List of everyone you give a holiday tip/bonus

[Anonymous]

NYC, which in my experience is tip heavier than DC;

Cleaner - $200/ about 1 cleaning’s worth
Daycare - will give the student teacher a $50 Amazon gift card as she is graduating/leaving. Otherwise, I wait until year end for individual cash gifts. Room parents haven’t taken a collection so not sure of their plan but would match whatever they may suggest.
Apartment building staff - contributed $300 to the pooled fund (thank god - most buildings do individual cash tips)
Building manager who has gone above and beyond for me this month - Harry and David gift basket as his cash tip was included in the pool

[Anonymous]

Mail carrier: nothing after two carriers in a row refused it
Cleaners: one visit
Nanny: one week's pay plus gifts
Physical Therapist: one session
Hair stylist: one visit for DH and I combined

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
PT Nanny $200 (when we had one)
Teachers $25 allowed kids to pick up to four
Coaches $25

We also gift cakes from Nothing Bundt.
Gave those to the teachers who did their college recommendations.

That sounds like a nice gesture

How about being mindful of lifestyles/ healthy eating?
None of us need sugar. I wouldn’t be offended if someone gift me a fitness center pass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mail carrier: nothing after two carriers in a row refused it
Cleaners: one visit plus nice box of chocolates
Nanny: one week's pay plus gifts
Physical Therapist: one session in restaurant gift card
Hair stylist: one visit for DH and I combined

Also
Teachers and Coaches: $75 TJ card
Administrative Assistants at DH's work: $100 gift card

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
PT Nanny $200 (when we had one)
Teachers $25 allowed kids to pick up to four
Coaches $25

We also gift cakes from Nothing Bundt.
Gave those to the teachers who did their college recommendations.

That sounds like a nice gesture

or bribery?

You give the gift after the recommendation is written. It's hardly bribery. It's polite and accepted.

[Anonymous]

We have 2 maintenance men: $150/each
Cleaning woman: $200

[Anonymous]

Daycare holiday fund: $450
Public school teacher holiday fund (organized by our room parent): $25
Aftercare holiday fund (organized by PTA): $25

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
PT Nanny $200 (when we had one)
Teachers $25 allowed kids to pick up to four
Coaches $25

We also gift cakes from Nothing Bundt.
Gave those to the teachers who did their college recommendations.

That sounds like a nice gesture

or bribery?

Cynical ^^

[Anonymous]

Nobody. We have Coach gifts but that's end of season, not a Christmas thing. Don't have any help at home or beauty people.

[Anonymous]

Do people give a bonus to an occupational therapist or other SpecEd therapists in private practice?

We pay out the azz for that service ($320/ session charged to insurance and then pay $160/session out-of-pocket)

[Anonymous]

Mail carrier: 10, plus a small treat
Garbage guys: 15 each, plus a small treat
Grocery delivery: I tip weekly, but may add 10 and a small treat for Christmas.

We are also "lower income" dcum at 150k a year, and don't have kids in school any longer. Would probably tip more if I made more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
PT Nanny $200 (when we had one)
Teachers $25 allowed kids to pick up to four
Coaches $25

We also gift cakes from Nothing Bundt.
Gave those to the teachers who did their college recommendations.

That sounds like a nice gesture

or bribery?

You give the gift after the recommendation is written. It's hardly bribery. It's polite and accepted.

but money? not, i don't know, a nice handcream or something?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No one! I also don't have a cleaner, doorman, dog walker, nanny or anything like that. Childs teacher got a gift certificate to the book fair.

So selfish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m putting this on the parenting forum because I think there are some family-specific holiday pay outs. I’m wondering to whom you give holiday bonuses/tips? I feel like I never learned this part of adulting. If you can make a list of who you give $$ at this time of year and how much, that’d be a huge help to me! Our HHI is $250K if that helps set the stage.

1. Mail carrier? How much?
2. Cleaners? How much?
3. Teachers? (Our school does this through centralized donations to PTA, so that’s easy)
4. What about activity teachers like the piano teacher or a coach? If “yes” how much?
5. Anyone else?

We don’t celebrate Xmas, but I know that it’s a norm to give gifts at this time of year and I want to show my appreciation in a way that is in line with general cultural norms. I want to give sane amounts to the right people. Help!

We tip DH’s barber $200, my hairstylist $300. We have three cleaning ladies that visit every other week. We tip each of them $250.

We tip the mail carrier $100. We tip each of the garbage collectors $150. We have a weekly mowing service and leaf cleanup crew of about five people and we tip each of them $300. We tip each one of our kids’ teachers $100, every DoorDasher an extra $10 per delivery throughout all of December, and the florist that makes all of our centerpieces $250.

We tip our personal trainers each $500 and the grocery store checkout clerks $20 every time we buy groceries throughout December. We tip an extra $5 for every Starbucks coffee and an extra 10% (35% total) on every restaurant meal during December. We tip our flight attendants $50 each, the pilots $100 each, and the TSA security staff $20 each when we fly over Christmas for vacation.

Most importantly, our kids leave a tip on Christmas Eve for Santa ($300) and each of his reindeer ($50 each).

[Anonymous]

I haven’t tipped a teacher since dc were in elementary school. Do you really tip high school teachers?