Give me your perspective - Are people thinking or assuming DS is wearing the same clothes every single day?

[Anonymous]

My kids are boys. the autistic one wears the same thing every day/has multiples of same thing. Nobody ever bothers him about it/ he will not change what he wears.

If someone did say something about it to him, he’d have a scathing comeback and I’m not worried

The other one wears mostly new clothes because there is a new hole in everything he owns so often that I have to constantly buy new clothes

[Anonymous]

People are absolutely thinking he is wearing the same thing and judging you, particularly when you don't change the top.

So bottoms that are navy, grey, black, hunter green on rotation not such a big deal but the same top does make it seem like his parent is lazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People are absolutely thinking he is wearing the same thing and judging you, particularly when you don't change the top.

So bottoms that are navy, grey, black, hunter green on rotation not such a big deal but the same top does make it seem like his parent is lazy.

I assume OP is an elementary parent

My high school DS has a "uniform" and from what I can tell so fo several of his friends. Once your child leaves elementary, no judgy parent will ever see him long enough to get any sense of what kind of parent you are.

And the teachers only see your child one hour a day. They don't care as long as your kid isn't staring at his phone during class, using ChatGPT to do the work or otherwise bring disruptive.

[Anonymous]

No, I doubt anyone cares.

If it was something more distinct (versus basics), people would be more likely to notice IMO.

But if it bugs your DH, just add a bit more variety.

My kids always seem to choose the same 5 or so shirts to rotate…despite having others to pick from. As an adult, I kind of do the same actually. I don’t think it is really that strange.

[Anonymous]

"There’s times where he has the same top and bottom style and color on two or three days in a row because I might have six blue tops and six gray pants."

This is so weird. Absolutely people think he's wearing the same clothes! If you care, just... buy more colors or different shades of tops. The pants are fine, but it wouldn't hurt to have 2 colors of pants, like navy and gray.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No one is thinking about your kid or his clothing.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"There’s times where he has the same top and bottom style and color on two or three days in a row because I might have six blue tops and six gray pants."

This is so weird. Absolutely people think he's wearing the same clothes! If you care, just... buy more colors or different shades of tops. The pants are fine, but it wouldn't hurt to have 2 colors of pants, like navy and gray.

Right. Like the solution would be to just buy one of each color for shirts (I feel like pants don't matter as much) but instead OP outsourced to the internet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"There’s times where he has the same top and bottom style and color on two or three days in a row because I might have six blue tops and six gray pants."

This is so weird. Absolutely people think he's wearing the same clothes! If you care, just... buy more colors or different shades of tops. The pants are fine, but it wouldn't hurt to have 2 colors of pants, like navy and gray.

Right. Like the solution would be to just buy one of each color for shirts (I feel like pants don't matter as much) but instead OP outsourced to the internet.

Op here. I believe you misread - I do have multiple colors of the shirts and bottoms. Depending on what’s clean/what went into the laundry one week, sometimes multiple same color tops and bottoms line up.

When one shirt gets a rip or stain, I’ll buy another shirt and often it may be a different color that’s on sale. So over time I end up with more shirts or more pants of a certain shade.

[Anonymous]

Elementary teacher and yes I would assume he is wearing the same clothes. But if they are clean and he is otherwise taken care of, I wouldn’t spend much more time thinking about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"There’s times where he has the same top and bottom style and color on two or three days in a row because I might have six blue tops and six gray pants."

This is so weird. Absolutely people think he's wearing the same clothes! If you care, just... buy more colors or different shades of tops. The pants are fine, but it wouldn't hurt to have 2 colors of pants, like navy and gray.

Right. Like the solution would be to just buy one of each color for shirts (I feel like pants don't matter as much) but instead OP outsourced to the internet.

Op here. I believe you misread - I do have multiple colors of the shirts and bottoms. Depending on what’s clean/what went into the laundry one week, sometimes multiple same color tops and bottoms line up.

When one shirt gets a rip or stain, I’ll buy another shirt and often it may be a different color that’s on sale. So over time I end up with more shirts or more pants of a certain shade.

Just rotate the duplicates in when the original gets stained or ripped. That way he isn't wearing two days in a row of royal blue shirts paired with brown pants.

I buy boys tops from Target too... You're talking about saving $1-2 dollars per shirt. Just spend the extra dollar and get a different color!

[Anonymous]

How often are you doing laundry? No need to buy 6 of the same color if you wash clothes weekly.

[Anonymous]

Nobody notices or cares as long as his clothes are clean and don't smell. My kids often wear the exact same clothing two days in a row. We do laundry overnight. If your husband cares, I'd put him in charge of setting out the clothes for your son so he can make sure the colors are rotating.

[Anonymous]

Tell your husband that he is in charge of picking out the clothes the night before (or he can line 5 outfits up on Sunday in order). Whichever parent cares solves the problem. If your husband chooses not to get involved, then he actually doesn’t care that much.