How to break an affair?

[Anonymous]

Don’t say *hit
Let the divorce papers you serve him cold do all the talking & breaking.

Plus his AP isn’t married - just shacking w a BF. That’s minor.

[Anonymous]

OP, head over to Chump Lady’s website and get a copy of her book Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life. Channel your rage and sorrow productively.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would send an anonymous note to her BF

Yes. Cheaters should be called out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You again. You keep posting variations of the same thing. You need to stop being obsessed with the AP for your own mental health.

This. Please seek therapy and find the peace to walk away. Please.

[Anonymous]

You will benefit your kids far more by giving them the emotional bandwidth you plan to use for revenge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Told her husband. Said my piece to her face. Got closure. Her husband divorced her.

Facts are facts. Nobody should feel bad about stating what someone did. Period. There is this weird cheater mentality of trying to make the betrayed—the victims- out to be bad for ratting them out. That’s Grade A gaslighting.

Do what YOU need to do for your own closure. Don’t worry about the outcome, e.g., what happens to her after you tell. Shut that book tight. It’s over. Move on with your fabulous life. Living well is the best revenge.

Transparency and honesty are always the best- even when painful. Don’t ever let a liar/cheat make you feel bad about exposing their deceit. Actions have consequences.

On the flip side I know someone who told the AP's spouse and they didn't care. That was way worse than if she hadn't spent the time and energy trying to take down the AP because it came to nothing. Let it go, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Told her husband. Said my piece to her face. Got closure. Her husband divorced her.

Facts are facts. Nobody should feel bad about stating what someone did. Period. There is this weird cheater mentality of trying to make the betrayed—the victims- out to be bad for ratting them out. That’s Grade A gaslighting.

Do what YOU need to do for your own closure. Don’t worry about the outcome, e.g., what happens to her after you tell. Shut that book tight. It’s over. Move on with your fabulous life. Living well is the best revenge.

Transparency and honesty are always the best- even when painful. Don’t ever let a liar/cheat make you feel bad about exposing their deceit. Actions have consequences.

On the flip side I know someone who told the AP's spouse and they didn't care. That was way worse than if she hadn't spent the time and energy trying to take down the AP because it came to nothing. Let it go, OP.

You don’t tell the other betrayed spouse to “take down the AP”. You do it so that they have the truth. What they choose to do with that information is their business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Told her husband. Said my piece to her face. Got closure. Her husband divorced her.

Facts are facts. Nobody should feel bad about stating what someone did. Period. There is this weird cheater mentality of trying to make the betrayed—the victims- out to be bad for ratting them out. That’s Grade A gaslighting.

Do what YOU need to do for your own closure. Don’t worry about the outcome, e.g., what happens to her after you tell. Shut that book tight. It’s over. Move on with your fabulous life. Living well is the best revenge.

Transparency and honesty are always the best- even when painful. Don’t ever let a liar/cheat make you feel bad about exposing their deceit. Actions have consequences.

On the flip side I know someone who told the AP's spouse and they didn't care. That was way worse than if she hadn't spent the time and energy trying to take down the AP because it came to nothing. Let it go, OP.

You don’t tell the other betrayed spouse to “take down the AP”. You do it so that they have the truth. What they choose to do with that information is their business.

No OP is hoping to break hearts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a bad road to go down.

Act with dignity. For the sake of your children.

No good will come of what you want to do.

Wrong. Affairs need to be exposed. For the good of the family and society. It is sin and immorality operating under cover. If more people took a stand, maybe it would make cheaters think twice before acting

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a bad road to go down.

Act with dignity. For the sake of your children.

No good will come of what you want to do.

Never, ever tell a betrayed spouse to "act with dignity" That is insulting and frankly a patriarchal trope to make betrayed wives keep their mouth shut to their husbands indiscretions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a bad road to go down.

Act with dignity. For the sake of your children.

No good will come of what you want to do.

Never, ever tell a betrayed spouse to "act with dignity" That is insulting and frankly a patriarchal trope to make betrayed wives keep their mouth shut to their husbands indiscretions.

Oh hush with your white woman feminism! Chasing after the AP to punish her is the epitome of patriarchy and has very little benefit to op and her kids and is a huge risk. Acting with dignity aka being an adult is the way to go.
No risk at all to op and the kids that way.

[Anonymous]

As per chump lady, affairs need to be exposed. Where OP does it, is upto her, but I wont judge her for feeling what she is feeling. Betrayal sucks the soul out of a person-signed, BTDT

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As per chump lady, affairs need to be exposed. Where OP does it, is upto her, but I wont judge her for feeling what she is feeling. Betrayal sucks the soul out of a person-signed, BTDT

Frankly not a fan of chump lady. She's got one tune, and one tune only.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As per chump lady, affairs need to be exposed. Where OP does it, is upto her, but I wont judge her for feeling what she is feeling. Betrayal sucks the soul out of a person-signed, BTDT

Frankly not a fan of chump lady. She's got one tune, and one tune only.

Her tune works well for betrayed spouses. Cheaters might have a different opinion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a bad road to go down.

Act with dignity. For the sake of your children.

No good will come of what you want to do.

Never, ever tell a betrayed spouse to "act with dignity" That is insulting and frankly a patriarchal trope to make betrayed wives keep their mouth shut to their husbands indiscretions.

No, your opinion and feelings are invalid. Don't presume to tell me what to do. I am right, you are completely wrong. It's always best to behave with dignity. Shame on you. Shame. Shame.