself middle class and live in a really nice house that you overpaid for and now scream poverty.

Often, financially it costs more to work than to stay home. I stayed home as my entire pay check would go to to day care and then my child wouldn't have gotten the therapies or help they needed. [b]Why pay someone else to care for your child when it costs your entire pay check? It makes zero sense.

[b]

I don’t understand why women always rationalize not working because their salary will ‘just go towards childcare’ costs and therefore be a wash.

My DH makes about $400k a year and I make $90k. I make far less than him but continue to work because I consider HIS paycheck to cover our childcare costs, while MY paycheck

1. Covers my retirement and my pension (I contribute half of my salary towards those two things)

2. By continuing to work and not becoming a sahm, I am not putting my financial future in jeopardy should I god forbid, ever become a single parent one day. I never would want that to happen but as a realistic adult I realize that sometimes it happens against our will.

3. I get excellent insurance benefits to cover medical and dental concerns, in addition to what my DH gets through his company. For example we paid nothing when we had our twins via c-section, bc we both had excellent medical insurance coverage.

That’s just the financial benefits of my work. There are of course many benefits to working that are not financially based (personal fulfillment, contributing to the world outside my home, modeling an egalitarian relationship for my daughter where both their father and I are responsible for caring for them and doing household chores.

+1

Also, I don't know how many times it must be said, your salary will likely rise over time. It might equal the cost of daycare when your kid is a baby, but eventually they will go to school and your salary will be much more by then. You need to take the long view.

Or don't. Stay home forever if you like. But don't then assume your low income status should entitle you to free private school off the backs of other parents who have been working since Day 1, and then brush those parents off as clueless snobs for being able to pay for their kids' education. It's that simple.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dear OP,
Please come back in March and update us on how things turned out!

I really doubt OP is coming back to this thread. I wouldn't.

I would come back just to brag about the $$ I got!

I don’t understand why we are supposed to feel bad for someone that says:
“I don’t need to work, sorry you do” and then applies for financial aid.
“I would never stick my son in daycare”, but gladly takes the money of the families that do.

Her sense of entitlement is what I despise about people like OP. I do hope that people like her won’t be in my kids and mine circles

You have a huge sense of entitlement if you want kids from lower income families away from yours. You should fire the housekeeper as she is not worthy to be near you. These schools screaming equity and inclusion are a joke.

NP
She didn't say that she didn't want low income people around her children. She said that she didn't want entitled low income people who think that they are better than people who have to work and send their children to daycare while they plan to mooch off of those who full pay. Our family is lower-income based on DMV standards and we receive a huge chunk in FA. But we work our tails off to offset the amount that isn't covered by financial aid. I wouldn't dream of not working by choice and still having my hand out. Hell, she could drive uber or do door dash or something.

You really think someone is going to make a fortune doing door dash or uber and then who is caring for her kids. You probably are not low income and make $250k+ and call yourself middle class and live in a really nice house that you overpaid for and now scream poverty.

Often, financially it costs more to work than to stay home. I stayed home as my entire pay check would go to to day care and then my child wouldn't have gotten the therapies or help they needed. [b]Why pay someone else to care for your child when it costs your entire pay check? It makes zero sense.

[b]

I don’t understand why women always rationalize not working because their salary will ‘just go towards childcare’ costs and therefore be a wash.

My DH makes about $400k a year and I make $90k. I make far less than him but continue to work because I consider HIS paycheck to cover our childcare costs, while MY paycheck

1. Covers my retirement and my pension (I contribute half of my salary towards those two things)

2. By continuing to work and not becoming a sahm, I am not putting my financial future in jeopardy should I god forbid, ever become a single parent one day. I never would want that to happen but as a realistic adult I realize that sometimes it happens against our will.

3. I get excellent insurance benefits to cover medical and dental concerns, in addition to what my DH gets through his company. For example we paid nothing when we had our twins via c-section, bc we both had excellent medical insurance coverage.

That’s just the financial benefits of my work. There are of course many benefits to working that are not financially based (personal fulfillment, contributing to the world outside my home, modeling an egalitarian relationship for my daughter where both their father and I are responsible for caring for them and doing household chores.

How is this relative to OP?

It’s not, but I was just triggered by the ‘Why pay someone else to care for your child when it costs your entire pay check?’ comment! Had to get it out…

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dear OP,
Please come back in March and update us on how things turned out!

I really doubt OP is coming back to this thread. I wouldn't.

I would come back just to brag about the $$ I got!

