Worried about college for "standard strong" DS

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My God, OP. Your poor kid. He's in 10th grade with a solid profile -- although you don't even know his test scores yet! -- and you're already freaking out about college? He's going to be just fine. As time goes on he'll see school mates getting into various colleges and things will fall into place.

Let him enjoy high school. In the meantime, take a Xanax.

Actually, you are the one who needs to chill. OP is not freaking out. They are asking a very reasonable question. By spring of sophomore year you have some sense of where your kid is going to be. These super selective public high schools are great at handling top kids, and also feeding kids to in-state publics, but aren't good at the other kids. So OP is asking a great question in a very reasonable tone.

But you be you. FFS.

OP: Thank you. FWIW, we didn't really want to send him to a SHS, but had a really poor lottery #, so the other public options were not amazing. And he does love the school.

Is he all stressed out as well, or is it just you?

[Anonymous]

A LOT can change between now and then OP. My kids wanted totally different things between soph and beginning of senior year. At that point, I think you let tell you him some parameters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My God, OP. Your poor kid. He's in 10th grade with a solid profile -- although you don't even know his test scores yet! -- and you're already freaking out about college? He's going to be just fine. As time goes on he'll see school mates getting into various colleges and things will fall into place.

Let him enjoy high school. In the meantime, take a Xanax.

Actually, you are the one who needs to chill. OP is not freaking out. They are asking a very reasonable question. By spring of sophomore year you have some sense of where your kid is going to be. These super selective public high schools are great at handling top kids, and also feeding kids to in-state publics, but aren't good at the other kids. So OP is asking a great question in a very reasonable tone.

But you be you. FFS.

Yes, she freaking out. She's describing a well adjusted kid who's doing just fine and is only in 10th grade. I sent four kids to college and the only "sense" I had about them in 10th grade was whether they were happy. This kid will land on his feet. Everything she says about him makes that clear. He could be happy in any one of 100 colleges.

Wow. You have a lot of angst. Now is the time to start thinking about this. Possibly starting to look at schools. So good to seek out options to visit and target. She is not stressed. Perhaps she shouldn't have had "worried" in the title but she has made it clear she is not worried, just doing her homework.

So many obnoxious people here just looking to show off how smart they think they are and how dumb they think everyone else is, yet the opposite is often true. If you don't have anything constructive to say, say nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My God, OP. Your poor kid. He's in 10th grade with a solid profile -- although you don't even know his test scores yet! -- and you're already freaking out about college? He's going to be just fine. As time goes on he'll see school mates getting into various colleges and things will fall into place.

Let him enjoy high school. In the meantime, take a Xanax.

Actually, you are the one who needs to chill. OP is not freaking out. They are asking a very reasonable question. By spring of sophomore year you have some sense of where your kid is going to be. These super selective public high schools are great at handling top kids, and also feeding kids to in-state publics, but aren't good at the other kids. So OP is asking a great question in a very reasonable tone.

But you be you. FFS.

OP: Thank you. FWIW, we didn't really want to send him to a SHS, but had a really poor lottery #, so the other public options were not amazing. And he does love the school.

Is he all stressed out as well, or is it just you?

This is not what OP is asking. Why are you trying to steer the discussion that way?
Weirdo. FFS.

[Anonymous]

To the OP - I'm sorry that so many nasty people are here. You are asking great questions. Doing your homework. Good luck. I just reported one of the nasty posts to eliminate the clutter. Lots of people are in your boat. Good luck! Sounds like you have a great kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My God, OP. Your poor kid. He's in 10th grade with a solid profile -- although you don't even know his test scores yet! -- and you're already freaking out about college? He's going to be just fine. As time goes on he'll see school mates getting into various colleges and things will fall into place.

Let him enjoy high school. In the meantime, take a Xanax.

Actually, you are the one who needs to chill. OP is not freaking out. They are asking a very reasonable question. By spring of sophomore year you have some sense of where your kid is going to be. These super selective public high schools are great at handling top kids, and also feeding kids to in-state publics, but aren't good at the other kids. So OP is asking a great question in a very reasonable tone.

But you be you. FFS.

Yes, she freaking out. She's describing a well adjusted kid who's doing just fine and is only in 10th grade. I sent four kids to college and the only "sense" I had about them in 10th grade was whether they were happy. This kid will land on his feet. Everything she says about him makes that clear. He could be happy in any one of 100 colleges.

Wow. You have a lot of angst. Now is the time to start thinking about this. Possibly starting to look at schools. So good to seek out options to visit and target. She is not stressed. Perhaps she shouldn't have had "worried" in the title but she has made it clear she is not worried, just doing her homework.

So many obnoxious people here just looking to show off how smart they think they are and how dumb they think everyone else is, yet the opposite is often true. If you don't have anything constructive to say, say nothing.

I'm being constructive in urging the OP to relax. You, on the other hand, are feeding into OP's anxieties.

