Give me your perspective - Are people thinking or assuming DS is wearing the same clothes every single day?

[Anonymous]

I buy a lot of basics. So plain long sleeve tops in winter and plain joggers from Walmart and Target for DS7.

Examples of what I mean by basics - plain tops and plain bottoms :





There’s times where he has the same top and bottom style and color on two or three days in a row because I might have six blue tops and six gray pants. It’s never the same clothes as in it’s never dirty clothes but it’s clean duplicates of the outfit.

I pair the clothes after washing them and have them all in the closet and drawers so you may end up picking the exact same outfit everyday or you may get to top # 3 and it’s brown and a blue pair of pants are next in the stack and top # 4 is black and the pants are gray or it may be that tops 1-4 are all the same navy blue style and the pants 1-4 too.

DH feels strongly that the school is thinking he’s wearing the same clothes every single day if he ends up in the same color scheme multiple days in a row. In my mind, they aren’t because the clothes are clearly clean and not stained which is how he normally comes home at the end of the day. They are clean duplicates - same style tops and bottoms and a lot of the time certain colors go on sale before others so I end up picking up more of a certain color.

Are people thinking or assuming DS is wearing the same clothes every single day?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t assume it’s the same, but I’d assume your child has some kind of sensory or other issue that makes them refuse most clothing.

[Anonymous]

IME, the school will call you if they think your child is wearing the same clothes every day or if other kids are teasing him about it.
You could ask about it at a parent teacher conference if you want to.

[Anonymous]

No one is thinking about your kid or his clothing.

[Anonymous]

You should work on this fear of shaming, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No one is thinking about your kid or his clothing.

+1
Unless his clothes are dirty, they are not paying much attention.

[Anonymous]

What other people are thinking doesn’t matter. What matters is what your child is thinking. He is thinking that people are looking at him critically, and thinks this can be solved by having different clothes. Your job is to teach him that even if he gets new clothes, there will always be people with a critical opinion, and satisfying their opinion isn’t what will make him happy.

But just to answer your question, I bet there are kids thinking that, because 7 year olds think all kinds of crazy things.

[Anonymous]

If he doesn’t stink, no one notices his clothes.

[Anonymous]

I had a "uniform" of a rotation of the same looking outfits in middle school bc I read that's what Einstein and steve jobs did. And I got teased by this one girl. But in a rich technologist now so maybe that was a necessary part of my journey

[Anonymous]

We buy clothes the same way. I wouldn't think the kid has on the same clothes unless they have the same rip or same stain. And, I probably wouldn't even notice that. A teacher might notice, but would ask a kid first and he can just say, "I like blue shirts and grey pants."

[Anonymous]

My kid wore the same thing everyday for years. It was great and so easy to shop for. People noticed it but didn't care one way or the other, or if they did, I didn't care what they thought.

Don't many tech people wear the same uniform everyday? I don't see the big deal.

[Anonymous]

OP I do the same thing when buying clothes but I do vary the colors more, especially for tops. Boys pants are usually brown, blue, grey, black, and camo/green. Just get a few different colors and teach him to fold them together as sets so that all clothes get similar wear. Another option is to just increase the range of top colors and prints.

[Anonymous]

I have no idea. I'd think the kids don't care as they would literally sleep in and wear the same clothes if allowed. How old it he? Are you poor? My kids are in MS and HS and wear basically that but Nike. They would definitely not wear target or walmart, so I assume that kids do care about brands or else mine wouldn't. They aren't cool so it's not that.

[Anonymous]

As long as the clothes are clean and your child doesn’t smell bad, most won’t care. Some might, but people will have opinions about any and everything— you can’t control that.

As a former elementary teacher, I wouldn’t care a single bit. I would be glad that your child feels comfortable because that will help him focus in class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one is thinking about your kid or his clothing.

+1
Unless his clothes are dirty, they are not paying much attention.

+2. Girls notice what other girls are wearing but not guys.