I don’t understand why we are supposed to feel bad for someone that says:
“I don’t need to work, sorry you do” and then applies for financial aid.
“I would never stick my son in daycare”, but gladly takes the money of the families that do.

Her sense of entitlement is what I despise about people like OP. I do hope that people like her won’t be in my kids and mine circles

You have a huge sense of entitlement if you want kids from lower income families away from yours. You should fire the housekeeper as she is not worthy to be near you. These schools screaming equity and inclusion are a joke.

NP
She didn't say that she didn't want low income people around her children. She said that she didn't want entitled low income people who think that they are better than people who have to work and send their children to daycare while they plan to mooch off of those who full pay. Our family is lower-income based on DMV standards and we receive a huge chunk in FA. But we work our tails off to offset the amount that isn't covered by financial aid. I wouldn't dream of not working by choice and still having my hand out. Hell, she could drive uber or do door dash or something.

You really think someone is going to make a fortune doing door dash or uber and then who is caring for her kids. You probably are not low income and make $250k+ and call yourself middle class and live in a really nice house that you overpaid for and now scream poverty.

Often, financially it costs more to work than to stay home. I stayed home as my entire pay check would go to to day care and then my child wouldn't have gotten the therapies or help they needed. [b]Why pay someone else to care for your child when it costs your entire pay check? It makes zero sense.

[b]

I don’t understand why women always rationalize not working because their salary will ‘just go towards childcare’ costs and therefore be a wash.

My DH makes about $400k a year and I make $90k. I make far less than him but continue to work because I consider HIS paycheck to cover our childcare costs, while MY paycheck

1. Covers my retirement and my pension (I contribute half of my salary towards those two things)

2. By continuing to work and not becoming a sahm, I am not putting my financial future in jeopardy should I god forbid, ever become a single parent one day. I never would want that to happen but as a realistic adult I realize that sometimes it happens against our will.

3. I get excellent insurance benefits to cover medical and dental concerns, in addition to what my DH gets through his company. For example we paid nothing when we had our twins via c-section, bc we both had excellent medical insurance coverage.

That’s just the financial benefits of my work. There are of course many benefits to working that are not financially based (personal fulfillment, contributing to the world outside my home, modeling an egalitarian relationship for my daughter where both their father and I are responsible for caring for them and doing household chores.

How is this relative to OP?

Let met guess. You also have a housekeeper, nanny and gardener? You can live very very comfortably on $400K so you are working because you choose to. Now, imagine living on your salary alone.

Not everyone needs the health or dental benefits as they get them elsewhere. As a SAHM, you can still contribute to retirement. And, most places no longer give you a pension. You aren't living in the real world.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dear OP,
Please come back in March and update us on how things turned out!

I really doubt OP is coming back to this thread. I wouldn't.

I would come back just to brag about the $$ I got!

I don’t understand why we are supposed to feel bad for someone that says:
“I don’t need to work, sorry you do” and then applies for financial aid.
“I would never stick my son in daycare”, but gladly takes the money of the families that do.

Her sense of entitlement is what I despise about people like OP. I do hope that people like her won’t be in my kids and mine circles

You have a huge sense of entitlement if you want kids from lower income families away from yours. You should fire the housekeeper as she is not worthy to be near you. These schools screaming equity and inclusion are a joke.

NP
She didn't say that she didn't want low income people around her children. She said that she didn't want entitled low income people who think that they are better than people who have to work and send their children to daycare while they plan to mooch off of those who full pay. Our family is lower-income based on DMV standards and we receive a huge chunk in FA. But we work our tails off to offset the amount that isn't covered by financial aid. I wouldn't dream of not working by choice and still having my hand out. Hell, she could drive uber or do door dash or something.

You really think someone is going to make a fortune doing door dash or uber and then who is caring for her kids. You probably are not low income and make $250k+ and call yourself middle class and live in a really nice house that you overpaid for and now scream poverty.

Often, financially it costs more to work than to stay home. I stayed home as my entire pay check would go to to day care and then my child wouldn't have gotten the therapies or help they needed. [b]Why pay someone else to care for your child when it costs your entire pay check? It makes zero sense.

[b]

I don’t understand why women always rationalize not working because their salary will ‘just go towards childcare’ costs and therefore be a wash.

My DH makes about $400k a year and I make $90k. I make far less than him but continue to work because I consider HIS paycheck to cover our childcare costs, while MY paycheck

1. Covers my retirement and my pension (I contribute half of my salary towards those two things)

2. By continuing to work and not becoming a sahm, I am not putting my financial future in jeopardy should I god forbid, ever become a single parent one day. I never would want that to happen but as a realistic adult I realize that sometimes it happens against our will.

