Staying at MIL's house - a vent

[Anonymous]

You are a grown woman.

Get a rental car.

Go stay in a hotel.

It's not too late to do that.

Be polite about it.

Let DH stay there if he wants.

I am befuddled as to why you came for the whole week. Why didn't you let DH come and join him on Friday? You clearly did not drive together.

[Anonymous]

Rent a car. Get a hotel and say you're coming down with something and don't want to spread it to her, given her age. Then, meet back up again on Friday when you're feeling better.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like MIL is trying to get you to take the hint. But your DH is too cheap and you're too passive to get a clue. She doesn't want you there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you afford to remodel and a pricey vacation, you can afford a hotel.

She does not want company.

+1. MIL is likely aware that you are staying only to reduce your bottom line. No one likes being expected to run a hotel in their own home. If your MIL came to visit and harped on the way you like to live in your own home, you’d be ticked, too.

Go pay for a hotel room. You sound like a lousy guest.

[Anonymous]

What is your husband telling you when you bring this up? This is batsh*t.

[Anonymous]

Grow a spine and steamroll your cheapskate DH.

I would have checked into a hotel after one day and told DH to deal with it.

[Anonymous]

Omg you're an adult. Your husband doesn't control what you can and can't do. Go rent a car and get a hotel room.

[Anonymous]

I'd be checked in to a hotel by now.

[Anonymous]

Consensus! Get out of there OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why the F are you still there? I would have been in a hotel yesterday. No matter what it cost.

Yup

[Anonymous]

I'd uber to the library or a coffee shop at least during the day. Preferably the library - they likely have private rooms.

Is this in the middle of nowhere? Even a small town usually has some level of downtown or at least a library.

this sounds really intolerable. VRBO or Air BnB and see if there's someplace cheaper? Doesn't get around the driving problem, though.

[Anonymous]

Go to a coworking space (like WeWork). $50/day or less.

[Anonymous]

Why is MIL against the upcoming marriage? Is the groom from another race or religion?

[Anonymous]

Why not Uber to the gym?

[Anonymous]

I would research the actual guest policy and take myself over to the office or whatever to ask about guest use of facilities. Pay for it yourself if it requires a fee.

I find it so difficult to believe that you can't walk, can't use a common area.

Sleeping - if the sofa bed is cooler you sleep there. End of story.

Can you uber to a coffee shop near a park for the day?