Give me your perspective - Are people thinking or assuming DS is wearing the same clothes every single day?

[Anonymous]

No OP. If he's clean, if clothes are clean starting out the day and look fresh, no one is thinking what you're afraid of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No one is thinking about your kid or his clothing.

It's natural for a child or teenager to think that everyone is paying obsessive attention to them, including what they wear. Part of a parent's job is to explain to the child that they are wrong, and that no one else is thinking about this even 1/100th as much as they are.

[Anonymous]

It never even occurred to me to care about this. And yes I have a child who wears a self-chosen uniform to school. He definitely has a few sensory issues surrounding clothes, but this makes it so much easier to get dressed in the mornings.

He does not smell, takes a shower every day, and is generally well groomed. He just wears similar looking black outfits every single day. IDGAF what other people think.

[Anonymous]

Since you are in control of purchasing his wardrobe and are buying new items (not hand me downs or a donation) why would you buy all the same color shirts and or pants? It is so easy at that age to buy 7 different outfits or mix/match but why would you want your kid in all gray and blue when you have a choice?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I buy a lot of basics. So plain long sleeve tops in winter and plain joggers from Walmart and Target for DS7.

Examples of what I mean by basics - plain tops and plain bottoms :





There’s times where he has the same top and bottom style and color on two or three days in a row because I might have six blue tops and six gray pants. It’s never the same clothes as in it’s never dirty clothes but it’s clean duplicates of the outfit.

I pair the clothes after washing them and have them all in the closet and drawers so you may end up picking the exact same outfit everyday or you may get to top # 3 and it’s brown and a blue pair of pants are next in the stack and top # 4 is black and the pants are gray or it may be that tops 1-4 are all the same navy blue style and the pants 1-4 too.

DH feels strongly that the school is thinking he’s wearing the same clothes every single day if he ends up in the same color scheme multiple days in a row. In my mind, they aren’t because the clothes are clearly clean and not stained which is how he normally comes home at the end of the day. They are clean duplicates - same style tops and bottoms and a lot of the time certain colors go on sale before others so I end up picking up more of a certain color.

Are people thinking or assuming DS is wearing the same clothes every single day?

Stay away from Walmart. Child labor and the clothes are really cheap looking. For a few more dollars you can get better quality sweatpants at the Gap, Nike or H&M. Get different colors so he can switch it up.

H&M is one of the biggest users of child labor in countries like Myanmar.

[Anonymous]

My DD is 15yrs now. When she was in early elementary, she always wore black leggings with a blue top. Her friends joked it was her uniform. Nobody ever suggested she wore the same clothes. In first grade, she refused to wear anything but pajamas for the entire school year, EXCEPT for pajama day. She marched to the beat of her own drum. Don’t worry about it. My kid is not neurodiverse (we tested). My other child is neurodiverse but has never had issues with clothing. You can’t make assumptions about anything.

[Anonymous]

PP, adding that she’s always had lots of friends and has been a fairly popular kid so no worries about teasing.

[Anonymous]

If DH feels strongly about this then he can be responsible for purchasing your DS' clothing, laying out outfits, etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your child doesn’t want to wear stuff that looks the same every day of the week. You should listen to HIM. Good grief. This isn’t about what other people think. It is about your child feeling confident.

I would adjust my answer if he was asking for Luis Vuitton or Gucci. But he just wants to mix up his wardrobe. Why on earth wouldn’t you accommodate this?

DP. You misread OP's post. It is her DH, husband, not the son who cares.

Op here. Yes, DS does not care what he has on. DH however strongly is against it to the point where he will now have him change clothes which slows down the morning routine. That’s why I’m seeking other perspectives. I don’t see or have an issue with the same outfit daily so long as it’s clean but DH strongly disagrees.

[Anonymous]

I doubt anyone thinks about it, and if they do they probably think he has sensory issues so needs the same clothing. But it is kind of odd if youre in charge of buying clothes and buy the same. Try some variety!

One year my son pretty much only wore Primary solid color tshirts and pants. But he had like 8 different colors not two of the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If DH feels strongly about this then he can be responsible for purchasing your DS' clothing, laying out outfits, etc.

Op again. And I’m trying to see his perspective but I struggle with anyone caring enough to remember what he had on the day before.

Again, I’m open to other perspectives. I just struggle with seeing it as a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Since you are in control of purchasing his wardrobe and are buying new items (not hand me downs or a donation) why would you buy all the same color shirts and or pants? It is so easy at that age to buy 7 different outfits or mix/match but why would you want your kid in all gray and blue when you have a choice?

Op here. It is mix and match. He has multiple colors but they are the same styles. It’s not all one color. It’s multiple colors, but since laundry is easier when things are paired, sometimes it may end up being 3 days of blue tops in a stack and 2 days of green or by chance all 5 days end up with different colors.

The items I purchase have been ones that last. He comes home with holes in his tops and knees so I don’t spend a ton on something that won’t last a full year.

I typically find great deals on the items and sometimes certain colors are on sale when he needs a new top or a new bottom.

H&M faded very, very quickly for me to a PP who asked. Cat & Jack has not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If DH feels strongly about this then he can be responsible for purchasing your DS' clothing, laying out outfits, etc.

Op again. And I’m trying to see his perspective but I struggle with anyone caring enough to remember what he had on the day before.

Again, I’m open to other perspectives. I just struggle with seeing it as a big deal.

Just buy different color sweatshirts to make your husband happy.

Yes, some kids notice other kids' clothes. Some may be mean about it, but there is a lot more anti-bullying training these days.

I never heard of my kids getting mocked for having short pants (floods). Although I was. I think due to sneakerhead culture, kids are more sensitive about shoes now.

My husband grew up poor and he is sensitive about my kids looking poor. But they rarely cared. Because they can get whatever new stuff they need.

Now one of my kids will only wear tops related to his favorite extracurricular. He has lots of choice but it's ridiculous. Other kids did comment on that but quickly got bored of talking about it.

I don't think people assume that clothes were swapped just because they look clean every day. But they probably don't care a lot. If your kid ends up with a nickname like "blueberry" then you're overdoing it.

[Anonymous]

This is such a weird post. Why are you buying him three of the same blue shirt? If he likes the same style why not buy the same shirt in three colors?

And for the people saying who cares, I kind of get where her dh is coming from. Last thing anyone needs is some busy body thinking her kid is wearing the same clothes every day and called cps for neglect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is such a weird post. Why are you buying him three of the same blue shirt? If he likes the same style why not buy the same shirt in three colors?

And for the people saying who cares, I kind of get where her dh is coming from. Last thing anyone needs is some busy body thinking her kid is wearing the same clothes every day and called cps for neglect.

Op here. Certain colors often go on sale before others.

Examples right now:

https://www.target.com/p/boys-39-pull-on-fleece-sweatpants-cat-38-jack-8482-camo-m/-/A-94416074

https://www.target.com/p/boys-long-sleeve-t-shirt-cat-jack-8482-red-l/-/A-53487981

If I buy say two tops and pants during the sale, it adds to the existing colors I have so we end up with more white than green, etc..