How to break an affair?
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Anonymous
| With the clear intent of leaving, I do want to break my STBXs affair (he has no idea I am working on separation yet). AP is a work subordinate, lives with a guy supposed to be her boyfriend but I think is a decoy/coverup. I know people opt for peace but this divorce will break my kids hearts, and I want hearts of the people in the affair broken too. If you ever did it before walking out, how did you manage? Reporting at work could have him lose his job too so not an option until settlement is over. |
Anonymous
| Girl. No. |
Anonymous
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This is a bad road to go down.
Act with dignity. For the sake of your children. No good will come of what you want to do. |
Anonymous
| You are validated in your feelings but let it be. You focus on making your life the best. |
Anonymous
| You again. You keep posting variations of the same thing. You need to stop being obsessed with the AP for your own mental health. |
Anonymous
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Girl, focus on YOU. He will find another woman after this one, trust me. The only person you are hurting is yourself, and your children. If he loses his livelihood, then what? I’m assuming you will want child support and for your children to spend 50% of their time with a parent who can properly provide?
Get therapy to work on your vindictiveness. It serves no one. |
Anonymous
| Revenge will not give you or your kids peace. Instead could you try a very last attempt at marriage counseling or at least find a good support for you and the kids for when you will go through separation |
Anonymous
| Girl move on. |
Anonymous
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Move on and don’t lose your dignity, OP.
The best revenge is you living your life well. Your STBX cheats because he has a character flaw. If not this woman there will be someone else. |
Anonymous
+1 best revenge is living well, with dignity - and being a steadfast role model of that for your kids. The high road is always best. You don’t need to stoop to his level. It won’t help, and if it does, then YOU need help. Focus on yourself and the well/being of your kids. As PP says, he’ll just find another partner. You can’t control him, only yourself. Create a healthy household when he leaves. |
Anonymous
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I caught him, feigned the I love you and I will change talk.
Therapy for 1 year and vasectomy to show he was also committed. Divorce. |
Anonymous
Deeply messed up |
Anonymous
Vasectomy can be reversed. What was the point? |
Anonymous
| I would send an anonymous note to her BF |
Anonymous
Stops “accidents”. |