Worried about college for "standard strong" DS

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wake ED
Middlebury ED
Wesleyan ED
Vassar
Tulane
Macalester
Kenyon
American/GWU


Being a boy can help especially if he improves his SAT score. Not to take away from your DS (I’m a boy mom too) but it’s just the reality at a lot of schools. It’s not fair to girls and hopefully things will change.

He hasn't even taken the SAT yet! READ.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid was at a DC selective public high school. Lower 1/3 of the class. Average ECs
At a SLAC but I wish he wound up at a bigger school as the social group is too small.
My DS was very similar in that he is challenged by all the smart kids around him.

Get SATs up and apply ED to Boston University
University of Rochester - go visit and see if it is a good fit
Do a summer program at University of Chicago and apply ED 0

Is your DC happy at the SLAC? I don't want to start another boring debate about Chicago, but the kids we know there are super academically motivated and had very high SATs. Don't think it's a fit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If at Stuy or Brx Science, what is the numeric gpa and I will let you know what I have seen. Below 93 is tough and you should ED strategically. I have seen success with lower UCs if that is an option. Start at SUNY and transfering is also an option.

Bronx (not Stuy, mercifully). Current GPA is 93.5 (woo hoo for the 0.5!). I have faint hope for huge improvement on the SAT - he never does well on standardized verbal tests. As you likely know, a strong math score on the SHSAT can make up for a weaker verbal, but the SAT is different.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My God, OP. Your poor kid. He's in 10th grade with a solid profile -- although you don't even know his test scores yet! -- and you're already freaking out about college? He's going to be just fine. As time goes on he'll see school mates getting into various colleges and things will fall into place.

Let him enjoy high school. In the meantime, take a Xanax.

Actually, you are the one who needs to chill. OP is not freaking out. They are asking a very reasonable question. By spring of sophomore year you have some sense of where your kid is going to be. These super selective public high schools are great at handling top kids, and also feeding kids to in-state publics, but aren't good at the other kids. So OP is asking a great question in a very reasonable tone.

But you be you. FFS.

OP: Thank you. FWIW, we didn't really want to send him to a SHS, but had a really poor lottery #, so the other public options were not amazing. And he does love the school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid was at a DC selective public high school. Lower 1/3 of the class. Average ECs
At a SLAC but I wish he wound up at a bigger school as the social group is too small.
My DS was very similar in that he is challenged by all the smart kids around him.

Get SATs up and apply ED to Boston University
University of Rochester - go visit and see if it is a good fit
Do a summer program at University of Chicago and apply ED 0

Is your DC happy at the SLAC? I don't want to start another boring debate about Chicago, but the kids we know there are super academically motivated and had very high SATs. Don't think it's a fit.

I wouldn't exclude that possibility. Not to start a debate about Chicago, but 25% of Chicago students are non-submitters. Like every school, there are motivated like your DC, and there are bright and happy kids who can adjust well once there. Especially for OP's kid, strong in math and weaker in verbal can still do very well at Chicago.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My God, OP. Your poor kid. He's in 10th grade with a solid profile -- although you don't even know his test scores yet! -- and you're already freaking out about college? He's going to be just fine. As time goes on he'll see school mates getting into various colleges and things will fall into place.

Let him enjoy high school. In the meantime, take a Xanax.

Actually, you are the one who needs to chill. OP is not freaking out. They are asking a very reasonable question. By spring of sophomore year you have some sense of where your kid is going to be. These super selective public high schools are great at handling top kids, and also feeding kids to in-state publics, but aren't good at the other kids. So OP is asking a great question in a very reasonable tone.

But you be you. FFS.

OP: Thank you. FWIW, we didn't really want to send him to a SHS, but had a really poor lottery #, so the other public options were not amazing. And he does love the school.

Is he all stressed out as well, or is it just you?

[Anonymous]

A LOT can change between now and then OP. My kids wanted totally different things between soph and beginning of senior year. At that point, I think you let tell you him some parameters.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My God, OP. Your poor kid. He's in 10th grade with a solid profile -- although you don't even know his test scores yet! -- and you're already freaking out about college? He's going to be just fine. As time goes on he'll see school mates getting into various colleges and things will fall into place.

Let him enjoy high school. In the meantime, take a Xanax.

Actually, you are the one who needs to chill. OP is not freaking out. They are asking a very reasonable question. By spring of sophomore year you have some sense of where your kid is going to be. These super selective public high schools are great at handling top kids, and also feeding kids to in-state publics, but aren't good at the other kids. So OP is asking a great question in a very reasonable tone.

But you be you. FFS.

Yes, she freaking out. She's describing a well adjusted kid who's doing just fine and is only in 10th grade. I sent four kids to college and the only "sense" I had about them in 10th grade was whether they were happy. This kid will land on his feet. Everything she says about him makes that clear. He could be happy in any one of 100 colleges.

Wow. You have a lot of angst. Now is the time to start thinking about this. Possibly starting to look at schools. So good to seek out options to visit and target. She is not stressed. Perhaps she shouldn't have had "worried" in the title but she has made it clear she is not worried, just doing her homework.