3. I get excellent insurance benefits to cover medical and dental concerns, in addition to what my DH gets through his company. For example we paid nothing when we had our twins via c-section, bc we both had excellent medical insurance coverage.

That’s just the financial benefits of my work. There are of course many benefits to working that are not financially based (personal fulfillment, contributing to the world outside my home, modeling an egalitarian relationship for my daughter where both their father and I are responsible for caring for them and doing household chores.

How is this relative to OP?

Let met guess. You also have a housekeeper, nanny and gardener? You can live very very comfortably on $400K so you are working because you choose to. Now, imagine living on your salary alone.

Not everyone needs the health or dental benefits as they get them elsewhere. As a SAHM, you can still contribute to retirement. And, most places no longer give you a pension. You aren't living in the real world.

Why do you need to be a SAHM if your kid is in school all day and has all these activities tht you speak of? What do you do all day? I understand staying at home with infants and toddlers because daycare is expensive, but it makes zero sense when kids are in elementary school. Since you say that it makes no sense for you to work, please tell us what you do

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dear OP,
Please come back in March and update us on how things turned out!

I really doubt OP is coming back to this thread. I wouldn't.

I would come back just to brag about the $$ I got!

I don’t understand why we are supposed to feel bad for someone that says:
“I don’t need to work, sorry you do” and then applies for financial aid.
“I would never stick my son in daycare”, but gladly takes the money of the families that do.

Her sense of entitlement is what I despise about people like OP. I do hope that people like her won’t be in my kids and mine circles

You have a huge sense of entitlement if you want kids from lower income families away from yours. You should fire the housekeeper as she is not worthy to be near you. These schools screaming equity and inclusion are a joke.

NP
She didn't say that she didn't want low income people around her children. She said that she didn't want entitled low income people who think that they are better than people who have to work and send their children to daycare while they plan to mooch off of those who full pay. Our family is lower-income based on DMV standards and we receive a huge chunk in FA. But we work our tails off to offset the amount that isn't covered by financial aid. I wouldn't dream of not working by choice and still having my hand out. Hell, she could drive uber or do door dash or something.

You really think someone is going to make a fortune doing door dash or uber and then who is caring for her kids. You probably are not low income and make $250k+ and call yourself middle class and live in a really nice house that you overpaid for and now scream poverty.

Often, financially it costs more to work than to stay home. I stayed home as my entire pay check would go to to day care and then my child wouldn't have gotten the therapies or help they needed. [b]Why pay someone else to care for your child when it costs your entire pay check? It makes zero sense.

[b]

I don’t understand why women always rationalize not working because their salary will ‘just go towards childcare’ costs and therefore be a wash.

My DH makes about $400k a year and I make $90k. I make far less than him but continue to work because I consider HIS paycheck to cover our childcare costs, while MY paycheck

1. Covers my retirement and my pension (I contribute half of my salary towards those two things)

2. By continuing to work and not becoming a sahm, I am not putting my financial future in jeopardy should I god forbid, ever become a single parent one day. I never would want that to happen but as a realistic adult I realize that sometimes it happens against our will.

3. I get excellent insurance benefits to cover medical and dental concerns, in addition to what my DH gets through his company. For example we paid nothing when we had our twins via c-section, bc we both had excellent medical insurance coverage.

That’s just the financial benefits of my work. There are of course many benefits to working that are not financially based (personal fulfillment, contributing to the world outside my home, modeling an egalitarian relationship for my daughter where both their father and I are responsible for caring for them and doing household chores.

How is this relative to OP?

Let met guess. You also have a housekeeper, nanny and gardener? You can live very very comfortably on $400K so you are working because you choose to. Now, imagine living on your salary alone.

Not everyone needs the health or dental benefits as they get them elsewhere. As a SAHM, you can still contribute to retirement. And, most places no longer give you a pension. You aren't living in the real world.

I don’t have a housekeeper just a twice a month cleaning service, I do have a guy who mows my lawn and my kids go to beforecare and aftercare. What’s your point? I’m pretty typical imo.

[Anonymous]

And how can a sahm contribute to retirement?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And how can a sahm contribute to retirement?!

How do you not know that?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dear OP,
Please come back in March and update us on how things turned out!

I really doubt OP is coming back to this thread. I wouldn't.

I would come back just to brag about the $$ I got!

