Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I seem to have a track record of attracting men who are not career driven. They are well educated, may have multiple degrees, are cultured and worldly but they do not care about working and aren’t driven to succeed, socially or professionally.
I initially am attracted to them due to their intelligence and knowledge but quickly become bored by their lack of direction and goals and ambition.
Money is a factor, but I’m not necessarily looking for extremely rich guys, just men who are driven and know where they are going and can build a reasonably comfortable life together.
I don’t know what I’m doing to signal I am a candidate for the less driven guys and the ambitious driven ones do not approach me. Please help!
OP, the main factor attracting successful men is beauty. It applies to women of all ages. You said you are slim, which is commendable. But are you actually magazine cover looking, and stylishly slim (e.g. long neck, long nice legs, small feet and aristocratic fingers, classic pretty face)? Would you look amazing on his elbow in evening dress?
I'm telling this because my problem is just the opposite: I prefer interesting, artsy men. I'm wealthy and very good looking. If I like men first, and they match me back - that would be the "interesting" guy type I want to date
But the guys who like ME first are all sorts of executives: tech entrepreneurs, high level government officials, law partners, SVPs of large companies making at least half a million a year. I was married to this type and divorced, have no interest in them at all, as I just want to enjoy the world. These men have a very standard idea how their GF should look and behave, and somehow I fit the bill. But they also place me in strict frame of how I should live my life with him, e.g. basically blending into his lifestyle, his friends, everything on his terms and his schedule etc.
Is this really what you want?