Daughter Wants to Stay for Summer, Wife Says No

[Anonymous]

I am guessing this is a stepmom and dad doesn't parent her or do any work, historically. She's probably messy and does no chores and SM has to clean up after her and SD is probably rude to her. Dad thinks she's a little angel who causes no trouble but Dad doesn't actually help take care for her or clean up after her.

[Anonymous]

We have been married for a few years. My daughter’s mom and I share custody, and my daughter decided that she wanted to stay here for the entire summer. Op

[Anonymous]

yup you pick your daughter. and divorce that selfish woman.

[Anonymous]

What does her mom (your ex-wife) say? I can’t imagine not living with my mom before going off to college!

[Anonymous]

Why does your daughter want to stay with you?

Does your daughter behave correctly in your home, ie, is reasonably polite to everyone living in the house, does a few chores, cleans up her mess and avoid perturbing other people's life, like not coming home at midnight and making a racket?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have been married for a few years. My daughter’s mom and I share custody, and my daughter decided that she wanted to stay here for the entire summer. Op

I understand why it might not be your wife’s preference to have your daughter there full-time, but you will never get this chance again and you will permanently damage your relationship with your daughter if you say no. If your wife can’t suck it up for one summer, you might really want to question that relationship. I say this is a divorced mom in a relationship and a child of divorce. The kid should come first.

[Anonymous]

Kids come first.

Your new wife is unfortunately showing her colors a little later than would have been ideal.

But now you know what kind of person you married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids come first.

Your new wife is unfortunately showing her colors a little later than would have been ideal.

But now you know what kind of person you married.

Sadly, for a lot of men, the kids do not come first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A crying and hurt 18 year old is not what you want living with you

A stepmother who objects to her stepdaughter living with her the summer before college and didn't offer a reason is not who you want living with you.

This. Kids first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Need more information. I don’t think one parent gets to make a unilateral decision. Also can’t fathom why a mother would not want her child home for summer. Where else would she live?

If this is a step- mom saying this ( and gives no reason) CHOOSE YOUR CHILD!

+1

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand how this is a question. What kind of a d!ck wouldn’t let hiis daughter live with him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have been married for a few years. My daughter’s mom and I share custody, and my daughter decided that she wanted to stay here for the entire summer. Op

I understand why it might not be your wife’s preference to have your daughter there full-time, but you will never get this chance again and you will permanently damage your relationship with your daughter if you say no. If your wife can’t suck it up for one summer, you might really want to question that relationship. I say this is a divorced mom in a relationship and a child of divorce. The kid should come first.

+1

How is this even a question?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand how this is a question. What kind of a d!ck wouldn’t let hiis daughter live with him?

+1. And some people wonder why their kids don’t speak to them as adults.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have been married for a few years. My daughter’s mom and I share custody, and my daughter decided that she wanted to stay here for the entire summer. Op

Did mom agree?

[Anonymous]

I am assuming your wife is your daughter’s Stepmother?

I would allow my daughter to stay before college.

What is your wife’s reasoning for not wanting this??