Underlying angry tone

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's age. Reality bites.

Or marriage issues, someone cheated, etc…it bleeds out in anger, impatience, etc when out in public

[Anonymous]

The watch FOX News. Same thing happened to my husband.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes people go through trying times and it affects their attitude. My dentist told me that during the first Trump administration, many of his patients started to grind their teeth from stress. With all the stuff going on politically right now, I find myself being sarcastic and somewhat angry while I am normally very agreeable and pleasant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ran into a friend and her husband on NYE. Spent more time chatting with husband who I’ve always considered nice and normal. This time he had this underlying angry tone about things and also bragged about some contracts he’d gotten. He’s about 40. They have a nice life and she recently left her job, so they have enough money coming in. She has also started becoming sarcastic and snarky randomly.

Maybe they were always like this but I didn’t notice before. Or is it that people start becoming bitter as they age?

Maybe it was just this one night. Maybe this party was the last place he wanted to be on NYE and he had a fight with his wife that afternoon about going, because he wanted to be home in PJs watching football?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It could also be that you have changed, OP.

I have found that I have gotten gentler and more open-minded as I age, and this has made me more aware of very negative or judgmental attitudes from others. I have friends I've known for decades and who are the same as they've always been, but I find I can't spend as much time with them as I used to because I am more bothered by their snarky or judgmental tone.

You claim you've gotten "gentler and more open-minded" but you're "bothered by their snarky or judgmental tone"? These positions are incompatible. Gentle, open-minded people don't need to judge other people's "tone". They can accept that others communicate how they do and it's not about the listener. Needing to control other people's tone isn't gentle or open-minded, it's judgmental, controlling, and a waste of time.

Are you seriously trying to convince someone that being gentle and open minded means they can't have standards about how others talk to and around them? You are very manipulative.