So many obnoxious people here just looking to show off how smart they think they are and how dumb they think everyone else is, yet the opposite is often true. If you don't have anything constructive to say, say nothing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My God, OP. Your poor kid. He's in 10th grade with a solid profile -- although you don't even know his test scores yet! -- and you're already freaking out about college? He's going to be just fine. As time goes on he'll see school mates getting into various colleges and things will fall into place.

Let him enjoy high school. In the meantime, take a Xanax.

Actually, you are the one who needs to chill. OP is not freaking out. They are asking a very reasonable question. By spring of sophomore year you have some sense of where your kid is going to be. These super selective public high schools are great at handling top kids, and also feeding kids to in-state publics, but aren't good at the other kids. So OP is asking a great question in a very reasonable tone.

But you be you. FFS.

OP: Thank you. FWIW, we didn't really want to send him to a SHS, but had a really poor lottery #, so the other public options were not amazing. And he does love the school.

Is he all stressed out as well, or is it just you?

This is not what OP is asking. Why are you trying to steer the discussion that way?
Weirdo. FFS.

[Anonymous]

To the OP - I'm sorry that so many nasty people are here. You are asking great questions. Doing your homework. Good luck. I just reported one of the nasty posts to eliminate the clutter. Lots of people are in your boat. Good luck! Sounds like you have a great kid.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My God, OP. Your poor kid. He's in 10th grade with a solid profile -- although you don't even know his test scores yet! -- and you're already freaking out about college? He's going to be just fine. As time goes on he'll see school mates getting into various colleges and things will fall into place.

Let him enjoy high school. In the meantime, take a Xanax.

Actually, you are the one who needs to chill. OP is not freaking out. They are asking a very reasonable question. By spring of sophomore year you have some sense of where your kid is going to be. These super selective public high schools are great at handling top kids, and also feeding kids to in-state publics, but aren't good at the other kids. So OP is asking a great question in a very reasonable tone.

But you be you. FFS.

Yes, she freaking out. She's describing a well adjusted kid who's doing just fine and is only in 10th grade. I sent four kids to college and the only "sense" I had about them in 10th grade was whether they were happy. This kid will land on his feet. Everything she says about him makes that clear. He could be happy in any one of 100 colleges.

Wow. You have a lot of angst. Now is the time to start thinking about this. Possibly starting to look at schools. So good to seek out options to visit and target. She is not stressed. Perhaps she shouldn't have had "worried" in the title but she has made it clear she is not worried, just doing her homework.

So many obnoxious people here just looking to show off how smart they think they are and how dumb they think everyone else is, yet the opposite is often true. If you don't have anything constructive to say, say nothing.

I'm being constructive in urging the OP to relax. You, on the other hand, are feeding into OP's anxieties.

+1 Sounds like we have a self-appointed thread master who won't allow any contrary opinion to pass through here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the OP - I'm sorry that so many nasty people are here. You are asking great questions. Doing your homework. Good luck. I just reported one of the nasty posts to eliminate the clutter. Lots of people are in your boat. Good luck! Sounds like you have a great kid.

I agree that the OP has a "great kid" and that's what I've been saying since the beginning. There's nothing she says about the kid that gives any cause for her to be concerned. It's not "clutter" to push back on random lists of colleges or comments from posters along the lines of "he needs to bring his SATs up" when he hasn't even taken the test yet.

And it's certainly not "clutter" to advise OP not to allow the DCUM crazies to rope her in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the OP - I'm sorry that so many nasty people are here. You are asking great questions. Doing your homework. Good luck. I just reported one of the nasty posts to eliminate the clutter. Lots of people are in your boat. Good luck! Sounds like you have a great kid.

op; Thx! I'm ignoring the mean posters. Yes, he's a very sweet boy, and I want him to land somewhere he'll be happy. If Binghamton winds up the winner, that's fine/great/plenty left in the 529 for some other purpose. But I want to apply smartly and broadly as well. Lots of good suggestions that I'm writing down!

[Anonymous]

Standard strong students get into fantastic schools.
William & Mary
George Washington
BU
Colgate
Hamilton

I mean, there are so many choices, depending on his major and what region he’s interested in. You may want to ED, if he has a particular favorite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the OP - I'm sorry that so many nasty people are here. You are asking great questions. Doing your homework. Good luck. I just reported one of the nasty posts to eliminate the clutter. Lots of people are in your boat. Good luck! Sounds like you have a great kid.

I agree that the OP has a "great kid" and that's what I've been saying since the beginning. There's nothing she says about the kid that gives any cause for her to be concerned. It's not "clutter" to push back on random lists of colleges or comments from posters along the lines of "he needs to bring his SATs up" when he hasn't even taken the test yet.

And it's certainly not "clutter" to advise OP not to allow the DCUM crazies to rope her in.

There is a big difference between those who are constructively pushing back on school suggestions and those who are insulting the OP by saying they are nuts for being so concerned and anxious when they have given no indication that this is the case in multiple well-written posts.