What to do Xmas eve by self?
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Nah. Invisible middle-aged woman. |
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I would stock up on some
pastries and other bites and chilled drinks. I would sleep in. I would go to a nice cafe for coffee late afternoon. I would get a nice dinner, and drive around to see the lights. But dont you have any relative you could spend a little time with? |
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| Have a delicious and indulgent breakfast, go for a winter hike, journal, make some soup, phone a friend I hadn’t talked to in awhile, watch movies while doing crafts or paint my nails/spa day. |
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On Christmas Eve I would drive around to see lights or maybe go down to see the national tree. Grab a hot chocolate and stroll around a bit. I’d go home and make a nice fish dinner for myself.
On Christmas morning I’d bake cinnamon rolls or make French toast, have coffee, and listen to music. I’d do some fun projects around the house, like hanging pictures (immediate gratification project) or do an art/craft project while either listening to music or a podcast. I’d go for a walk in nature in the afternoon. Then I’d go see a late-afternoon movie (nothing sad like Hamnet) and get Thai or Chinese takeout on my way home. I’d probably watch something else after I got home and eat while watching that. Somewhere in there I might write a few New Years cards to people I didn’t get cards out to yet. I might jump on a call to someone else who was spending the day alone, if I knew someone I was close to like that. But generally I’d have a peaceful holiday doing things I like and find relaxing. I’m sorry you’re going through a separation. Treat the holiday as a chance to reset and look ahead, not back. Christmas Eve and Day can be as big or as little a deal as you want to make it, depending how you feel. |
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I’d have cheese and crackers for dinner on the couch then go to a Christmas Eve church service.
Christmas Day morning I would get up at normal time because we have 2 dogs but then enjoy a coffee in my pajamas. After shower I would take the dogs for a nice long hike. Lunch then Netflix. |
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| After all the bars are closed you can go out |
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Sorry to hear about the circumstance, OP.
Whenever I’m feeling down, I spend a few hours exercising—Pilates and walking or hiking—and read or work on hobbies. On Christmas Eve, I’d buy myself some nice plants and get some seeds and an Aerogarden or similar hydroponic set-up. On Christmas Day, I’d make myself an elaborate brunch with my favorite Christmas or other music playing, exercise, then start the hydroponic garden. Then I’d call friends and family and listen to an audiobook until it was time to make myself an elaborate dinner. Then more reading until bedtime. |
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I’m really sorry. The truth is, if it’s not what you chose, there may be no real way to treat it as an indulgence/pleasure as some have suggested. Maybe you’ll be surprised by how okay it is? But it’s hard to plan for it to be okay. Maybe you can shift into anthropological mode and just observe. Observe yourself in the situation, observe your internal reactions, observe where your mind goes. Say “huh” to whatever you observe. “Huh, this is how it feels at 8pm on Christmas Eve when I’m alone.” “Huh, this is how it feels when I open my eyes on Christmas morning.” “Huh, this is what my mind is saying to me.” Just note it, and use it as information. I’ve found that shifting into observational mode makes me feel a little more in control. If nothing else you are collecting baseline data that can be used as comparison in future years. It will not always be like it is this year. A separation is a huge rupture. You are still inside the rupture. But the rupture will end, and something new will begin. Hang in there. I’ll think of you and wish you well. Peace. |
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no kids? no other family? no good friends? your partner was the only significant person in your life? |
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DP, Don’t know if you intend it this way but this reads to me like castigation in the form of inquiry, which probably isn’t terribly helpful right now. |
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So far, you sound attractive. Middle aged women have a sexy way about them. Tell me more. I’m all ears… |
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Self-care is never the wrong answer. |
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You shouldn’t. Realize that this is the first Christmas that you’ll be spending with your very best friend…yourself. Also realize that you have ignored this friend for a long time because you prioritized other people, like the person you’re now separating from. Now is your chance to reprioritize. What does this best friend love to do? For once you can give it to her, because someone else isn’t coming first. Take advantage!! It’ll be a magical experience. |
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I love having a full free day to binge watch tv and eat what I want. No need to be super adventurous. Pick your favorite meal(s)- pizza, Chinese, whatever. Buy a day in advance if you have to. Pick a fun tv show with short episodes and lots of seasons that you’ve never seen. I recommend Younger on Netflix if you haven’t seen it. Shitts Creek is another good one. Or Offspring if you want longer episodes. Watch a season, grab a snack. Watch another, take a walk. The day will fly by. If you need to use your brain, do the crossword puzzle in between. The Seattle times has printable NYT crosswords.
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| You could go to as many different church ceremonies as you can and scan the audience for interesting people. This is the time to reinvent yourself - start over - so start by setting a good foundation. |