I don’t understand why we are supposed to feel bad for someone that says:
“I don’t need to work, sorry you do” and then applies for financial aid.
“I would never stick my son in daycare”, but gladly takes the money of the families that do.

Her sense of entitlement is what I despise about people like OP. I do hope that people like her won’t be in my kids and mine circles

You have a huge sense of entitlement if you want kids from lower income families away from yours. You should fire the housekeeper as she is not worthy to be near you. These schools screaming equity and inclusion are a joke.

NP
She didn't say that she didn't want low income people around her children. She said that she didn't want entitled low income people who think that they are better than people who have to work and send their children to daycare while they plan to mooch off of those who full pay. Our family is lower-income based on DMV standards and we receive a huge chunk in FA. But we work our tails off to offset the amount that isn't covered by financial aid. I wouldn't dream of not working by choice and still having my hand out. Hell, she could drive uber or do door dash or something.

You really think someone is going to make a fortune doing door dash or uber and then who is caring for her kids. You probably are not low income and make $250k+ and call yourself middle class and live in a really nice house that you overpaid for and now scream poverty.

Often, financially it costs more to work than to stay home. I stayed home as my entire pay check would go to to day care and then my child wouldn't have gotten the therapies or help they needed. [b]Why pay someone else to care for your child when it costs your entire pay check? It makes zero sense.

[b]

I don’t understand why women always rationalize not working because their salary will ‘just go towards childcare’ costs and therefore be a wash.

My DH makes about $400k a year and I make $90k. I make far less than him but continue to work because I consider HIS paycheck to cover our childcare costs, while MY paycheck

1. Covers my retirement and my pension (I contribute half of my salary towards those two things)

2. By continuing to work and not becoming a sahm, I am not putting my financial future in jeopardy should I god forbid, ever become a single parent one day. I never would want that to happen but as a realistic adult I realize that sometimes it happens against our will.

3. I get excellent insurance benefits to cover medical and dental concerns, in addition to what my DH gets through his company. For example we paid nothing when we had our twins via c-section, bc we both had excellent medical insurance coverage.

That’s just the financial benefits of my work. There are of course many benefits to working that are not financially based (personal fulfillment, contributing to the world outside my home, modeling an egalitarian relationship for my daughter where both their father and I are responsible for caring for them and doing household chores.

How is this relative to OP?

Let met guess. You also have a housekeeper, nanny and gardener? You can live very very comfortably on $400K so you are working because you choose to. Now, imagine living on your salary alone.

Not everyone needs the health or dental benefits as they get them elsewhere. As a SAHM, you can still contribute to retirement. And, most places no longer give you a pension. You aren't living in the real world.

I don’t have a housekeeper just a twice a month cleaning service, I do have a guy who mows my lawn and my kids go to beforecare and aftercare. What’s your point? I’m pretty typical imo.

A housekeeper is a cleaning service. Rich and privileged. No, typical clean their own homes and mow their own lawns.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dear OP,
Please come back in March and update us on how things turned out!

I really doubt OP is coming back to this thread. I wouldn't.

I would come back just to brag about the $$ I got!

I don’t understand why we are supposed to feel bad for someone that says:
“I don’t need to work, sorry you do” and then applies for financial aid.
“I would never stick my son in daycare”, but gladly takes the money of the families that do.

Her sense of entitlement is what I despise about people like OP. I do hope that people like her won’t be in my kids and mine circles

You have a huge sense of entitlement if you want kids from lower income families away from yours. You should fire the housekeeper as she is not worthy to be near you. These schools screaming equity and inclusion are a joke.

NP
She didn't say that she didn't want low income people around her children. She said that she didn't want entitled low income people who think that they are better than people who have to work and send their children to daycare while they plan to mooch off of those who full pay. Our family is lower-income based on DMV standards and we receive a huge chunk in FA. But we work our tails off to offset the amount that isn't covered by financial aid. I wouldn't dream of not working by choice and still having my hand out. Hell, she could drive uber or do door dash or something.

You really think someone is going to make a fortune doing door dash or uber and then who is caring for her kids. You probably are not low income and make $250k+ and call yourself middle class and live in a really nice house that you overpaid for and now scream poverty.

Often, financially it costs more to work than to stay home. I stayed home as my entire pay check would go to to day care and then my child wouldn't have gotten the therapies or help they needed. [b]Why pay someone else to care for your child when it costs your entire pay check? It makes zero sense.

