Adult son w good job came by asking for food

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He sucks at managing his money or has a secret drug/gambling/etc. problem if he can't feed himself with a good job and both your kids should be able to get their own vehicles or figure out their own transportation. That's like bare minimum for adults.

He doesn't have any money. He's 26 and only just got kicked off our health insurance.

He doesn't have a secret drug habit, he works 5 days and nights at a hospital. They drug test. Where would he gamble

Maybe we can move on to the "how often do you change your sheets" part of the daily list to check off so we can start the conversation about how dirty Americans are. Or something

It's not really even about my son. I'm mad at my ex but there's no dedicated divorce forum for venting, so.

Y'all have a good night whatever time zone you're in

Your kid has money. They have a spending issue. They can get a second job.

Maybe a second job as an Uber driver? Could probably write off the car or something.

[Anonymous]

Hold on and like good times, bad times too shall pass. Don't waste money on alcohol, that's part of the problem, not a solution.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry but something is wrong with your kids if they are this bad at managing their money and themselves. They need to be adults. They are not entitled to anything from their father or you.

Good troll response, don't ever support your adult children

I have heard this one before though, so go fish

I prefer to support my children the whole way.

I gave him a box of food from my fridge and pantry, not a credit card. He's a nurse at a local hospital.

Then don’t complain about it.

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It's the food that makes me think that you are a troll.
You used your son and daughter sad stories to talk about your ex and how much money he is spending.
Your kids are grownups. My 18-year old is going to college, working, and needing less help than your kids.
I think your ex knows he was throwing money into an endless hole. He is the only one that will have any money left.
I bet ex is relieved the kids are grown and he is single.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ex and I are worth about 18m

We still brought our kids up to earn their own way

My ex is just being a ****

Buy your kid decent food OP. 😳😳

Better yet stop trolling.

[Anonymous]

The son is on drugs. His friends drove him to your house in the night to get food? That makes no sense.

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I believe that your 26 year old is struggling financially. I just don't understand the rant about your ex and begrudging him vacations though. You just sound extremely jealous. Has your son asked your ex for financial help and he was refused? And what's with saying "we" are worth $18m? You are divorced. And if you have $9 million (half the estate) then go ahead and help your son buy a car!

[Anonymous]

Your son works full-time as an ER nurse? Yet he cannot afford a car and food? As others have pointed out, something else is going on. (Maybe you are delusional? Maybe you are trolling? Maybe he is a drug addict? Who knows. I wish you peace.)

[Anonymous]

Do you know how many ER nurses I've met who have diverted drugs? It's the easiest place to do it. In all the hospitals I've worked at, we only get drug tested upon hire or if someone thinks you're high at work. I've unfortunately known quite a few nurses with various addictions.

Your kid needs some help with a budget. Not that uncommon that someone starting out and that came from money doesn't know how to budget well. I know I didn't. Sit them down and go through their fixed monthly expenses like rent, utilities, food/necessities from the grocery store, phone bill, Internet etc. Then go into the category of high wants but not needs: going out budget, take out, gym. Then go into the budget of low wants. From there, see how his monthly income fits into it. Is he saving enough? Does he need to adjust his budget for the wants?

You're making your ex out to be a villain for not buying him a new car. And yet you have money so what does that make you for not buying him a new car?

The great thing about being a nurse is you can pick up shifts to cover expenses. I'm flying out first class to see my friend in France and my entire flight was covered by 1.5 shifts. I cover all DS' Christmas gifts by picking up an 8 hr shift. So if your son truly cannot afford food, he should be picking up 1-2 shifts a week, every week.

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I don’t understand why you are blaming your ex. It’s on your son.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why you are blaming your ex. It’s on your son.

Because she's still bitter. It's pretty sad

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP.

Don’t car rental places rent cars by the month? Or could he buy a beater to tide him over for a few months? I cannot imagine spending $140 for Uber every day.

Enterprise rents a month for $800.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP.

Don’t car rental places rent cars by the month? Or could he buy a beater to tide him over for a few months? I cannot imagine spending $140 for Uber every day.

Enterprise rents a month for $800.

^^and 5 days at $140/day is already $700. This makes no sense.

Or just Uber to a point where he can access mass transit. Or even moving into a nearby hotel with longterm rates for a month would be cheaper.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP.

Don’t car rental places rent cars by the month? Or could he buy a beater to tide him over for a few months? I cannot imagine spending $140 for Uber every day.

Enterprise rents a month for $800.

^^and 5 days at $140/day is already $700. This makes no sense.

Or just Uber to a point where he can access mass transit. Or even moving into a nearby hotel with longterm rates for a month would be cheaper.

Op and her son are morons. The only smart one is the ex who seems to have removed himself from them and is living his best life.

[Anonymous]

You provide what food you can. Let me and the other child figure out the next steps for replacing their cars.

Don’t concern yourself with your ex and his budget. It’s pointless.

Plus both children are working adults - let them triage