+1 Sounds like we have a self-appointed thread master who won't allow any contrary opinion to pass through here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the OP - I'm sorry that so many nasty people are here. You are asking great questions. Doing your homework. Good luck. I just reported one of the nasty posts to eliminate the clutter. Lots of people are in your boat. Good luck! Sounds like you have a great kid.

I agree that the OP has a "great kid" and that's what I've been saying since the beginning. There's nothing she says about the kid that gives any cause for her to be concerned. It's not "clutter" to push back on random lists of colleges or comments from posters along the lines of "he needs to bring his SATs up" when he hasn't even taken the test yet.

And it's certainly not "clutter" to advise OP not to allow the DCUM crazies to rope her in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the OP - I'm sorry that so many nasty people are here. You are asking great questions. Doing your homework. Good luck. I just reported one of the nasty posts to eliminate the clutter. Lots of people are in your boat. Good luck! Sounds like you have a great kid.

op; Thx! I'm ignoring the mean posters. Yes, he's a very sweet boy, and I want him to land somewhere he'll be happy. If Binghamton winds up the winner, that's fine/great/plenty left in the 529 for some other purpose. But I want to apply smartly and broadly as well. Lots of good suggestions that I'm writing down!

[Anonymous]

Standard strong students get into fantastic schools.
William & Mary
George Washington
BU
Colgate
Hamilton

I mean, there are so many choices, depending on his major and what region he’s interested in. You may want to ED, if he has a particular favorite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the OP - I'm sorry that so many nasty people are here. You are asking great questions. Doing your homework. Good luck. I just reported one of the nasty posts to eliminate the clutter. Lots of people are in your boat. Good luck! Sounds like you have a great kid.

I agree that the OP has a "great kid" and that's what I've been saying since the beginning. There's nothing she says about the kid that gives any cause for her to be concerned. It's not "clutter" to push back on random lists of colleges or comments from posters along the lines of "he needs to bring his SATs up" when he hasn't even taken the test yet.

And it's certainly not "clutter" to advise OP not to allow the DCUM crazies to rope her in.

There is a big difference between those who are constructively pushing back on school suggestions and those who are insulting the OP by saying they are nuts for being so concerned and anxious when they have given no indication that this is the case in multiple well-written posts.

[Anonymous]

OP, I know it’s hard not to stress and you are a good parent for being concerned. Make a plan that takes advantage of your ability to be full pay. Apply somewhere rolling, like Pitt, early on, to have an admit in your back pocket and take the pressure off. And have a strategy based around ED.

I know you’re worried about smaller LACs but what about larger ones like Colgate or Lafayette? Lehigh which is larger could be a good option since he’s math-oriented.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the OP - I'm sorry that so many nasty people are here. You are asking great questions. Doing your homework. Good luck. I just reported one of the nasty posts to eliminate the clutter. Lots of people are in your boat. Good luck! Sounds like you have a great kid.

I agree that the OP has a "great kid" and that's what I've been saying since the beginning. There's nothing she says about the kid that gives any cause for her to be concerned. It's not "clutter" to push back on random lists of colleges or comments from posters along the lines of "he needs to bring his SATs up" when he hasn't even taken the test yet.

And it's certainly not "clutter" to advise OP not to allow the DCUM crazies to rope her in.

There is a big difference between those who are constructively pushing back on school suggestions and those who are insulting the OP by saying they are nuts for being so concerned and anxious when they have given no indication that this is the case in multiple well-written posts.

I never said the OP was nuts. I said some of the responses are.

[Anonymous]

It is too early to say but, despite how competitive they are on paper, the second level NESCACs (Colby, Bates, and so on) or schools like Hamilton and Colgate have loads of kids with this profile. Their SAT averages are super high because not many people submit. You'd have to commit to applying early, though.

If you are

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Standard strong students get into fantastic schools.
William & Mary
George Washington
BU
Colgate
Hamilton

I mean, there are so many choices, depending on his major and what region he’s interested in. You may want to ED, if he has a particular favorite.

Looking at Naviance, I think these are all reaches except for GW. Agree that if we can find a good ED school, that would help. But I can't imagine doing ED sight-unseen, so we're probably looking at a lot of tours. A reason to start early...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the OP - I'm sorry that so many nasty people are here. You are asking great questions. Doing your homework. Good luck. I just reported one of the nasty posts to eliminate the clutter. Lots of people are in your boat. Good luck! Sounds like you have a great kid.

I agree that the OP has a "great kid" and that's what I've been saying since the beginning. There's nothing she says about the kid that gives any cause for her to be concerned. It's not "clutter" to push back on random lists of colleges or comments from posters along the lines of "he needs to bring his SATs up" when he hasn't even taken the test yet.

And it's certainly not "clutter" to advise OP not to allow the DCUM crazies to rope her in.

There is a big difference between those who are constructively pushing back on school suggestions and those who are insulting the OP by saying they are nuts for being so concerned and anxious when they have given no indication that this is the case in multiple well-written posts.

I never said the OP was nuts. I said some of the responses are.

You are the only crazies in this thread. If that isn’t apparent to you, seek professional help.