[b]

I don’t understand why women always rationalize not working because their salary will ‘just go towards childcare’ costs and therefore be a wash.

My DH makes about $400k a year and I make $90k. I make far less than him but continue to work because I consider HIS paycheck to cover our childcare costs, while MY paycheck

1. Covers my retirement and my pension (I contribute half of my salary towards those two things)

2. By continuing to work and not becoming a sahm, I am not putting my financial future in jeopardy should I god forbid, ever become a single parent one day. I never would want that to happen but as a realistic adult I realize that sometimes it happens against our will.

3. I get excellent insurance benefits to cover medical and dental concerns, in addition to what my DH gets through his company. For example we paid nothing when we had our twins via c-section, bc we both had excellent medical insurance coverage.

That’s just the financial benefits of my work. There are of course many benefits to working that are not financially based (personal fulfillment, contributing to the world outside my home, modeling an egalitarian relationship for my daughter where both their father and I are responsible for caring for them and doing household chores.

How is this relative to OP?

Let met guess. You also have a housekeeper, nanny and gardener? You can live very very comfortably on $400K so you are working because you choose to. Now, imagine living on your salary alone.

Not everyone needs the health or dental benefits as they get them elsewhere. As a SAHM, you can still contribute to retirement. And, most places no longer give you a pension. You aren't living in the real world.

Why do you need to be a SAHM if your kid is in school all day and has all these activities tht you speak of? What do you do all day? I understand staying at home with infants and toddlers because daycare is expensive, but it makes zero sense when kids are in elementary school. Since you say that it makes no sense for you to work, please tell us what you do

What ever I want!

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Here I was worrying about paying private tuition long term on $325k. Which I thought was poor by DCUM private school standards. Who knew!

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Anonymous wrote:Here I was worrying about paying private tuition long term on $325k. Which I thought was poor by DCUM private school standards. Who knew!

How can you not comfortably pay on $325k?

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To original question - yes, with aid. But I wouldn't do it. There are way too many other things that cost money and you will feel stressed. In the end, it really isn't worth it.

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Please come back in March and update us on how things turned out!

I really doubt OP is coming back to this thread. I wouldn't.

I would come back just to brag about the $$ I got!

I don’t understand why we are supposed to feel bad for someone that says:
“I don’t need to work, sorry you do” and then applies for financial aid.
“I would never stick my son in daycare”, but gladly takes the money of the families that do.

Her sense of entitlement is what I despise about people like OP. I do hope that people like her won’t be in my kids and mine circles

You have a huge sense of entitlement if you want kids from lower income families away from yours. You should fire the housekeeper as she is not worthy to be near you. These schools screaming equity and inclusion are a joke.

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She didn't say that she didn't want low income people around her children. She said that she didn't want entitled low income people who think that they are better than people who have to work and send their children to daycare while they plan to mooch off of those who full pay. Our family is lower-income based on DMV standards and we receive a huge chunk in FA. But we work our tails off to offset the amount that isn't covered by financial aid. I wouldn't dream of not working by choice and still having my hand out. Hell, she could drive uber or do door dash or something.

You really think someone is going to make a fortune doing door dash or uber and then who is caring for her kids. You probably are not low income and make $250k+ and call yourself middle class and live in a really nice house that you overpaid for and now scream poverty.

Often, financially it costs more to work than to stay home. I stayed home as my entire pay check would go to to day care and then my child wouldn't have gotten the therapies or help they needed. Why pay someone else to care for your child when it costs your entire pay check? It makes zero sense.

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[b]I don’t understand why women always rationalize not working because their salary will ‘just go towards childcare’ costs and therefore be a wash.

My DH makes about $400k a year and I make $90k. I make far less than him but continue to work because I consider HIS paycheck to cover our childcare costs, while MY paycheck

1. Covers my retirement and my pension (I contribute half of my salary towards those two things)

2. By continuing to work and not becoming a sahm, I am not putting my financial future in jeopardy should I god forbid, ever become a single parent one day. I never would want that to happen but as a realistic adult I realize that sometimes it happens against our will.

3. I get excellent insurance benefits to cover medical and dental concerns, in addition to what my DH gets through his company. For example we paid nothing when we had our twins via c-section, bc we both had excellent medical insurance coverage.

That’s just the financial benefits of my work. There are of course many benefits to working that are not financially based (personal fulfillment, contributing to the world outside my home, modeling an egalitarian relationship for my daughter where both their father and I are responsible for caring for them and doing household chores.

The bolded is something I don't get either.

Furthermore, it also gives you work history!!