Is it rude to not offer all wedding guests a +1?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's rude. I still think about my cousin who wouldn't let me bring my fiancee to his wedding.

That doesn't seem like a +1 situation to me. I think of +1 as "whoever you want," not "Can you give me Paul's address so I can send him an invitation?"

[Anonymous]

Offer the +1 if there is no one else invited that the person will enjoy hanging out with. Otherwise, you don't need to. A lot of people will use the rule or engaged or married to extend invitations.

[Anonymous]

I am team “give everyone a +1”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's nice to send an invitation to someone's long-term romantic partner, but a generic +1? Go ahead if you want to, but a wedding is not just another random social event. It's fine if the couple only wants guests they actually know

I agree with this. Our wedding had 80 guests and was not a particularly formal event. There was no reason why single people without dates could not enjoy themselves mingling and talking. You don't need a date in order to socialize.

[Anonymous]

I see both sides of this. As the perpetually single spinster aunt, I probably wouldn’t go if I didn’t think I’d know very many people and didn’t have a plus one so I’d at least know one person. Or I’d go to the ceremony and bail early into the reception (and let you know in advance so you don’t order food for me.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's nice to send an invitation to someone's long-term romantic partner, but a generic +1? Go ahead if you want to, but a wedding is not just another random social event. It's fine if the couple only wants guests they actually know

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A wedding is an intimate event with close family and friends. Singles don't get a plus one that the bride or groom don't know.

Who wants to go to a social event alone? If bride and groom are young and have a bunch of uncoupled friends I think it’s maybe ok, but no one wants to go to a wedding alone unless they know a bunch of people going alone.

[Anonymous]

Not rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's rude. I still think about my cousin who wouldn't let me bring my fiancee to his wedding.

It’s a major faux pas not to invite a fiancée. I would probably boycott for this reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A wedding is an intimate event with close family and friends. Singles don't get a plus one that the bride or groom don't know.

Who wants to go to a social event alone? If bride and groom are young and have a bunch of uncoupled friends I think it’s maybe ok, but no one wants to go to a wedding alone unless they know a bunch of people going alone.

Agreed. When hosting an event you want to be gracious and make your guests comfortable. I personally would not be thinking about it as “the bride or groom don’t know this person,” I would be thinking about it as “I’m hosting dear family and friends and want them to feel welcome.”

As a side note, my husband is from another state so I hadn’t met all his friends by the time we were engaged/married, and I certainly hadn’t met their fiancés/girlfriends/etc. But the weddings we all mutually attended over a few years (including mine) formed a great basis of acquaintanceship and bonded the group a bit.

[Anonymous]

I really appreciate the option to bring a plus one if everyone else at the wedding is coupled or I don't know many people. A lot of coupled folks don't realize how hard it can be to not feel really awkward going to events solo when you don't know anyone but the bride or groom.

I would never bring some random person, though. I'd bring someone the bride knew and liked.

[Anonymous]

Perpetually single here and recently got invited to a friend’s out of town wedding. Didn’t expect to get a plus one but did and was very grateful to have the option. If you can swing it, do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's rude. I still think about my cousin who wouldn't let me bring my fiancee to his wedding.

I'm against +1 but I would invite any fiance/fiancee. They are not a random +1, but a known person with a name and a long-term commitment. That said, only the host knows how many people they have space for, and how to handle.