Is it reasonable to be extremely annoyed by this?

[Anonymous]

An honest advice, don't make a river out of a drop of water while you two are dealing with a toddler, a baby and visiting family. Neither of you need a fight or a dose of resentment. Take a deep breath and let it go.

[Anonymous]

Can you just ask him to handle the towels for his parents? I assume part of your annoyance comes from having to rewash them. So what if you just very calmly .. didn't?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This would annoy me… Especially when he knew the towels were clean and don’t belong on the floor

The least he could have done was toss them on top of the w/d.

Your husband is a slob. Sorry OP.

In a hurry, my DH would have either dumped it on top of the w/d, or the dining table, or the sofa...if he did not find a laundry basket. So, yes, go ahead and yell.

Here is the thing though. In my household, despite my repeated lessons, my family does laundry in an "average" manner. I, on the other hand, like to sort very well, use different products for each load, have different water temp, different spin speed etc. I also take care with the drying, folding etc. I run the fuzz remover in fuzzy fabrics, lay the sweater flat and shape them...so, when my family does laundry, our entire family start to dress like poor people. So, I do the laundry, and DH cooks. I am hoping that in your family there is a similar division of labor.

But still, which moron dumps clean laundry on the floor? Why not use a fresh trash bag if you are out of laundry basket?

Also, you are supposed to be well taken care of for at least the first 40 days postpartum in most cultures. So, you need to drop the ball and have a list of chores written down for your DH, your ILs. If you need to hire someone to do this...please do that.

[Anonymous]

Don't worry about perfect hosting, they know you are postpartum with an infant and a toddler. Instead welcome them sincerely and let them pitch in any way they are willing to do. Happy family is better than perfect HGTV home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean I’d be annoyed, but not angry. So yes I think you’re overreacting.

Why didn’t you fold all of the towels? Is your excuse going to be because you were going something nice for HIS parents?

Now I get selectively removing items from the dryer so I’m not blaming you for that. But an argument could be made that you both made mistakes. And what’s the big deal anyway? That you need to rewash them? Ok, so?

No. I don't think OP was overreacting. UNLESS the DH is mentally or physically disabled.

Most people will agree that he did not have to fold the laundry...but no one will agree that the place to put unfolded clean laundry is on the floor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not in a million years pick those towels up. Yes, I would order new towels if I ran out of clean ones and those towels were still sitting on the floor where he tossed them.

report back to us how long it takes for him to pick up the towels, fold and put them away. i bet he does it five minutes before his parents show.

There was an episode of Everybody Loves Raymond like this but with stinky cheese.

It was actually a suitcase.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Very reasonable to be very annoyed. Even my teenagers know better. If in a huge hurry (it happens), at least put them in a basket. Or even throw them in a pile on top of the dryer if no basket available. Not the floor!

[Anonymous]

Why didn't he put them on top of the dryer

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't he put them on top of the dryer

OP here - good question! I wouldn’t mind at all if he had put them there. It’s what I do when I’m in a rush and no basket is available.

To the poster who asked why I hadn’t just folded the towels myself - honestly, I just hadn’t gotten around to it and was going to do it today. I have been taking care of an infant, trying to give my toddler attention when I am not occupied with the baby, loading and unloading the dishwasher and cleaning up the kitchen, trying to keep toys picked up, and socializing with the in-laws since I did the load of laundry just prior to the in-laws’ arrival.

To the poster who said I could have folded the towels in the time it took me to write this post - I wrote this post while allowing the baby, who has been refusing bassinet naps all weekend, to take a contact nap on me. So no, I could not have used the time I spent writing this post to do laundry.

Thank you to the many posters who validated my feelings about this. And thank you also to the posters who suggested that I should just let it go to keep the peace in a difficult season. I will likely do that - although I may just leave the towels where they are to see how long it takes him to do something about them!

[Anonymous]

Ask him kindly not to do it again and let him add it to his laundry load.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That seems deliberate.

+100 he knew they were clean WHY the heck would he throw them on the floor?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't he put them on top of the dryer

OP here - good question! I wouldn’t mind at all if he had put them there. It’s what I do when I’m in a rush and no basket is available.

To the poster who asked why I hadn’t just folded the towels myself - honestly, I just hadn’t gotten around to it and was going to do it today. I have been taking care of an infant, trying to give my toddler attention when I am not occupied with the baby, loading and unloading the dishwasher and cleaning up the kitchen, trying to keep toys picked up, and socializing with the in-laws since I did the load of laundry just prior to the in-laws’ arrival.

To the poster who said I could have folded the towels in the time it took me to write this post - I wrote this post while allowing the baby, who has been refusing bassinet naps all weekend, to take a contact nap on me. So no, I could not have used the time I spent writing this post to do laundry.

Thank you to the many posters who validated my feelings about this. And thank you also to the posters who suggested that I should just let it go to keep the peace in a difficult season. I will likely do that - although I may just leave the towels where they are to see how long it takes him to do something about them!

Well if the towels were for his family visiting then go just that, leave them there and let him figure it out when they come visit. His problem now not yours!

[Anonymous]

Do not pick those towels up OP!
Just see how long it takes for him to do it.

[Anonymous]

"Extremely annoyed", "more than annoyed ", "angry", "criticism", "on the offensive", "blame" Op, it's towels

Yes you are way overreacting. And this plan, this plan or "waiting until tonight ..." ooooh, the intrigue. Setting-up for a confrontation! Instead Op, what's ordinary is to mention what you would have preferred in the moment or just prior to another likely occurrence

[Anonymous]

I'm angry mostly because your husband was totally the douche in college that did this to people too.