10 yo DS has a “girlfriend” and my husband is freaking out because she’s older and a grade above him

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I noticed this in 5th grade too. I asked DS what having a "gf" entailed, and I still have no idea. They didn't eat together at lunch , didn't play together at recess, didn't get together outside of school unless it happened to be with other friends. He had one for all of 3 weeks before he decided it was dumb.

In the 1970s, in my 4th grade, there was a couple that lasted for about 3 weeks. They held hands a couple of times. They seemed to smile and be friendly and to talk a little bit more to each other but that was it. The guy really couldn't articulate how exactly this was girlfriend/boyfriend status.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I noticed this in 5th grade too. I asked DS what having a "gf" entailed, and I still have no idea. They didn't eat together at lunch , didn't play together at recess, didn't get together outside of school unless it happened to be with other friends. He had one for all of 3 weeks before he decided it was dumb.

In the 1970s, in my 4th grade, there was a couple that lasted for about 3 weeks. They held hands a couple of times. They seemed to smile and be friendly and to talk a little bit more to each other but that was it. The guy really couldn't articulate how exactly this was girlfriend/boyfriend status.

Heh, yeah things and times have changed a lot since then.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Title says it all. I’m trying to get him to calm down about this. Don’t really know the girl or her parents, only that she lives a few blocks away and goes to the same school. I don’t think they do anything other than talk to each other at the pool and say hi when they are in groups. I can’t imagine DS has much interest in anything else either. He’s not particularly mature, but he’s definitely been getting his sh*t together a bit more over the past few months. Then again, he’s a 10 year old who will do almost anything for a pack of oreos. Anything we need to address here, or just let be? I mean, she starts middle school in 2 weeks.

You should talk to him about condoms and insist that she be on the pill.

I don’t think they make pills for 10 year old girls.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You need to tell that little home-wrecker she is robbing the cradle and to leave your poor baby-boy alone!

I just can’t get over the fact that a 10 year old has been getting his sh-t together for the past few months. Pure drama around these parts with the obsessions, over-reactions, and constant scrutiny.

OP here. It’s honestly been impressive. Kid is feeding the fish (almost) every day. Wet clothes from the pool go right in the washing machine. He even heated some milk up in the microwave for his little sister. Still working on getting that shoelace tying technique down, but things are really looking up for him!

Once he can tie his own shoes, the HS girls will be all over him. “And you have a fish, too?! So you’re a nurturer?”

[Anonymous]

This is totally normal. The girl is in middle school romcom land and wants a "boyfriend". She picks someone younger because older boys are creepy about girls.

It's just childhood imagination.

Be accepting, and apply the usual rules about alone time for teens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Title says it all. I’m trying to get him to calm down about this. Don’t really know the girl or her parents, only that she lives a few blocks away and goes to the same school. I don’t think they do anything other than talk to each other at the pool and say hi when they are in groups. I can’t imagine DS has much interest in anything else either. He’s not particularly mature, but he’s definitely been getting his sh*t together a bit more over the past few months. Then again, he’s a 10 year old who will do almost anything for a pack of oreos. Anything we need to address here, or just let be? I mean, she starts middle school in 2 weeks.

You completely skipped the part about "my husband is freaking out"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously? Good luck with you people who freak out over the stupidest things. 10 year olds are usually the easiest stage of childhood. Wait until the teen years. If this is even true which I doubt

+1000 Unless this is another country where the girl's parents are trying to arrange a marriage, you really need to back off and let your kid have a life. He may not have a girlfriend at all -- he may wish she was his girlfriend, or maybe they're fast friend and get along great, or who knows. In any event, and 11 year old girl is NOT A PREDATOR. She is a child. Jesus, I feel sorry for some of the kids of people who post on these boards.

[Anonymous]

Yeah it's more likely that she just has common interests with your son stuff that many of her female peers aren't interested in.
But encouraging boyfriend/ girlfriend at this age shouldn't be happening it's not age appropriate.

And yes someone can be predatory even if only a year older even if a girl.