Boyfriend making me fat

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:stop ordering the good stuff and stick with salads

She might be hungry and want more than a daily salad

Then eat a protein bar before going out

Or, you know, some actually healthful food. Not some chemical monstrosity cooked up in a food lab.

[Anonymous]

My now husband was like this when we were dating; 15 years later he never wants to go out, so I say enjoy it while it lasts!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Eat only half your portion.

+1. And no alcohol.

And if you don’t want to go out to eat tell him you already have plans. Why are you giving up your hobbies (cooking, staying thin) to hang out under some man every single day? I’m sure he’s a nice guy but it’s important to have a life of your own.

Why no alcohol? She can drink moderately and eat moderately and be perfectly fit and healthy. This all or nothing stuff makes no sense to me.

Less alcohol when you’re eating out*. Eating out and having rich fattening meals every single day doesn’t leave much leeway for a drinking habit too.

[Anonymous]

Order something healthy.

Don’t eat every meal together.

Get a vote in what you do/where you go.

Your title is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

I mean, he's your boyfriend. Can't you just say "going out all the time is making me fat"? Let's cook X nights per week. Or also, you can do a better job ordering and/or choosing which restaurants you go to. You can also do it for your budget.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A guy who refuses to NOT eat out all the time won't be a great husband/father. He's not worried about his health or saving money. Occasionally is fine, but not constantly. And the fact that he doesn't care what YOU want to do is also a red flag.

Well he is paying for it all. So maybe she is getting the more expensive items on the menu as a test?

[Anonymous]

Just tell him. So easy. I need to eat at home!! I miss cooking!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been single for a long time waiting on someone who I truly click with. I met my boyfriend several months ago and everything has been wonderful, except he likes to go out ALL THE TIME. I like having someone to go out with and his company is enjoyable. But he wants to go out to eat every day! It’s causing me to gain weight and I miss cooking. How do I bring this up gently?

Dump him!

He obviously is the cause of your problems.

Plenty of other men out there right?

[Anonymous]

Blaming your boyfriend for being fat

Only in the good ol USA

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Eat only half your portion.

this. I mostly eat half portion when we go out.

But, when DH and I started dating in SF, we went out all the time. I gained weight. But, I called it my "fat and happy" period. I was really, skinny, though.

We did stop going out so much eventually. It was just the first several months of dating that we went out all the time.

+1. Same here.

I met my husband when I was 26 and my roommate subs I literally had nothing in our fridge or cabinets. I was really thin.

I had a cheeseburger and milkshake on the second date . Heaven. We both were very into fitness and I ran my first marathon that year so was able to eat whatever I wanted while training so hard. It eventually leveled out and it was just a weekend dinner out/drinking with friends but pure health Sunday-Thursday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:stop ordering the good stuff and stick with salads

She might be hungry and want more than a daily salad

Well, then, she's likely to gain weight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been single for a long time waiting on someone who I truly click with. I met my boyfriend several months ago and everything has been wonderful, except he likes to go out ALL THE TIME. I like having someone to go out with and his company is enjoyable. But he wants to go out to eat every day! It’s causing me to gain weight and I miss cooking. How do I bring this up gently?

Why does this sound like it was ripped from some old Ann Landers column?

"Wake up and smell the coffee!!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why can't you be honest?
Suggest a different activity not food related. He should be flexible here

Excellent advice here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Blaming your boyfriend for being fat

Only in the good ol USA

Well you must agree: her weight gain is all his fault.

[Anonymous]

What sort of restaurants are you going to and what is he ordering? Would you say he is an adventurous eater? If he is just going out to have a full array of fried foods, that is different. Many women would love to have your problem- a lot of men aren’t very social and hate going out. If he is something of a foodie I would just make adjustments with your day’s calories. Perhaps you are a healthful but not inventive or skilled cook?