Do you sext?

[Anonymous]

No, with my luck it wouldn’t go to my spouse.

[Anonymous]

NO

Never EVER do anything that can be used against you in a divorce. Keep that nastiness private !

Two points:

1) News Flash! News Flash! - Not everyone on DCUM is unhappy married and worried about divorce. Many of us are living the dating life.

2) What nastiness are you referring to in your post? Most married people are having sex, so I am not sure how any sexting between a DH and DW could be used in divorce proceedings. Now, sexting between
a married person and their AP is a different story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NO

Never EVER do anything that can be used against you in a divorce. Keep that nastiness private !

How would sending nude pics to your husband be used against you in a divorce?

[Anonymous]

No, with my luck it wouldn’t go to my spouse

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This sounds like the start of a great Penthouse Forum post: I meant to send some spicy pics to my husband, but they went to his handsome best friend instead. You will not believe what happened next....

[Anonymous]

Yes. We have an awesome sex life. I’d encourage it to anyone who finds yourself in a flailing relationship. Divorce is more embarrassing than if somehow anyone found out you were being sexual with your spouse.

[Anonymous]

no

[Anonymous]

Yes, I do, but messages only, no photos. Dating.

[Anonymous]

DH, no. AP, yes.

[Anonymous]

No, when I was in my early 20s a guy I was dating took nude photos of me and I was absolutely horrified at what I looked like. Luckily this was in the digital camera age and I saw the pics on my camera and made him delete them right away, so they aren’t floating around out there in the cloud or whatever. and then I cried. LOL. And now that’s a core memory and there will be no more sexting or nudes ever from me. Fortunately my husband doesn’t mind and would never ask for nudes anyway.

[Anonymous]

DH, no. AP, yes.

A potential gold mine for your DH's divorce attorney or your AP's DW's attorney.

Sexting between single people - no one's business. Sexting between married people and their APs - $$$$$$ for the family law practice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have, with a previous boyfriend and when that relationship failed, my ex sent it along to mutual contacts. It was really traumatic.

I told my current boyfriend about it and why I will never do it again, and he is really put out that I did it with someone else but not him. Like he pesters me several times a week.

I’m thinking I might be done with men.

But if you have never done it, my advice is to not start.

This guy is trash! And your ex is exactly why I won't do it. I'm sorry you had to go through that

[Anonymous]

Yep. Still have nude pics of the last three gfs I had before marrying my wife too. I use them all to choke the chicken.

[Anonymous]

We do it all the time. I have a folder of nearly 1,000 photos she's sent me, and those are only the favorites that I saved. I've sent her plenty as well and our texting gets very explicit at times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

DH, no. AP, yes.

A potential gold mine for your DH's divorce attorney or your AP's DW's attorney.

Sexting between single people - no one's business. Sexting between married people and their APs - $$$$$$ for the family law practice.

$$$$$$$ with limited results outside of blackmailing into a better settlement. You need actual proof of two-person sex (like a video of you both together), plus hours of depositions to prove adultery in court (that’s $$$$$$ to your lawyer, plus $$$$$ to your spouse’s lawyer). Plus more depositions and evidence and $$$$$ to defend the pictured spouse’s counter claim of cruelty that drove him or her to take the pictures. Not pictures of his ding dong and different pictures of her hoo ha with corresponding “that’s so hot” texts in between.

And even if you prove it, and the judge cares, it’s only helpful for 2) getting divorced immediately (which you likely don’t need because you have spent a year in pre-trial crap, and 2) for an adjustment to the division of assets. So now you get 60 percent of the marital assets that are reduced by the six figures that you two spent getting a fault divorce.

You still shouldn’t sext for other reasons, but you can’t just roll up into court and show the judge some pictures, have him/her be like “ok, you get everything!” the way DCUM likes to pretend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

DH, no. AP, yes.

A potential gold mine for your DH's divorce attorney or your AP's DW's attorney.

Sexting between single people - no one's business. Sexting between married people and their APs - $$$$$$ for the family law practice.

It’s how the majority get discovered. Idiots.

Not like they didn’t do it with their spouse too. Not so special, indeed.