Husband’s family obsessed with previous girlfriend

[Anonymous]

Well at least it’s validation that they are nutters when it’s the truth and you are called a troll.

[Anonymous]

Can't fathom why you'd have so much contact OP.

If you aren't willing to put any actual distance between yourself (and kids) and the family, then what do expect to change?

[Anonymous]

You need to discuss this w your husband

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t give this another thought except to grey rock them forever because they sound dysfunctional and rude. I love grey rock because it only depends on me maintaining the behavior and it doesn’t require severing the relationship (which your DH may not want to do). It has kept me sane interacting with my in-laws for the last 15 years.

This. I had similar where when first met was no in road with the family unless I wanted to be wasted with them at 10 am on a Tuesday and since I didn’t, could tell level of drink by when they started looping “we miss Larla” (prior ex who apparently was a “great drinker!”). Grey rocking is key to survival if not cutting out completely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t give this another thought except to grey rock them forever because they sound dysfunctional and rude. I love grey rock because it only depends on me maintaining the behavior and it doesn’t require severing the relationship (which your DH may not want to do). It has kept me sane interacting with my in-laws for the last 15 years.

This. I had similar where when first met was no in road with the family unless I wanted to be wasted with them at 10 am on a Tuesday and since I didn’t, could tell level of drink by when they started looping “we miss Larla” (prior ex who apparently was a “great drinker!”). Grey rocking is key to survival if not cutting out completely.

I am above poster and should add grey rock not enough once kids old enough to hear anything- then cut off completely if continues as your kids shouldn’t hear that at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t give this another thought except to grey rock them forever because they sound dysfunctional and rude. I love grey rock because it only depends on me maintaining the behavior and it doesn’t require severing the relationship (which your DH may not want to do). It has kept me sane interacting with my in-laws for the last 15 years.

This. I had similar where when first met was no in road with the family unless I wanted to be wasted with them at 10 am on a Tuesday and since I didn’t, could tell level of drink by when they started looping “we miss Larla” (prior ex who apparently was a “great drinker!”). Grey rocking is key to survival if not cutting out completely.

Thanks, reading a lot about this today and I think this is the only way.